I feel like I am always the one doing everything for my boyfriend and I never get anything in return....ex. he is a football coach and i have sat out in the cold rainy games every friday night and can't get even get him to go shopping with me for a few hours today! Why can;t he just give a little?
2006-10-28 05:13:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um......Jesus called. He says he wants his cross back.
Quit being a doormat. Give only as he does. Teach him how to treat you. Accept no less than you deserve.
Tell him you are feeling less like a priority, and more like 'just another option'. Tell him that that is unacceptable, and than you can do better.
Then, don't do an activity with him unless he is willing to do one with you. Tell him that going to games every week is going to cost him......(a shopping spree, lunch or dinner out, tango dancing lessons, etc). Tell him he needs to earn your support.
If he is not willing to give to you what you are willing to give to him, I would rethink this whole relationship. It's your choice if you want to accept his crap, or to make excuses for him. Think of it this way: Replace "Can't" with "Not willing to".
Girl, you can do so much better than being someone's "doormat/armpiece/puppet" that exists to serve his ego. You deserve to be respected as a person, as a woman, and as a partner. If he's not up to that challenge (or simply not man enough), than he is not worth your time and energy.
2006-10-28 05:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't realize they had a good thing until it is gone. I think an ultimatum might be the way to go. Not saying that he needs to give up football or anything like that but more along the line of, look, I sacrifice coming to your games and I don't complain but you need to do the same for me or I'm out. And stand firm because if he is taking you for granted, then you are a lot better off without him. I say, you gotta do what you gotta do. Hope everything works out for you!!
2006-10-28 05:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by frakmomma04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately when you do something for someone you should not expect things in return.
You would think that it would work that way, but it does not.
You attending those games in the rain may indicate to him that you really enjoy the games as much as he does?. Or does he think that you are out there for him? If so, then he should compromise.
If you take a g/f you would have more fun shopping.
2006-10-28 05:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes an extraordinarily understanding & patient woman to be a football coach's gf/wife.
It has become apparent that you do not have these qualities in the supply needed.
Find an accountant or some other desk jockey if you want someone to trawl the malls with you holding your purse.
2006-10-28 05:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Tyler Durdin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is he the one that force you to sit in the games? If yes, tell him you don't like it, same like he don't like to go shopping with you. If no, stop that, since it's making you feeling miserable and unfair
Go find something else both of you can enjoy. or maybe, if you like, ask him to teach you football for a start...as a leisure exercise, think it would be a easier way for him to do something he like with you...go along that way...
2006-10-28 05:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by meow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isnt a thong a consistent wedgie ??? Just like something else ask him to quit and allow him recognise you're critical. Tell him he's appearing too immature, and you wish to have a mature oerson to your existence. He gets the photograph.
2016-09-01 03:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best defence is a good offence. Find some stuff to do that doesn't involve him. You don't have to sit in the cold rain for him if you hate it.
2006-10-28 06:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl trust me, even if you WERE able to get him to go shopping, you'd be miserable. They will complain and complain and complain the entire time, and you'll be ready to get rid of him. Talk to him, and try to find something you can both enjoy doing together.
2006-10-28 05:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by LibraT 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What ever you give out you get back. Keep on giving you will see if it is worth it or not and if you leave him you will still get it back with the new man.
2006-10-28 05:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a giver and he is a receiver. And like all true relationship, you give he receive. There is a balance.
Now you want to change that?
2006-10-28 05:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋