For some reason my self-esteem has gotten extremly low....?

Question

Well I'm a highschool student, female and the last time my self- esteem was low was in 6th grade now all of a suden I dont think I'm as prett as I used to. I think its because not many boys are interested in me as they used to. I know that sounds pathetic but its true. I just need some advise and someone to smpathize(?) with, thanks.

Answer 1

My husband never had a girlfriend and his brother always had the girls hanging all over him. Now, his brother is lonely, still dating at age 35 while my husband met Mrs. Right (me). lol He used to feel like you. But the very things he didn't like about his appearance are the very things I liked about his looks. You will find a great guy who will love you for the beautiful person that you are!

Answer 2

You are SO not alone. I'm assuming you're between ages 14 and 16. I'd say an extremely small fraction of teens that age do NOT have a really rough time. Many of them will become depressed. It's unfortunately a very difficult time in almost everyone's life. So while everyone else looks really happy, just remember...they're going through it too, and they all have their own insecurities, I promise you!!! No matter how confident they act, they all have self-doubt and are striving to fit in and be liked and loved. Just make sure that you're doing things you love to do, and always acknowledge yourself for stuff you're good at. Remember that people love you, especially your parents, no matter how controlling you may think they are or how they "want to hold you back." That's they're way of showing they love you and wanting you to be alright. As for the boys not being interested, don't worry about it! Nothing during your teen years is permanent. Things will change dramatically and quickly and you should try to avoid thinking that you're somehow not good enough or not pretty enough for guys to like you. That is simply not the case :)

Answer 3

If you are judging how you look because some guys might not be into you, then you are searching for validation from the wrong source. Take a look in the mirror and instead of picking apart the things you dont really care for, look at the great things that you do like and enhance them. Focus on your inner beauty as well. Be a nice, respectful person to others and the right guy will come along because you feel good inside and out. This won't happen overnight but changing your beliefs about yourself can happen with some practice. Start focusing on what you like instead of what you don't.

Answer 4

Its definitely really cool that you can openly admit this to yourself. Low self esteem is the most dangerous thing in the world in my eyes. And i personally, have been in your shoes. Currently I'm a junior but I noticed that it started with me a couple of years ago, at the end of middle school to when I began high school. It seems like a competitive world out there, and sometimes the more guys and the better guys you can get, it somehow is a competition wtih the other girls to prove that you are better than them, right?

Try this: (it started for me with myspace, lol)But wear something really nice.(that you KNOW looks amazing on you) and do you make up totally awesome as if you were going out. get all nice and pretty and take pictures of yourself. go crazy. dont be afraid to get into the hundreds. Then upload them and delete and edit all you want. then when you are done just save the best ones. on days when you feel low or down go into the folder and trust me, you'll be thinking dammmn im gorgeous...those guys are fuked up not to be into me!! lol,, im pretty sure nothing is wrong with u(since realizing u have low self esteem is pretty intelligent of u) but something is wrong with the gys u are around.

well thats just one piece of perk me up advice. lol, if that doesnt work i could help u out with a few more iv foudn over the months. ;)

Answer 5

Don't measure yourself like that. Look the best you can and hit the books and strive for the best grades you can get. It is not the end of the world. Try a new simple and easy to keep look. A new hair cut always helps. Smile a lot too. Don't look down in the dumps no matter how you feel inside...it is a a quick turn off. Guys can't handle anything let alone that.

Answer 6

It looks to me like you self-esteem depend in the opinions and attention that people might give to you.
That is not nice because no one can determine how good , pretty and cool you can be just because they might be interested in you or not.
You probably don't realize that at your age there are many things and ways to use the time, so guys are busy and that doesn't mean that you are not pretty. is just that each person has different interest in life besides to spend their time telling you cute words,and if you are worry in people that might approach to you just to give you compliments, well you are wrong.
think positive if you want people gives you attention and time you must invest your time in doing so first.
if you want to be the center of attention in you school the answer is simple, take personality classes, get involve in activities study more endure your exercises routines cultivate diplomatic relationships(and do not be the slave of nobody) just be assertive.
and you will see in three months how everything will change in your life.
so try it and if works for you let me know.

Answer 7

Hey, you're going to go through many highs and lows in your life. When in doubt, like now, just give it some time and you'll feel better about yourself later. Just don't take magazines or models as a standard for beauty. This is pure commerical.
On the other hand, if you don't feel appreciated, that means that you're with the wrong people/friends. In that case, get new ones that can appreciate your qualities and like you for who you are.
Don't put too much pressure on your self, life is a long journey.

Answer 8

Don't let attention from boys... or from anyone for that matter define who you are.

Think of the things about you that are beautiful. Are you generous? Kind? Thoughtful? Outgoing? Have a great sense of humour? Do you have great knees? Is your pinky finger cute?

I hate my pointy little vampire pinky toe, but I love the freckle on the inside of my left arm. I may not have the best tummy, but the colour of my eyes is great. My skin might be dry, but my hair is fantastic. My tush may be bigger than I'd like but I sing like an angel. Maybe I'm a little shy, but I keep my fingernails pretty.

And so I'm a confident happy woman.

Check out the film at: http://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com/

It was a real eye opener for me when I first saw it.

Take care!

Answer 9

don't let boys effect your self-esteem! You will be a very unhappy person the rest of your life if you do!! Think about all the other good stuff you have going for you...good grades, talent, friends...? Believe me I found out the hard way! If your in high school your still young enough to change your way of thinking!

Answer 10

have you dated any of the guys that used to be interested in you? think about it, when u like a guy, but he doesnt like u, u eventually get over him, even though its awesome when a bunch of guys like u, they're eventually going to move on, but trust me, more will come. give it a couple weeks, maybe months, and a group of guys will be interested in u, it happens to everyone. since these guys are probably all over someone else, ur wondering if ur pretty enough for them or not , which u R, its just a weird, short time period where no one (that u at least know about) has a crush on u. think about it, u dont have crushes on guys every moment of ur life, and they dont have crushes on girls every moment of their lives. also, u might be stressed with school work which could also make u stress about ur looks or w/e, but this is probably just a low which wont last very long at all
hope everything gets better (it will)

Answer 11

Trust me...almost everyone at your age goes through a stage of self-doubt...thinking you're not good enough...feeling as though you are going through an "ugly duckling" stage. I'm 43 years old and can remember it well when I was in high school. You are just beginning to grow into a beautiful young woman. Find your good points...are you a good friend, a good student, are you compassionate, do you have pretty eyes, pretty hair, etc. You can find lots of good and positive things about yourself. Be confident in who you are and others will see it too :)