Hi girls I was wondering if you could help me with my confidence. I have always been shy when it comes to talking to girls I can do it but I lack confidence. I am 24 years old and I have not been on a first date yet. I seem to be alright with the girls I am not attracted to and become friends with them. But when it comes to girls I have a crush on or am in love with I just find it very hard to talk to them please help.
2006-10-28 07:42:23 · 16 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're putting these girls at such a high level and it's giving you stage fright. they are just people, and if you smile and are friendly, they will appreciate it. once you can get some conversation going, it won't seem so scary. just start by saying "what's up" or "what are your plans/what did you do on weekend"? mention a movie you saw and ask if she saw it/liked it. before you know it, you'll be talking and it will feel less overwhelming.
2006-10-28 07:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by soren 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A quick scan of your profile indicates that you are very caring and considerate. I think you are apprehensive about relationships that matter because you know it will be life changing for you because, I suspect, you are going to expect a woman to treat you with the same kind of consideration and affection that I am sure you would give to them. This may not be the case. If you are inexperienced with women, maybe you should just wade in there and get dates with women you like but are not in love with. Can I just say, how can you be in love with them if you haven't 1. Told them you love them and had their reply and 2. Been to bed with them. Sorry to be so crude but it does matter - you may not be compatible at all. You sound like you need to build up some self confidence. Women want the same as you - to be with someone they respect, get on with, someone that makes them laugh, someone they want to get into bed with. Your heart will be banging but go on - ask them out, see what happens. If they so 'no', so what? It's their loss because you know you are a very decent and loving person. You will find the right person some day and it will be fantastic. Obviously I am not a woman but I was like you and I speak from experience.
2006-10-28 07:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find a common interest right away. Start asking questions like what do they do for fun, do they have a hobbies, have they seen any good movies lately, Do they have any animals? Anything to get you started. Then you will find a common interest and the conversation can go from there> DON'T TRY TO HARD. Have fun. You will find someone you will click with. Hope this helps.
2006-10-28 07:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by iwishiwasrich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humor goes a long way even when words cannot- so make her laugh. Say something off the wall and quirky. If you can get her to really laugh then the rest of the conversation should be muy easy since the ice will have been broken. Good luck!
2006-10-28 07:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Gotham*City*Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be miserably shy. I had my reasons. I have since decided that if the person doesn't like me, then it wasn't meant to be. I am a good person, have a good personality, I have charm, and I like to smile. I also have flaws that people eventually will find out as they get to know me. If they don't like them, or accept them, there will be someone out there who will. Don't sweat the small stuff or you will miss out. Just think of everyone as a friend in the beginning, that way, if it progresses into something more, it will be a nice surprise. Enjoy getting to know them.
2006-10-28 07:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heyyyyyyy
you have kinda of the same problem as me!
All you gott too do is be yourself around girls and im sure you will get along fine
When your inlove you will instintly know if shes the 1 because you will just click like that ..
but if not just be yourself with her again and talk to her like your mates wif her xx
Hope this helps xx
Chloe x
2006-10-28 07:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying going out with some friends who are more confident and let them show you how and give you tips.
You don't have to have any lines or any tricks really, just start with saying 'hi'.
2006-10-28 07:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just got to calm down and remember to breathe. As for girls you like and are attracted to, try to just think of them as another female friend, and maybe you'll be more confident.
2006-10-28 07:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so maybe you hear this alot but you just have to be yourself, becase if a girl really likes you back the chances are that she feels the smae way, i know i have done in the past! maybe start of being alone with her for a very short length of time, then gradually build it up, until you fell confy around her, the go for it and ask somone you like out! you have nothing to loose!
2006-10-28 08:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by rach h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to understand that girls r just the same as anyone ... u can hav a convo about anything and everything
i would suggest that u try speed dating ... u dont have to go home with anyone or anything like that ... but its a fab way of learning to chat to people and thinking on your feet when it comes to conversation ... take a mate with u ... have a few drinks ... and have a laugh
2006-10-28 07:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by tweetybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋