Hi, my girl(hope she still is) still kinda seems to be not sure if she wants to have a future with me or not.We have been together for 20 months.This is kinda annoying as well as painful,cos at one stage she was like we will be together no matter wat & now she dosnt seem to be showing intrest, thinking or discuss abt the big picture or the long run.Even if i do ..she kinda wary or gets cranky.Im at a stage where i need to know for sure wats ahead so that i can plan accordingly.Is there anything abnormal about the way i sound r think???cos she thinks that im pushing her.moreover im like why is she so hesitant/unsure about it even after so long??
2006-10-28 05:32:06 · 8 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your thinking makes sense but you shouldn't push it to much. planning stuff out can be unattractive to some since they dont want to be tied down.
2006-10-28 05:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Antonin T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Raz,
What you're saying is not abnormal at all,
At least not to me.
I got out of a really bad marriage and now,
when some guy wants to date and acts
like he wants a serious relationship.
I ask " Where would you like this relationship to lead,
What are your hopes for us.?"
If he doesn't want to answer this, then I feel
He is not serious about a relationship,
being friends or more.
I know all relationships have to start as friends
if they turn into something good.
Friends first and forever, no matter what else developes.
Good Luck,
I share your thoughts.
I wish you the best
2006-10-28 05:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically your situation would be reversed...more often it's the woman who wants to know what the future holds, and the guy who hesitates to commit...
Talk to her about why she is unsure and let her know you really want to know if she feels you two have a future, or if you should go your separate ways...if she's not on the same page as you, and it's important to you that she commit, then perhaps you should move on without her, if she's not ready to do that...
But find out first...have a talk...don't accuse, don't nag, just ask how she feels and what caused her feelings to change from when she appeared to feel you two had a (long) future...
2006-10-28 05:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the baffling world of the cosmos between men and women...get use to the dynamics..the tug and war will go on for awhile till u both are completely comfortable with each other Patience is in your best interest good luck...oh and the "crankiness".. proably time of the month ..escape for a day or two ..its all women usually.. my thoughts...u might be making a mountain out of a mole hill..
2006-10-28 05:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 01:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by lashbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SIT DOWN WITH HER AND HAVE A SERIOUS OPEN CONVERSATION. DONT GET ANGRY. TRY TO BE UNDERSTANDING. iF YOU BOTH CANNOT RESOLVE THIS THAN YOU KNOW WHAT THE NEXT STEP IS. DONT WAIST ANYMORE TIME. HONESTLY, IT SOUNDS LIKE SHE HAS LOST INTEREST IN YOU OR IN THE PROCESS. IF SHE WAS REALLY CONFIDENT AND HAPPY SHE WOULD SURELY KNOW WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO WITH THE FUTURE. BACKING OUT IS A RED FLAG. SHE SHOULD KNOW IF SHE WANTS TO SPEND THE FUTURE WITH YOU OR NOT
2006-10-28 05:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by louise23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remeber familiarity breeds contempt.
Mutual respect is the most important. Just keep one yard stick......do you both enjoy the company of each other?
2006-10-28 06:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by vipan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she not in love with you or she would be wanting to talk of the future
2006-10-28 05:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by boozer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋