As a Daddy's girl myself, I can well understand how I picky little girls can be. Luckily, I am the first woman he has had around his daughter since her mother died at the age of two. This is new, uncharted territory for me. I would appreciate any and all advice! She is VERY shy.
2006-10-28 07:53:51 · 13 answers · asked by Sincerely84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just go slow and be sincere
2006-10-28 07:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say this it is not what u say but how interested u appear to here... u show her that it aint only about her daddy.. see my boyfriend has an 11 yr old daughter and she really did the shy thing until i made her feel comfortable... she came over my house with her daddy and i was cooking and listening to music, dancing and i told her ur like my own daughter dont be shy im her for u.. and one thing led 2 the next and we was laughing, and dancing having a good time. i showed that i still had a kid in me.. never try and be her mom that will come later.. show her u just want to be friends
2006-10-28 15:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by cubanpura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you're willing to make an effort with this little girl. Take it slow, and let HER set the pace.
If it's OK with Dad, you might start by asking her to do you a big favor and come shopping with you to help you pick out a dress (for yourself)...or a gift for someone.. anything that will let her know you value her and her opinion.
Remember it's uncharted territory for her too :-)
All the very best to you. With someone as caring as you are, you all have a bright future, methinks :-)
2006-10-28 15:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by belmyst 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a toughie. you want her to like you and I am sure he wants her to like you, but if you get married she needs to know that you have authority. maybe go shopping, dinner and a movie, just the two of you. Talk about school and boys. try and do stuff with just the two of you...
OHH! Brainstorm. since she is she, why not bring a movie pizza and girly games to her house and have a sleep over. Kick you boyfriend out for the night. Tell him to come back after midnight or one. Have her tell you exactly how she feels about you dating her dad. but I would start slow.
2006-10-28 15:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by s_ringler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going places together as a threesome is the first step, include her in things you would normally do by yourself (ex... short walks) not all the time but a few times and just talk she dosnt have to talk back and keep conversation light enough and listen when she does talk dont just dismiss it as a 9 yr olds babble. trust me you learn more by listening than talking! always end conversations with hope we can do this again.... maybe one day we can do something that interest you.... (get the picture???)
2006-10-28 15:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be a friend. let her know you around if she wants someone to talk to. when shes doing homework or doing something take an interest. But dont try to push things take things slow so will open up to you when she feels able to. and make sure that she knows your not going to take her dad away from her.
2006-10-28 15:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not try to be a parent to her...but include her in things..ask you BF if just you and her can do something alone for a short time, and take it from there. Remember though, you cannot form a relationship with her by yourself...it depends on her too, I wish you well :)
2006-10-28 15:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by eastcoastdebra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to be her mom, but be her friend and care about her. Show her how much you care about her dad and that you're not trying to take him away from her but that you want to share him with her. Make sure that when you do things together you involve her too and do things specifically for her too.
2006-10-28 14:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Silly ol Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force yourself on her. Take your time. Pick up one or two of her interests and go from there. If she's reluctant, give her space and let her know that you want to be friends.
2006-10-28 14:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Laura M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww! well u could first start by taking ehr roller skating or somethign out of the ordinary! shopping maybe? all girls like that!!
2006-10-28 15:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by preppypageantgirl14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just appreciate her as a human being. If you do, bonding will probably happen.
2006-10-28 14:57:22 · answer #11 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋