I have two things that concern me. Number one is my Maid of Honor wants to throw me the "traditional" bachelorette party. Strippers, games, the whole nine yards. I told her I don't want strippers, but she's being stubborn. "You HAVE to have strippers, or it's not a party," she says. The best man is just as stubborn. My fiance decided a loooong time before we even met that he didn't want strippers at his bachelor party. How should we handle this? I told him maybe we should choose other people to me MOH and BM, but that might be a little too harsh. What do you all think is the best course of action?
2006-10-28 07:48:31 · 13 answers · asked by viva_bamm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sit them down. Tell them they are hurting you by not respecting your wishes. If they want to see naked men and women, I'm sure there are topless and bottomless bars around where you live. Tell them to go there. If they keep pushing for, as you called it, "tradition," tell them there are other people who could be MOH and BM. You chose them for a reason. Give them ONE MORE CHANCE.....TOGETHER.
2006-10-28 09:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by bride_to_be 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can almost guarantee that there will be strippers at your fiance's party, unless your fiance has found a way to really lay down the law.
Talk to your MOH, let her know that you'd really rather not have a party at all if she wants strippers. Tell her if she wants to hire some for her own entertainment, fine, but you won't be there.
If/when strippers show up at your party, take him aside. Tell him that you're not entirely comfortable with the whole naked dude thing. Most male strippers are surprisingly nice guys (I know a few), and whoever's there will almost certainly have as much respect for you as he can, considering he'll be wearing a thong.
2006-10-28 07:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by Brian L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, its your wedding and that means your choices! So, if you dont want strippers then you don't have them. Tell your MOH that if she has strippers then you will leave the party, or not even come. Thats what i told my MOH when she told me she was having strippers. Your fiance needs to tell his BM that too. If they are really your friends then they will respect what you want. It's your bachleorette party, not hers.
2006-10-28 08:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Hydimyangel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-01 03:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elope and spend all the money that was going to be spent on your wedding on a fabulous honeymoon and/or a down payment on a house (that would be my solution), or...........
Tell your self-centered MOH that you chose her because you THOUGHT she was your friend, maybe even your BEST friend, and that disrespecting your wishes is certainly not the kind of behavior one would expect from a friend on such an important occasion. Tell her that you feel badly about it, but she has left you no choice, that you are choosing another friend for this special position. Have your fiance' tell the jerk he chose as his BM the same thing. Better yet, tell them together, at the same time - and stick to it. This is YOUR day - not theirs - and if they are hellbent on going against your wishes, I don't see that they deserve to be in such positions of importance in your wedding party.
Please have some backbone here or you will regret it.
2006-10-28 08:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by happy heathen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they don't cooperate I'd say you should pick new MOH and BM. There is no reason that you should go against what you had originally planned because of them. Besides, that is so disgusting that they want strippers!
2006-10-28 07:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Just-Another-Sombody 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sit the both of them down, and tell them in a calm peaceful way, that you and your fiancee do not like the stripper idea, and You can give us a party but if there are strippers there we will walk out, and you will not be my maid of honor, Tell her exactly that, and if she does not like that, Well tough, its your wedding and your party and find another brides maid or matron of honor, and have your finacee tell his buddy the same thing, If they are your true friends they will understand
2006-10-28 08:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm was having the same problem...i sat her down and told her that i was not comfortable with the strippers ect... she was very understanding but things worked out we had a Small get together and it was nice good luck and congrats
2006-10-28 07:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hire strippers of both genders and hodl a mutial bachorlorette bacholer party where you and your husband can monitor the strippyness of the strippers and decide whats too strippy.
2006-10-28 07:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Apache Rose Peacock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them there won't be a bachelor or bachelorette party at all....you don't want one. If she won't listen to you and respect your wishes, then why should she remain your MOH? Honestly, it's about the bride and groom and what THEY want.
2006-10-28 08:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋