I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 6 months and we're getting quite serious now. However, I've never told her about a big part of my life - I love porn! By porn, I mean soft porn - no hard stuff: playboy, lads mags, page 3 girls, topless etc, both in magazines and nowadays on the internet as well, also some videos/DVDs (only girls, stripping etc). I think it's harmless fun - just a guy thing: I just love looking at women. I don't think it detracts from my desire or love for my girlfriend - quite the opposite effect, in fact. It makes me horny and want her even more. But what do the women here think? How would you react if you found out that your boyfriend/husband enjoyed this sort of thing?
2006-10-28 07:37:04 · 25 answers · asked by superscorer2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, I think you should be embarrassed and even better you should STOP! You say it's just a "guy" thing but the fact is that women don't like their men looking at or desiring other women - that's a girl thing! Also it's not harmless - evidence shows that porn doesn't help people's relationships. How can a real person compete with those "perfect", plastic-surgeried, air-brushed images? And if you're thinking of those porn pictures when you're making love, how can that help your relationship. Also, the soft porn industry is just the tip of the iceberg. It's part of a huge industry that enslaves women, traffics young girls etc. So give it up and concentrate all your sexual energies and fantasies on your girlfriend. You'll be amazed how it will energise your relationship
2006-10-30 07:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by anglo 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
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2016-07-17 20:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As women, if we see the man we love looking at other women desirably, by nature we're going to be somewhat jealous and are going to feel astranged. But, I know my boyfriend used to watch porn before we started dating two years ago. He said he doesn't look at it anymore, If I found out he was still looking at it, I wouldn't be the happiest person in the world, but I wouldn't go as far as to leave him. Watching other people is exciting to some people, it can give people new ideas and blah blah. If you're intimate with her, try suggesting watching an erotic video together, so she can see that you want to share the exciting experience with her.
You might find out, she might like porn just as much as you. Depends on the girl.
good luck.
2006-10-28 07:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by sheepeshlysheepy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem with my husband looking at porn. He looks at it on the computer all the time while I'm at work and we have a healthy sex life. We watch porn together on TV and have bought toys together on line. When it starts interfering with your love life and or work ect... than there is a problem. There are women who think "Well if he is seeing me, I should be enough for him, he shouldn't want to look at other women." I simply don't agree. Ask you'r girl some night when the mood is right if she wants to watch one of your DVD's with you. You may be pleasantly surprised by her reaction.
2006-10-28 07:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, at the age I'm at now, I can safely say I'd be fine with it and respect it. 2 years ago, I'd be like, "um.... ok...." and my mind would think I'm not good enough for him. Takes some growing up to accept a partner's attraction to the opposite sex further beyond just you. So, it could go either way with you. She may accept it and it won't be a whole nasty issue, or she could throw a fit about it and it would be a load of crappy drama. Better to be honest about it though so she knows sooner than later.
2006-10-28 07:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's cool. Alot of women are into porn too. As long is you're not obsessive about it she might like it too. There's only one way to find out. Casually bring it up and she what she thinks. That way you are playing it safe. If she's into it too you might just have the best time of your life!
2006-10-28 07:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by Silly ol Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello...as for me...i dont want any man of mine looking at other woman...I want to turn him on all by myself..i dont him to be into a porn site and coming to bed all turned on by other women...would it bother u at all if it was reversed??I think it is just me and the way i am...sorry i disagree with u...if I found out I would be very hurt and the trust just wouldnt be there....*star*
2006-10-28 07:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by Starbright 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's okay.
Personally, though it might bother me a little, it's normal and it is a guy thing. As long as it's not addiction or something freaky like that.
You don't have to tell her about this 'part of your life'. I don't think she'd be very comfortable listening to you explain something we all know about.
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If it's a habit or addiction, then you should tell her.
2006-10-28 07:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by Maya 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a extremely enormous % of ladies are fairly insecure, particularly whilst it comprises porn...the project isn't that he wasn't up front together with his decision of entertainment, yet that his staring at it "makes her sense like she's no longer adequate" or that he needs women whose bodies appear like porn stars, etc... i think of porn is a non-issue, till he'd particularly watch it than be with me...
2016-11-26 01:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her about the porn thing, she may be very understanding. Me personally I likd porn soft and hardcore. If it was my bf, I'd watch it with him. As long as he doesn't act on his porn obsession with someone else.
2006-10-28 07:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by toya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋