me and my bf have been going out for almost 8 months and in the beg. of the relationship i always wanted sex... we did it like 5 times every day..... now i don't really ever want to have sex... is it just me? do other people get like this.. is there any way to fix it?
2006-10-28 07:05:36 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i asked him if we could bring another girl and have a three some.. but he didn't want to
2006-10-28 07:11:22 · update #1
and its not like im losing interst in our relationship.. cuz i love him more then ever... its just the sex part..
2006-10-28 07:16:47 · update #2
ok now that someone metioned it... i think it might have to do with the fact im not really sure of my sexuality.. i think i might like girls.. could that have something to do with it?
2006-10-28 07:26:31 · update #3
i bet its now a routine when you have sex right? always the same foreplay, the same sex position, etc etc. mix it up a bit. make him wait for a couple of days and then surprise him with some kinky stuff. have you ever tried anal? or letting him fudge you between your boobs? sorry, not trying to be vulgar just trying to give you ideas. good luck.
2006-10-28 07:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by Btieti 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had this same problem with my bf (now husband) after we moved in together. It wasn't boredom, it was more like getting into a routine, and also I don't think anyone maintains the "omg I can't keep my hands off you" feeling for their whole relationship...it just doesn't happen. I solved it by dressing in sexy lingerie or outfits (like things I think are sexy so I would feel sexy) before he came home from work, and that usually got me revved up thinking about his reaction. We also started getting a bit more interested in trying new positions and "playing" in bed like we did when we first met (we used to have 3 to 4 hour sessions then, sigh...) taking turns being "in charge" (basically picking the position or whatever for a while and then switching saying, okay it's your turn now).
Worked for me! When you get used to someone, it is really hard to be interested in sex all the time, especially if you share your lives (live together or see each other really often). Sometimes you just have to put in more of an effort to get in the mood. Never feel guilty that you don't feel like it though, chances are your bf isn't really noticing unless you are turning down his advances!
P.S. We didn't need to bring in a third person or toys, but maybe your problem is that you are unsure of your sexuality and need to experiment some more, ex, why another girl and not a boy? If this is for you and not for your bf? Just curious...
2006-10-28 07:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you like most men have a misconception of what sex between husband and wife was really meant to be. It is a show of affection and love, a way to reconnect in the most intimate way with your partner. If you leave out these elements it soon becomes boring and self serving and eventually your wife will not be interested in having sex with you either because without the love and intimacy it becomes shallow. So many marriages break up over this. Love your wife, make love to her, don't just have sex with her. Love will endure and from this a closeness and a strong bond will unite you two together to higher levels of intimacy that just empty sex. Our creator made the sexual union between husband and wife to mean more than just self pleasure and boredom. I hope you think about what i have said or I am afraid the same will repeat itself in any future relationship you will ever have. How do you think couples who have been married for many years and are happy make it possible? Because they were smart enough to get it the right way. I hope you do too.
2016-03-28 10:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in the beginning it was the excitement of a new relationship. Do you have strong feelings for him? or did you think you did and now you realize you dont? I think that in the beginning of a relationship it is exciting and full of emotions and after time all relationships settle into a reality zone. If you were to get married it is not likely that a couple would be able to have time to have sex 5 times a day. Maybe you have just lost interest in him.
2006-10-28 07:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by rufi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called becoming Jaded...
You could perhaps be starting to get used to the idea of having sex and so maybe you no longer have that novel thrill that you used to.
It may also be a sign that your body is more active during certain seasons... this is nothing to be concerned about but you may want to discuss it with your bf.
Also... when you do something you love often you may find that you love it less with every time you do it. Your libido needs to recharge too.
In the end you need to work it out with your partner (making it clear that you find him just as attractive as before). Don't be afraid to ask advice and it should go well.
Good luck!
2006-10-28 07:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by shadow_cup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what is normal, but I have been there. And for a time when it seemed like she was on, I was off, and then vice-versa!!But, when you do connect it seems better than the best, or more enjoyable than the last time. I don't know if there is a way to fix it.
Just take it as it comes. Enjoy the time you have. Plus start doing things you enjoy to do, that put a smile on your face, and things in the bedroom will take care of themselves!!
2006-10-28 07:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by kendo2_2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women go through hormonal changes and it is perfectly normal to not be interested in sex...especially if you are having a hard time in some other aspect of your life, ie: family or work stress, etc.
Go see your doctor. He/she may be able to do a blood test or something, or prescribe a medicine, or suggest a natural supplement that could give you a libido boost.
Good luck, sweety.
2006-10-28 07:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to add alittle zest back into your relationship! Do you not feel sexy anymore? Try this send him sexy text messages or emails. Call him out of the blue and make suggestive remarks! Sex doesn't begin in the bed room it starts way before that! If you feel sexy then you will be sexy! Try it and see what happens!
2006-10-28 07:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not EVER? That is a concern. After being so active? Think about your relationship. It is time for a talk and maybe a change, sad to say.
2006-10-28 07:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sue_Desdemona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has got to be a reason! You just don't go from 5 times a day to "sorry I don't wanna" If your board tell him, try different things in bed. If it's something else?? tell him! GOod LUCK with all that.
2006-10-28 07:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by VEGAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋