A woman tells you that she "needs some time to get her life together" when you ask her out, because she's just come out of a bad relationship and is not yet interested in jumping into a new one.
A month later she asks you to come to a meeting out of State (2 nights) and tells you the reason is because she wants to see you because she likes you. She still says she is happy being single and is not ready to date but also doesn't know how you can tell if a person is ready to date.
2006-10-28 07:13:47 · 10 answers · asked by j t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually she sounds like she has her head together. ...she knows that she isn't ready. Give her a little time and hang out a few times, get to know and see what happens, just so long as she knows you're not interested in only being a friend ...don't fall into that trap.
2006-10-28 07:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything is about her whims you will be a sure thing and thus her standby. I am amazed about how much I agree with some of the other comments. I say tell her you're not sure about the relationship thing either. Then poke her and don't live your life around her. Have fun, wear a condom and find a girl who is not so me centered even if she seems less glamorous.
Also ask yourself why are you giving so much thought to her? Do you have to please women? Is there something in your past that your trying to relive only this time do it right? Seriously it smacks of you being her lapdog.
2006-10-28 14:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by uncle frosty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man this is complex.the chick obviously is a type that always wants a guy around to no matter how she feels.i would be very cautious cause chicks like that,maybee she was just screwing guys in the meantime while making youn think she is something special.you need to get down and figure out her mind and what she is all about.
cause you see its very easy for a player to come on the scene with a chick like that,first of all get her "cv" you know,find out what she has been doing this strange long time.
2006-10-28 14:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by undecided young man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out and ask her what she means In front of witnesses. Something similiar cost me a weekend in jail and a week long trail that proved I had done nothing wrong nevermind anything illegal. The legal fees for the trial cost me my house. The fact that it's out make it potentially worse doesn't it?
2006-10-28 14:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sid B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better get someone else that is not so mixed up. I wouldn't go out of state just to be told I need time, I think your being played.
2006-10-28 14:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be frustrated because it seems like she's leading me on even though she apparently likes me. Eventually I'd just give up and not be bothered with her and move on. Like going to a meeting out of state for a girl who likes me but doesn't want to date me ? seems a bit retarded.
2006-10-28 14:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to see you away from her friends, co-workers, etc.
You ask her to go with you on a weekend.
Don't show your affection for her around others, yet.
If she feels this way one day, that way another,
accept it, but realize that this is who she is,
and decide if you want to live with that the rest of your life.
dj of raleigh
2006-10-28 14:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by dj_of_raleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wanted 2 night of boning without a relationship though, a friend with benefits gotta love them
2006-10-28 14:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by someone_you_wish_you_knew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it what you got to lose maybe if you show her you are a nice person and fun to be around you could change her mind
2006-10-28 14:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by The_Truth_Finder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find a new girlfriend.
2006-10-28 14:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋