i was seeing this guy and i liked him lots, we were sorta friends sorta dating, and we were still in the really get to know you stage. only known each other for 3 months, went out a couple times. talked lots, and he broke it off, i know why and i get it but i have something to tell him about how i feel, we decided to stay freinds and i don't wanna mess that up by telling him how i feel. so what should i do? this was my first romance. please help me!
2006-10-28 06:30:25 · 17 answers · asked by ♥musiclover♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him how you feel and also tell him that you still want to remain friends with him.
2006-10-28 06:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, tough break. I think it's okay and healthy to let someone know, after a break-up, how you feel. Otherwise you walk around with no sense of closure, and it actually can make you linger on the subject for a longer period of time. That said, you have to ask yourself a couple of honest questions.
1. Do you want to talk to him because something in the back of your mind makes you think that what you have to say will change his mind?
2. Will what you have to say start a conversation that will upset either of you a good deal?
3. After you talk to him once about this, do you feel that you won't be able to prevent yourself from bringing it up again (and again...)?
In my opinion, if you've said yes to any of these questions, then you should move on because it'll do more harm than good. If you have honestly said no to the questions, I think it could be a very helpful and healthy thing for you to get some stuff off your chest and let this person know how you feel about what's happened.
Good luck!
2006-10-28 06:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by mjfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey if this guy has the personally and stuff that makes you go crazy. But he doesn't want to be together and you don't want to mess with the friendship you have. Talk to him as a friend tell him that you think that you guys could work it out as boy/girlfriends. Like this boy I have been dating we've broke up twice because we went through the friend stage while dating. One day I got overwhlemed and finally reasked him out and the next date we went on it felt right. So I think he's taking a break to figure out whats going on in his head figure out what you really feel and go to him. Trust me seeing what he feels feels alot better even if it's bad than not knowing at all.
2006-10-28 06:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay listen. you cant have the cake and eat it too. what i mean here is see what you want more and whats more important for you ; letting it off your chest or keeping him as a friend or both? am sure you choose 'both'. now tell it to him and be honest but not too blunt you know like tel him how you felt and use more ''i'' sentences than you ones. yes, prepare your speech so you wont regret it and its always a good idea to know what to say how so you dont utter the wrong words or tone in confusion. try not to get overwhelmed while you talk it out. and lastly, talk to him ONLY if you think you can feel in control of yourself. wish you two good luck.
2006-10-28 06:37:46 · answer #4 · answered by fleur 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This is real toughie. First of all, think about how good of friends you two are. Are you good enough friends to hang out at each other's houses, laugh 'till soda comes out your nose, etc.? Or, are you sorta/kinda close? Do you two hang out when you can, or talk on the phone every now and then? Depending on how close you two are, you may/may not want to let him know, at least, not in a direct way.
Here's my suggestion:
If you are sitting with him, making comfortable conversation, think about making a small comment, like, 'Oh, man; we're such good friends. I really like you…you know that?'
2006-10-28 06:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by authoress265 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. If you want to remain friends, how is making him feel uncomfortable going to accomplish that. There is always unresolved feelings at the end of a relationship. Just chalk it up as a learning experience and move on.
(I agree with Peggy S)
2006-10-28 06:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is, it really is the best thing to just let it go and leave him alone. Since this is your first romance and since you are most likely not going to be able to get it out of your mind, then write him a letter (or email)...spell it all out once - and then you MUST leave it alone. If he doesn't respond then he is not interested and you mustn't make a fool of yourself
2006-10-28 06:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by ckphilly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I am sorry the the guy broke up with you! That really does hurt! Since you want to stay friends, maybe write him a letter and then DON'T send it... just keep it to read until you don't have to read it anymore and then just toss it.
Best wishes to you!
from a grandma-aged person
2006-10-28 06:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you understand then you would not need to clear things up if it was something you did or didn't do then it was your fault and you need to except the punishment for your actions if it was something he did or didn't do then you know it's over and still leave it alone I would just let it be
2006-10-28 06:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by Since birth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the worst thing you could do is harbor over n old relationship just let it go write about it in your journal or tell a best friend because if u tell him hes gonna be leery of continuing to be friends with you
2006-10-28 06:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋