why woulld god care if responsible consenting adults have sex without being married? How does it bring him glory that we should suffer impossible temptation like that? it seems like such an arbitrary demand. It is an inherent desire in humans. Why does sex have to be "bad" for you? the desire between two people who really care for each other, whether they are married or not, is innocent and pure. do you think that jesus is crying in heaven when two people have a close enough relationship that they want to give each other pleasure? You can't claim it's because of the inherent risks ( STDs, AIDS, unwanted pregnancy) because responsible people use protection and try to protect their health. Even if that does leave SLIGHT risk of pregnancy, you still say anything about young unmarried adults who responsibly accept that risk. They know what they are doing and a prepared for the consequences.
2006-10-28 06:48:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
and you can't claim it is because of the relationship woes it creates, because that only pertains to younger, inexperienced people having sex. When experience adults have sex they know the difference between sexual love and real love.
And is marital love any different? Married sex causes strife in a marriage too. And besides, don’t you think a lot of Christian young adults marry to soon to the person that may not be best for them because the pressure of their desire pushes them too hard before they even realize how many other fish there are in the sea?
2006-10-28 06:48:19 · update #1
The reason most theology teachers say that premarital sex is bad is because of the claim that sex was created for two reasons:
To make Children.
To connect two loving people in the most intimate way.
They also claim that for sex to be okay it must satisfy those both... so, that's also why most churches teach that birth control and condoms are bad (prevention of children).
However, I think it rather haughty of you to tell what we can and cannot claim...
2006-10-28 06:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Sylvie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because God commanded that 2 people a man and his wife be properly married. Heb. 13:4 tells us to "Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God judges fornicators and adulterers." Also in your bible look up Gal.5:19-21, 1Cor.6:9-10, Rom.1:26-27, these scriptures give an explanation of exactly how good feels on premarital sex and what will happen to those participating in this disgusting practice if they do not change there ways. Also sex is a gift from God for the enjoyment of these properly married you aren't showing appreciation for this gift when you decide to have sex outside of the marriage arrangement.
2006-10-28 07:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to make this as uncontroversial as possible. Have you read the Apostle Paul's words from the bible? If you read Corinthians through Colossians (even though Paul wrote more books these books touch on fornication many, many, many times). Premarital sex is compared to murder, and idolatry. If you read the bible, (I'm not sure if you do or not, and that's really not my business) look up 1Corinthians chapter 6 is a good chapter to read, but focus first on verses 9-10 where Paul talks about the type of people who will not inherit God's kingdom, and fornication is listed first. Verses 15-20 of the same chapter discuss fornication and why it is different from any other sin. (Because uncleanness is the only sin you commit against your own body. Then it talks of how our bodies are temples that don't belong to us because they were bought by Christ.) You can do the research for yourself, because asking us, really isn't going to the source. You're asking us about what God wants. The bible's God's word, so you should go there. If you read in your bible, you'll find the answer you're looking for, you just have to actually care to find it (again I don't know if you care, and it's not my business.) Hope that helps.
2006-10-28 07:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When 2 people have sex without marriage, youre creating a bond that shouldnt be there and potentially kids that shouldnt be there. That one girl rightly pointed out that sex was designed so that 2 people could share a special bond but ONLY if they are married and committed to each other. But mankind as a rule takes sex and twists it into something immoral.
Do you care more about what man thinks about sex or what God thinks about sex?
2006-10-28 07:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex outside of marriage was a bad thing before the invention of birth control. Since it's so damn easy to get pregnant from having sex, women having fatherless babies all the time is a bad thing. (Not that it doesn't happen now but that's a result of stupidity and bad education). Now that we have birth control there is no logical reason for premarital sex to be bad. Besides, people are getting married at 25 and 30 now, and our biology dictates that you will be damn near crazy if you wait that long to have sex. It's biologically wrong to wait that long, and there's really no reason to.
2006-10-28 07:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by Reject187 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason God has said that a man and a woman must be married to have sex is quite obvious even by your givens. First, God does not look at sex as a simple matter of I care for you and care for me. To Him, it is sacred. Something that should not be tainted by lust and sin. In fact, one of the seven deadly sins is Lust. According to that, giving into the lust that you have for each other is giving into temptation and giving into the devil and sin. This in fact does make Jesus very sad. You see, I believe that to God, all sin is equal. The sin of lying is the same as the sin on stealing, is the same as the sin of murder. It's all sin that we either repent, learn from and earn forginess for or take with us to the day of judgement. We can say that premarital sex is always bad because sin is always bad. Just like lying is always bad, stealing is always bad and adultry is always bad.
It is not impossible to deny such desires, in fact, many people still wait until they are married to have sex. The points you bring up are valid, but do not pertain to God and his expectations, they pertain to man and his society's expectations. God does not expect us to be perfect. He knows that we will sin, He knows that we will mess up and He knows that we will fail. However, He does expect us to learn from those sins, repent for them and live a life according to his word.
Of course, if you do not believe in God and Jesus, than you should not be held to these beliefs. In that case you would be held to what is morally and ethicly reasonable to yourself.
2006-10-28 06:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wholeheartedly agree with you. i always wondered why it was such a big deal. now, i believe that sleeping around just for the sake of sleeping around or when you are not emotionally ready is wrong and that sex shouldn't be taken lightly, but i can't see why it is such a big deal if two people really do love and care for each other and may plan on getting married anyway.
2006-10-28 06:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Araya Starshine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why not wait until you're married? i mean most unmarried couples that i know that get pregnant split. they say they love each other but aren't ready for a baby or they decide to get an abortion (murder). yes i do believe Jesus feels pain whenever He sees people using his precious gift outside of its boundaries. maybe you know different kinds of people because their love isn't innocent and pure it's driven by lust. as for young christians that marry to satiate their desires, all i can do is pray for them. when you base your relationship around God and He is the center of it, you won't lust for each other, and your marriage will be a fulfilling one. He's supposed to lead you to your life partner, not you taking Him into the relationship you want to be in
2006-10-28 06:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Deborah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In Islam(my religion) it is a HUGE SIN if you have sex be4 marriage Sex should be 4 marriage not be4.
2006-10-28 08:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible calls it Fornication - and there is not one instance where he speaks favorably of Fornication.
2006-10-28 07:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by planetkram12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋