My mother came out last year and went to live with a horrible weird fat woman. She is now moving to France with her for good. She doesn't talk to me ever or come to see me. Every time she rings she blames me for everything and we end up having a massive fight. I don't particularly want to speak to her any more because she's turned into a proper cow. Should I ditch her?
2006-10-28 07:31:19 · 15 answers · asked by Char Char Gabor 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honestly, any parent that blames their child for the way their life turned out does not deserve that childs love or respect. Your mother made her decisions in life and as long as you did not reject her simply for admitting she is a lesbian (which, I am guessing you didn't as you still talk to her) you coudn't have done anything to hurt her, and certainly can't be to blame for anything in her life.
I don't really know what you should do, as she is your mother. But I will tell you that I have not spoken to my father in 3 years and hope only to hear about him when he dies. Many people will think that is awful of me, but I know that I am a much calmer happier person since I ended by relationship with him. Don't stay around someone toxic just because they are family, you are not obligated to do anything that makes you feel unhappy, upset or depressed. She's your mother, she should be trying to work things out, it's not your responsibility.
2006-10-28 07:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by ditch her, because it sounds like she has already ditched you, physically and emotionally. So if you want nothing to do with her and she calls you tell her HOW YOU FEEL, and that you are not interested in talking to her because of it always ending unpleasantly. And then, get this part, do not continue the conversation! Yeah, that's right, hang up before it has a chance to escalate to unpleasantness. Then, just get on with your life and don't dwell on the mother issue. But remember, she is your mother, that'll will always be there, and just remember that maybe some day, things will change and maybe you will want a relationship with her. Don't burn your bridges.
2006-10-28 07:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by daddius42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you evn consider "ditching" your mother, she's your mother. you expect her to give you unconditoional love, well she deserves the same form you. Do you talk to her? or ever go see her? This is a two way street. Have you met the "weird fat woman"? Maybe she's not so weird. Give them a chance, life is too short.
2006-10-28 07:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by luluhinalbwi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all no matter how you feel about your mother or what she is doing with her life , no matter how much you may feel you want to ditch her , in words you may do that , but the truth is she is always going to be your mother , there may be things you do as well that she is not particularly fond of and although she is angry and doesn't treat you well you are always going to be her daughter. I dont know what she blames you for but maybe she is doing that out of her own guilt , I think you should pray about it and let God handle it and He will in His time , I personally dont agree with same sex relationships , I just pray for them. but please dont ditch your mother , one day she will need someone and you can be there and show her that you love her and no matter what , you will always be her daughter. we are all human and we dont always do things as they should be done but we can try to be the bigger person if we need to ,,,right!so although she may be wrong in her actions , you still need to love her , and remember in the end we always have our family no matter what their or our faults are. will be praying for you
2006-10-28 07:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by lilsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ditch her, after all she is your mother. What I would do is leave her alone for a while until she calms down and gets herself together, then maybe she will stop blaming you for her problems. But remeber its her life and try not to interfere so much.
2006-10-28 07:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by toya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should ditch her she is your mom and she is trying to move on with her live and don't know how she probably feels guilty for the choices she mad and is trying to work them out and don't know where u should be in the choice she mad she will come around hopefully sooner then later give her space for now than slowly bring her back she will always love u and u will always love her. give her time. good luck
2006-10-28 07:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by mom 2boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not talk about your father.Is he living with you? if yes try to talk him about your feeling.Otherwise I think life is very horrible for a single young mother.you may have power to help her instead of ditching her .
2006-10-28 07:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by <<< sky >>> 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is in France and your where? If your mother is happy you should be happy for her. Everyone deserves to be happy. If the fat lady grosses you out grin and bare it. After all she would be there for you if it were you who were gay. I think you need to find out if your happy, if you are then let her be happy.
2006-10-28 07:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u need to tell her you cant be with her anymore with the way she treats you. you need to move on so you can be treated good by someone that cares. just talk to her and say how you feel and what u r gonna do if this keeps happening.
2006-10-28 07:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by jumanjifaceee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have
2006-10-28 07:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by Pauline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋