I am 24 years old and like this guy (27) he is very sweet and understanding, and cute. He has Cerebal Palsy though. I hate the fact that I even care. He is 100% able to take care of himself and has a great attitude on life. I just get embarassed by
the way he walks and what not. I feel like people will think I am not that great a catch if they see that I am with him. I am also worried about never being able to dance with him and stuff like that. He is a great guy and if it wasn't for his disabilty I would already be beggin him to love me for ever. I am just really thrown off by it. He has many great personality traits that come from overcoming what he has. He is very undertanding and compassionate. When I'm laying with him I just feel everything is okay and my mind gets quiet and peaceful. And whenever I feel confused or frustrated about life, he helps me figure out how to work through it. I keep picturing him in my head as "whole" and ask "what if?" how do i overcome this?
2006-10-28 07:10:04 · 10 answers · asked by mischevious_pink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow! Sounds like a good catch to me. If you are too embarrassed, good news for some other girl who would be delighted to catch what you throw away! His Palsy is not who he is. It is just a condition he has to live with for now. What a dynamic guy he must be to be able to live with this condition and not sit around and feel sorry for himself. You need to be proud to be seen with him.He is a hero who overcomes. He is one who has conquered his disability, instead of letting his disability rule him! I don't see how one could ever feel ashamed of that! If you feel you cannot accept him with pride, you have to free him to find a woman worthy of this great guy. If I were single and were looking, I would snatch him up in a split second and not think twice! Some women just don't know what a good thing is! With the qualities you said he has, it will not take him long to find some girl who is looking for a wonderful guy like that. If you cannot accept him for who he is and whatever conditions he has, then let him go. It is not fair to him when there are so many out there that would love him just as he is.
2006-10-28 07:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got a friend whos disabled (wheelchair bounded) and she's going out with another friend of mine and they're really in love and I don't think will be "not that great a catch" just because he's dating a disabled girl.
As you said, he's a great guy and you really like him, I don't see why his disability should be a problem. However, me and my friends are just 18 this year and we're not at the "marraige" stage yet... so maybe we don't have to think about taking care of your partner for the rest of your life. maybe you should think if you're ok and ready with living and taking care of a disabled person?
but hey... i'm just a stranger on the internet and i don't have a clue what you're going through. you should talk to your close friends and family about this issue.
2006-10-28 14:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, a good rule to obide by is never ask "What if?" Who cares what if? Think about now. Now, it seems, you have a great guy who you seem to love, and you need to focus on that. Focus on the inside. Who cares what people think. Most people out there are still searching for their soul-mate, but you may have found him! Don't let him go! Think about your life without him. Think about how it would make you feel. Then decide what you truly think about this guy.
2006-10-28 14:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by save trestles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know thats whats wrong with the world now we are all ways looking at the out side and not what is in the inside there so much more to life than what we look at
2006-10-28 14:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is as great as you say, don't worry about him. You can dump him and he'll find a nice girl who does not care about the Palsy. But you might not find a nice boy who cares about you as much.
2006-10-28 14:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by Place holder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look he was dealt a bad hand. so what he's accepted his life. if you truly like him go for it. forget what other people think. they're not you. in this world you have to fend for yourself.and to sit around and worry about what other people think is a waste of time. hell he may be your true-love. but you never know until you give it a try
2006-10-28 14:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by country_ _ girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lucky he's with you. That's pretty bad and insecure that you can't see past a disability, how shallow and uncaring of you! But, I wouldn't date him either! Just kidding, just kindding. No for real you can't help how you feel. Do what ya gotta do!
2006-10-28 14:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by VEGAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to overcome this if you want to stay with him. if you dont think you are willing to stay then dont lead him on anymore. everyone had flaws whether they are physical, mental or whatever, and we all find ways to overcome them if we TRULY love that person.
2006-10-28 14:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like you care ab out your image more than him.
2006-10-28 14:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-28 14:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by angelcarrot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋