break my child from being so attached? She is five and just started kindergarten. I also have a ten year old. They are both mama's girls, but my five year old is attached at the hip and cries not to go to school. She only wants to stay with me and wants to go everywhere I go... even to the bathroom. My oldest isn't this way. What do I do?
2006-10-28 06:21:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Also, I need to add that we don't have family here. The nearest family is 1 1/2 hours away so I can't leave her with anyone. We just moved here 3 months ago and don't know many people yet. It's not cause we just moved here either. She's been this way since birth.
2006-10-28 06:25:07 · update #1
I have 4 children - my first is pretty independent, my second is 16 and still attached at the hip. My 3rd and 4th are 2 and 1 and I believe that for the benefit of the children, it's best to allow them to be attached at the hip for as long as they need to be. You can be their mom and their best friend. If you're not their best friend they will find people (who may not share your values) to be their best friend(s) instead. So if you want your kids to share your values and carry them on... give till it hurts and then keep giving... : )
2006-10-28 06:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to have small tests, where she is reassured that you will be coming back. Kids do this when they are fearful and havent learned to trust that you will be there at the end of the day. Do small things, like do to the store and before you go make sure that you have clearly explained that you will be back in half an hour and you will be bringing back groceries and ice cream or something for her to look forward to.
2006-10-28 13:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell the child you will always be here and that mommy is staying. your child probably knows about death so she might think her mommy will pass on and she won't have you anymore. I would write a note to her and put a kiss with lipstick on it, and tell her "whenever you need to have something of mommy's? you can pull out the note and think of me" Or you can get her a very cheap locket like you can find on ebay and put it on her house key or tell her to wear it whenever you want to see mommy and tell her when you have the locket on that mommy is aways with you.
2006-10-28 13:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her involved in some special activities so she can be away from you but not stressed out because she's doing something she likes. Try something like Dance or Soccer.
Maybe she'll grow out of it over time....
2006-10-28 14:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by gummybear1772 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should watch the show Nanny 911, i think it is on fox tv. Look for it online. You need to stop carrying your kids and stop giving into their crying. Bend down and talk to them and have them explain why they are upset. Teach them to use words and not to whine and cry because you dont understand them. Explain that to them.
2006-10-28 21:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋