I'm 18 years old I have moved away from home to university however the summer before I left through my job I met an older guy (45) who at first I felt no connection for however slowly I found myself becoming attracted to him.
This summer was particualry long due to taking my A-levels so I went away for a two week holiday in the middle and found myself wanting to come back early just so I could spend time with this guy!! He flirts with me alot and has said if he was younger he would want to be with me in a joking way.
Does age matter? or is it just a number?
This man has several children with other women should I just move on and accept a relationshp would never work with someone so much older than me and with so much backage?
I need advice so please tell me honestly I know the truth can hurt!
I'm planning on returning home soon so will see him so I need to know where to move from here!
Thank-you
2006-10-28 07:01:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok i have been there...was (AT THAT TIME) in love with a woman, i was 16 and she was 24, well...first and formost..take my word on it...your chances of sucess are about 1 in a 100. and i am being optimistic. well just asnwer few questions.
a. What do you want in life and how does he fit in the picture.
b. do you want to have a kid by the time your kid is 16 your husband is 65 years old...
c. Sex is not important , love is..i know i know...but my dear friend it is important.
d. The main reason people ( even I DID) love a older person at times is that we dont have to take care of them, we like to think that we take care of them, but most of the time, for the its just that we try to run away from responsibility.
e. He is a Dirty old man..flirting with a girl, who is almost 30 years youger then him...he would be stoned to death in few countries.
f. also ask your self how many people flirt with you... and is it just that you are comfortable with him around...its just that he makes you feel wanted and you feel comfortable ..that is it...Its all in your head, stop and think where your life is headed...where you want to be in your life...and how does this guy stick into the picture....make sure you get what you want first..cause if you can not satisfy urself..you can never satisfy any one else.
and if he is your true love or watever...i wish you best of luck my friend..
take care and think before you leap!
:)
2006-10-28 07:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that age matters when the ppl involved are mature and can handle the issues that will come up- and they will. I am married to a man 8 1/2 yrs older than me and have been for 10 yrs. I think that in your case, the fact that he has several diff kids w/ other women is a red flag- he has definite baggage and there must be some reason the other women are not w/ him now, see what i mean? If I were you I'd keep it casual for now, esp since you are just starting to be out on your own. Explore your other options- there are others out there you could be missing out on if you jump in too quickly w/ this man. Good luck!
2006-10-28 14:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by txgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work but I think you both need to find someone closer to your own age groups. If you're thinking long term, just imagine the next 15 years. Your husband will be 60. Do you want that? If yes, go for it. And if he's a great guy and you think you could fall in love woth him, why not?
2006-10-28 14:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Paige 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age really is just a number and relationships with age differences can work i have seen it with my own two eyes. my dad is 17 yrs older than my mom and they have been marrried happily for 46 yrs. they key to making a relationship with an age difference work is to make sure of the following:
1. that it does not bother or concern either one of you
2. that you have common interests and goals
3. do you want kids someday? and will he be willing to give them to you?
4. don't let what others think bother you
5. trust your heart and make sure this is what you want before jumping into it
6. don't move to fast. and don't push
7. is he going to be able to have a serious stable relationship with you and be open to the possability of deep love and future commitment.
so just think about this stuff and then if you decide you want to go for it then be with him if he wants to be with you.
2006-10-28 14:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♥musiclover♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 43 and my wife just turned 26, my oldest daughter is 24, we do fine, we have an awesome marriage
2006-10-28 14:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by Todd V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter.
2006-10-28 14:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋