well. one of my friends has been drinking a lot frequently, and i'm pretty worried about her.
last friday she got absolutely PLASTERED. and i told her that it worried me when she drank so much.
she told me that that was it until she was older.
well, yesterday, she went out and got drunk again.
what should i do?
i'm thinking about ignoring her when she drinks..because i don't want to be around that.
2006-10-28 05:57:19 · 21 answers · asked by Rebecca 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry. I had a typo up at the top!
I meant to say,
She told me that she wouldn't drink until she was older.
2006-10-28 05:58:35 · update #1
I know this is totally against what most people on here are saying but this has been my experience. I have been out of high school for around 12 years and a lot of the girls I went to school with have some problems. Please understand everyone is different some people can drink or use drugs and stop while others struggle the rest of there lives. Throughout my high school years and in college I experminted with drugs and alchol and now that I am 34 i enjoy having a good time with friends. Meaning when we go out to eat having a beer or a drink, watching the football game having some beer you know social settings. The drugs were left behind a long time ago. Basicaly what I am trying to say is that I got it out of my system when I didn't have responsibilitys, like a son, job, bills, house, being an adult. So anyway like I said everyone is different I stoped with no problem she might not. Now back to the girls I went to high school with. Many of them were like you, concerned with the drinking and drugs. They choose not to partake in these things until they were 21 or older. Now that it is important they are having trouble surviving without help from there parents because of the partying and drugs that in my opinion didnt get out of there systems when they were younger. I am not saying let your friend go overboard but have fun while your young that is what youth is for. Make mistakes while you can it is much easier to recover from them under the umbrella of your parents.
2006-10-28 06:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by slaphappypimp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to have a drug problem, the best thing anyone did for me was one of m y friends was going down with me, he moved away so he could clean up, he is now in great shape and is a cop. My best friend straight out said "I love you. I cannot see you like this it hurts to much. You will no longer be in my life until I know you are clean" It took me two years after I had cleaned up my act to prove to her that was behind me. We are as close if not closer than before. Unfortunately I missed out on somethings we had planned to do together but hey that's life. To me that is true friendship. She told me it hurt her more than I would ever know having to do that. We both were close with each other's families as well, and I have had to make amends to a lot of people in hers, they were upset with how upset she was. Life is good though and I thank her almost every day.
2006-10-28 06:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's partying and you don't want to then don't hang out with her. If she asks why you don't spend time together anymore tell her you don't want to be around someone who's drunk all the time.
If you're concerned about her behavior because she's putting herself at risk by drinking too much and she won't respond then maybe you should go to her family and express your concerns to them.
A lot of young people get tied up in drinking and drugs to help them cope with their problems., It's easier for them to get wasted than to deal with what's going on or seek out reasonable help.
Sometimes they need a push in the right direction.
Hope everything works out
2006-10-28 06:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by gummybear1772 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 03:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you told your friend how you felt about her drinking.
I say... if she's a true friend, she will atleast try to listen to you... especially when it comes to an important issue like THIS. She can kill herself...
I agree with your plan. You should ignore her when she's drunk. Maybe then she'll realize what she's doing and how good of a friend she's missing out on.
I have some friends who LOVE bragging about what they are like when they're drunk. Who cares?! Being drunk is not something to be proud of. I never understood it. "Whoa, I like totally got drunk lastnight and fell on my face. Ha Ha." Why is that so appealing? I ignore my friends when they talk about being drunk. I don't want to listen to that crap and think they're soooo cool doing that. I'm not encouraging that kind of behavior.
2006-10-28 06:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really care about this friend of yours, then you can't ignore her. She can just keep getting worse if you're not there to help and TRY to keep her from drinking. It sounds like your friend needs to hear more from you than what you're asking. You really need to fight her on her decisions to keep drinking. It may lead her to do irrational things that she will regret very much later on when she is sober again. Try being firm when you tell her to stop drinking
2006-10-28 06:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by bkettrick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has she been very upset with something lately? Any breakups, rejections, issues, lack of self confidence? She may have to see a therapist to help sort out her feelings. It's usually emotions that make people eccessively drink. Talk to her. Check up on her; try to figure out what's wrong.
2006-10-28 06:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's a true friend and you really and truly think she's getting herself slowly into a legitimate drinking problem you need to be a pain in her a.s.s about this.
Word of warning tho.....you may lose her as a friend AND she may still persue the 'bottle'.
This is part of the poison behind drinking, and this is why it's a totally lose-lose situation.
Tread carefully.
2006-10-28 06:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is under age be a real friend and tell her parents, and if she is over 21 tell her to go get help. Sounds as though she has a problem. A real friend would never just turn their back on a friend who needs help.
2006-10-28 06:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shell only change because she wants to, you can beg plead or even offer to pay her and it won't work. Dont be around her when she drinks and she might get the message. It sucks but shell probally get taken advantage of soon because of the drinking.
2006-10-28 06:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by feargov 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋