Iam a good student and have straight A's, but my parent do not let me go to parties or to any places by myself.They want to plan MY future, and they dont let me be independent. What should I do?
2006-10-28 07:25:26 · 30 answers · asked by aleinharo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I think the word you are looking for is "freedom" as "liberty" means specifically "freedom from external control". You do not get freedom from your parents until you are 16-18 years old legally, depending on where you live.
I did not go to parties or anywhere by myself when I was 13 years old. I'm sorry but that seems really young to me. Do your friend's parents want to raise you? Did they tell you they would house you, clothe you and feed you simply because your parents will not let you go out alone? I don't think your proposed situation would ever happen. Like many other teenagers, you will simply have to either 1. Put up with it until you are old enough to support yourself or 2. Become adapt at sneaking out of the house without being caught!
2006-10-28 07:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seen that your parents are raising you on an old fashion way; maybe they had you when they were old. My best advise too you is to speak to your parents tell them how good you are at school and the you would like to spend sometimes with your friends; but don't think about been independent, because you are not grown yet; and if you start doing things that you shouldn't be doing know you will regretted all your life. I don't know if you have her kids talking like "as soon as I reach 18yrs. I will move out of my parents house" To tell you the true this is not a good way of thinking, then responsibilities comes along with it. That 's why a lot of teens end up working in MC Donald's. Try to work it out with your parents and keep the good grades. Ten years from know you will be graduated and have kids and you will expect them to give you straight A's even thought you will be more flexible.
2006-10-28 07:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you are an A student doesn't mean you know everything about how the world works. your parent's want what is best for you, and keeping you from parties or going out by yourself is protecting you from what could ruin your future. if you respect their wishes now you will be earning "freedom" later on. If you decide to live with your friend's family you would be giving up your place in your family and should not expect any money or support from them. You aren't even old enough to work yet. If you are really concerned about your future how are you going to pay for college? are you ready to give up your place in your family because you want your own way? Your place for now is as a child- you don't get make these kinds of decisions until you are an adult at 18! that's only 5 years! then move out and live your own life and make your own decisions. until then don't ruin your life because you aren't getting your way.
2006-10-28 08:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by krazy4kids@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you are a good student and i agree with the others it probably is due in part to having great parents . you should be proud of that , and proud of yourself , but listen you are 13 and although maybe some of your friends parents allow them a little more freedom that is not to say your parents should follow their lead . it sounds like they've done well with you so far and it sounds like you are doing well with yourself and i also feel that some freedom for a 13 year old is good but freedom does come with age and you dont need to over do it , you have plenty of time left in life to go to parties and such but try not to be in such a hurry, life is not passing you by you are just catching up to it , and realizing that there is life out there but i can tell you that one day you will look back and thank your parents for their love and supervision , and you will wish you were 13 again , dont go live with your friends family , let your parents lead you God gave you to them and them to you there was a reason for it , they love you so just love them back keep up the good work in school , try to be patient , your time will come soon enough , and then one day you may be answering this question to your own son or daughter, but dont rush it , remember your parents have already been where your at and that is why they want to protect you . As for your future your going to have a great one . just keep this in mind , to the kind and patient heart comes great fortune.
2006-10-28 08:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by lilsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with them, and ask them if you could please talk to them. Let them know how you feel. Every child should be able to be themselves, and figure out what they want in life to. Your parents probably thinking they are doing the best for you, but not seeing the real you. You need to be able to have some independence, as long as it is good for you, and not trouble. Sounds like you are a very smart child, and as long as you keep your grades you should have some freedom. If you want you can let them read this. If you are the only child, they may be afraid to let you go by yourself. I raised a daughter, but always knew her friends, where she was at, and made sure someone children came to my house to go out with her, and I lived in a small town.She made her best friends that way. I always met the parents of the children that she would spend the night with, but most of the time the children came and stayed at our house. I always had kids at my house, but I knew they were safe there. Sometimes I had to run them home. They should set back and listen to your side, because sometimes parents make mistakes too. You sound like a sweetheart. Good luck, and god bess you.
2006-10-28 08:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 07:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, get real, you better listen to your parents. You may not realize it now, but they are your best friends, and they will be there for you when no one else gives a care. You are to young to be thinking about Independence. Maybe you need to listen to the news. That may tell you why your parents do not let you go places by yourself. It is their job in life to protect you from the bad things out there in the world. And believe me, there is way to much bad out there for a 13 year old BABY.
2006-10-28 08:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by real deal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're probably doing so well because of the fact that they're being so protective. You're too young at the moment. Get through school and get good grades, then when you're older you can go to parties - by that stage you should be wise enough not to accept drugs or stay away from guys who are trying to spike your drink. It's a dangerous world out there.
2006-10-28 07:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by John P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
quit whining and realize that at 13 you will have time for parties and planning your own future when you are old enough to do so. Your Parents only want whats best for you, even if you dont see it. Everyone who has lived with a parent (we all have) knows that sooner or later they can no longer control what you do, say, think or feel, you just have to hang in there until you can. You make good grades? thank your parents for making you study. Feel your friends has it better than you? thank your parents for caring. Feel like you have no freedom? remember to thank your parents for caring enough to know that typical parties involve more than you think (we all know its true) and remember to thank your parents for feeding and clothing you instead of leaving you to feed and clothe yourself. Thank your parents for for loving you enough to give you all you need not what you want. Be 13 instead of 30, be patient it will happen.
2006-10-28 07:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're a good student with straight A's is probably largely to do with your parents influence. So it seems that they have been doing the right things so far... Why loose trust in their judgement now?
Don't let your burgeoning hormones ruin all of the good progress you made to date, and don't start finding flaws in your parents that don't really exist just to find an excuse to do the wrong thing.
Keep the faith and don't be in such a rush to grow up. Life will catch up with you soon enough.
2006-10-28 07:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Al 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋