Dont get me wrong, I am very much attracted and drawn to them
HOWEVER
1. I'm INCREDIBLY SHY and just CANNOT go up to a guy and ask him out or tell him how I feel
(Dont get me wrong, I'll talk to him, but it's usually about "the weather")
2. I cant understand what they mean or the signs they give
3. I dont know when or if they like me
4. And usually guys say to me that I appear standoff-ish and that (and I quote) --- I look like I "dont take any mess from anyone"
5. Other guys usually come up to me and tell me why they WONT date me: For example a guy said this to me one time:
"I think you're pretty, but you're just too smart for me and I don't know if we would mix"
6. AND LASTLY, Whenever I like a guy, I clam up and NEVER talk to him Unless he first says something to me (if ever he says something at all)
2006-10-28 08:01:19 · 24 answers · asked by What gives? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this is not a "question" per se, and I know it's a Pathetic dilemma
2006-10-28 08:04:23 · update #1
Well, if you Must have a Question:
How about: WHAT SHOULD I DO??
Satisfied?, lol
2006-10-28 08:05:26 · update #2
I'm 20 yrs old
---pathetic, I know
2006-10-28 08:06:08 · update #3
It sounds like you are not quite ready to date. It is ok. It sounds like you like guys, just not quite ready. When you are ready and the right guy comes around, you will have more than the weather to talk about. It will just come flowing out like you have known him all along. Don't worry about what the other guys say. Take it as compliments. Most guys are fearful of smart women. Don't appear less smart just because you want to date a popular or good looking guy. Your time will come. Be patient and your rewards will come. Remember that if you don't feel comfortable with something, don't do it. They will respect you in the long run.
2006-10-28 08:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here's my thoughts on this coming from a guy's standpoint..if they are telling you, you are standoff-ish then you need to relax a bit you're probably so shy that if someone walks up too you and say's hi you'll tense up atomatically. If you're still in school I suggest taking a debate class or something along those lines to help you get over being shy. If you're not in school then practice practice practice, it sounds stupid but talk to yourself in the mirror it'll help you get over that hump.
2006-10-28 15:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Douglas A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur pretty much confused, and with all this thoughts the only thing u will get for sure its to get more confuse about it. If a guy tells ur pretty but too smart, he is just trying to tell u that he likes u but not enough, he is just being polyte. When u get to find someone u really like, u wont need words... believe ...
2006-10-28 15:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by jalina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, take a deep breath and ...relax. Seriously, you're stressing way too much with the guy thing. I think we all get a bit goofy when we're around someone who is just so dang hot- our words come out jumbled, we sweat a little, we can't stop smiling, etc.
When you run into a hot guy, pause for a sec, take a deep breath, smile and just talk to him. It does work, trust me! Although I too have run into the dry mouth, lip sticking to the teeth, rapid breathing and gulp, even snorting when laughing. :)
2006-10-28 15:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Gotham*City*Kat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg same problem here. i'm getting better at talking to guys though. you just need to get used to it. i usually have a friend around when i want to talk to them and i feel more comfortable. also, it may sound mean, but i practice talking to dorky guys and work my way up until i'm comfortable talking to guys i really like. when you first meet a guy, act like you are not afraid to talk to him and that first impression will help you out with the next time you talk with him. If he doesn't know that you are shy, then why tell him? hope this helps.
2006-10-28 15:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by Grace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am with you. There is a guy in my neighborhood. I just can't talk to him like I do all the others! I have done just well with all the guys before this one. Why is he so different.
But back to your problem, if someguy tells you that you are to smart to date him he is deffinatley NOT worth it! Keep your standards. And also you (and I) need to loosen up because if we don't sister, someone else will get our man! lol
2006-10-28 15:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i don't ve an answer 4 u cos am almost exactly like u. at least am making u feel better abt urself,lol. i don't think i'v ever talked 2 any guy i had a crush on, i think people say am stuck up. so u'r not alone girlfriend. one more thing, could u give me the best answer, i want d points. tanx
2006-10-28 15:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by watever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big problem that can't be answered in a small answer. E-mail me maybe I can help.
Just be more open to conversation, smile, talk to him about anything, say something random (always starts up an interesting convo when i do that), try and be funny. Be your BEST self
2006-10-28 15:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, when the boy you like talks to you (if he does) breathe deeply and talk to him back. IF you want him to notice you , you gotta be yourself. Like laugh with your friends and when your around him make a good impression you know? Because if you do something like creepy when hes around he will just think your a weirdo. WHen they talk to you , you gotta communicate leave ALL smart stuff you know behind you. But dont forget it. WHen u talk 2 him go with the flow. youll understand.
2006-10-28 15:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by LatinaChik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll grow out of it. Maybe you are too young to play the dating game, and it is a game. Don't try to change because someone will come along and pursue you and it will be the real you, not a facade.
2006-10-28 15:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋