My Daughter and her husband just let him do as he pleases. It is a great shame as he is a lovely wee lad, but his behaviour is appalling.
2006-10-28 07:01:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If the parents are allowing it there's nothing you can do really unless he is at your house and showing this behavior. In that case remove him from the table for time -outs. Also,give him 10 minutes at the table to eat and take it away. He wont starve. I can only imagine how he is away from the table.
2006-10-28 07:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by redwidow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They say that not making a fuss about it can help, if he knows people are going to try and get him to eat it can become a game to some children, and no matter how hard you try, or even threaten, i.e : "no pudding if you don't finish your dinner!" It wont make a blind bit of difference. Hopefully it will be a phase he just has to go through, and simply placing the food down and all eating together at the same time with out any fuss, or force can help.
2006-10-28 08:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by boo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you all of you have a meal together and he begins to act up say this to the lil' guy, "I'm gonna count to ten, and if your parents don't get you to behave, I'm gonna take off my belt and whip the living tar out of you!" Then take off your belt and start counting. I guarantee your daughter and husband will calm him down. If they don't, then whip his tiny butt.
(actually 3 paddles is sufficient, you dont want to go to jail for beating the child) Your daughter and son-in-law will get the hint then.
After you discipline the child, make sure you tell him you love him and it was for his own good. This way they'll fear the paddle and not you. Thats called tough love.
I have a 4 and 2 year old daughter, and they already know how to act at the dinner table and in front of other people. On their paddle I wrote this down. Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of corection shall drive it far from him/her.
If you don't use a belt, go to Home Depot, and ask for a paint or tar stirring stick, the ones they use for the 5 gal paint cans. They make excellent paddles.
2006-10-28 07:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by cruizer 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's not the poor child's fault. Your daughter and her husband are the ones who have failed to teach the child. It's only going to get
worse and his bad behaviour will spill over unto other areas of his life. If he can get away with being evil at the dinner table, why not ALL the time???
2006-10-28 07:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by kitty-mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont invite them for tea .. but really his parents should be dealing with this , you say he`s a lovely wee lad well unless he is shown discipline and how to be respectful he won`t be a lovely wee lad for very much longer . Its your daughters child surely you feel able enough to mention your concerns to her , i know my mum would have words with me , infact when my mum comes to visit she always voices her opinions and its ok because shes my mum ....
Good luck
2006-10-28 07:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question.
He is naughty at meal time because his parents allow it.
If a child of mine misbehaved at the table, he would leave the table until everyone else finished eating, then let him eat alone.
After a few times, knowing he can't eat with the family unless he behaves, I think he would behave so he could eat meals with the rest of the family.
2006-10-28 07:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you shout at him he will stay bad at meal times. Just leave him and give her a strong word if he does something too bad. Say something like 'Grandson' firmly so he knows where he satnds with you. Simple but effective dont you think?!
2006-10-28 07:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by Smiles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your daughter and her husband are not doing the wee boy any good at all.they will have to teach him manners.he is six after all .he is not a baby anymore .how does he do at school. i bet he is not like he is at home.he will play up because he gets away with it .
2006-10-28 09:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by rita g 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's the society we live in today most parents let the kids do exactly what they like,they do it because they can't deal with disciplining them what they need is a good clip round the ear if they miss behave like we used to get.
2006-10-28 20:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him a small chair and table to sit in and you tell him/them that when he learns good table manners, when they teach him good table manners, he can come sit with the adults.
Or try a stool for his feet. He may be uncomfortable with dangling feet. Good luck.
2006-10-28 07:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋