My bf is talking to me about her boyfriend and her problems. My other bf is talking to me about how she hater her boyfriend and how my other bf is going wrong. Then on top of it all this guy that is her friend knows more details and her past life then I do. It is getting on my nerves! HELP ME!
2006-10-28 07:20:38 · 7 answers · asked by crispy apples 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Assuming "bf" means best friend and not boyfriend. Assuming that you can have more than one "best" (normal english usage allows for 1 "best").
That aside, what difference does it make if friend #2 does not like the guy that friend #1 is going out with? Even more so, why do you care? It isn't a group date. If friend #1 is happy and her boyfriend is treating her well, then it is nobody's business but hers.....not friend #2, not yours. If friend #1 has a compelling need to talk about her relationship problems, then she needs to examine whether the relationship is worth the grief. If not, she needs to move on. You can't tell her that, she needs to figure it out on her own.
Likewise, there are probably things you know about your friend that her boyfriend doesn't know. Why do you feel the need to know every detail of her past? It isn't your business.
Calm down. You are getting upset over things that are beyond your control - and they should be.
2006-10-28 07:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone here would mind their own business and not gossip about each other, you all would get along fine. Don't worry so much about who knows more about whom. Make a policy of only saying nice things about anyone to anyone else, and make it clear that you like all of your friends and want them all to have a good life. Otherwise, mum's the word. Also, don't be receptive to gossip from other people, even your good friends. Sometimes this means staying quiet and neutral, other times it means openly refusing to listen to gossip. Obviously, everybody has their own problems in this imperfect world, populated by imperfect people, and those problems don't get better because other people talk about them. This is the only way you can stay friends, in the long run, with your friends.
2006-10-28 14:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by Marcella S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say tell your bf that she is getting on your nerves, and tell your other bf that you dont care and that you dont mind your other bf dating that guy. That way they know the truth.
2006-10-28 14:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by jordan w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been having a lot of friend drama too... lots of "he said-she said - bull ****!"..... so my advice is sit back and wait for this damn moon to change!! :)
really though, i have come to the conclusion that as emotional as i get about things like this, there is only so much i can do, no matter how much i think about it, so really i have to sit back and let nature take its course. just stay out of the drama, and don't get involved... don't relay messages or repeat something that one of the bf's said... just do your best to be friends to everyone, and keep it to yourself... it will all work out in time.
2006-10-28 14:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny thing...bf usually stands for boyfriend...bff is best friend (forever). but anyways, get them all in the same room & confront the situation with honesty.
2006-10-28 14:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy Kai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get in the middle of it first of all. a friend is there to talk to but when you start talking about eachother it goes downhill from their. try to get them to talk to eachother because if you don't they could end up hating eachother. as for that other guy don't worry about him he isn't part of you and your other two friends.
2006-10-28 14:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by live your life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to leave you alone on this issue cause you are staying neutral
2006-10-28 14:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by The_Truth_Finder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋