Recently ive been pursuing some girls but i found out that theyre interested in smart assholes or dumb assholes and that most girls just want to find someone whos a big jerk... but im a nice guy who is on Student Council has all A's taking college dual credit courses in high school and i try not to be a jerk to girls.. how come i cant get a girlfriend.. but complete assholes can manage to get the girls i like to go out with them !?!? help please....
2006-10-28 05:10:24 · 15 answers · asked by yangkai90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because like guys some girls are immature for a real realationship and they're not ready for a real commitment. They'd rather take the easy way and date a jerk then a real genuine guy who can really touch their hearts and love them for real. That's what girls really need is a real man or guy who loves her for her and not some jerk like the guys you've described. I don't know why they'd settle for those jerks instead of a genuine sweet heart like you. Good luck dude. But I'd bet you some girls have allready taken notice and are anxious for you to ask them out. Just you wait.
2006-10-28 05:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some girls date jerks because they're dressed cool, have a lot of money and a nice car, or they're just really good looking and that girl is just acting shallow. She's not looking for a personality, or someone deeper who really cares and actually treats her right. Nice guys I think can do much more then shallow jerks can ever do. I'm a Gemini!
2016-03-28 10:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a very similar problem when I was in High school. The girls always tell you that they want a nice guy, someone who can treat them as if they were a princess, but then when it comes down to it, they always go for the men that seem to be complete jerks, who don't treat them at all what they deserve, and that is confusing all of its own.
Girls are confusing, and they always will be, but this issue is only because either the girl doesn't have a high enough self esteem to go for a guy who will treat her right, or maybe she just isn't attracted to you at all. Also in High School, image is everything it seems. These girls ask for one thing then go for another mostly because of insecurities. The really "tough guys" that the girls go for are stereotypically the better people to be with. The girls know what they are doing, and they understand that these guys are not going to treat them good, but many of them either believe that they can change him, or they just kind of hope it will be good, because they are going to go for them anyways.
So right now, you have to kind of just hold on. The girls will eventually see what kind of a guy you are, and you will get the girl who deserves you the most. Its possible for you to find one in High School, but its just more difficult. Time goes on, don't be caught in the past. Stay true to who you are, because in the end that is going to be what gets you the girl of your dreams.
2006-10-28 05:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by runningtuck 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think part of it is that girls go through that "I want a bad boy" stage. My sister did it, but ended up marrying a nice guy. When girls look at guys, they want someone who is aggressive, someone who is more like a man, rather than someone who is nice like their girlfriends are. Are you in high school? Wait until college. Girls in high school (even guys do) need to grow up and mature a little. When a girl realizes that she'll never be happy with a jerk, then that's when you'll have your chance. Be patient, it'll happen when you least expect it. Just don't ever change from being a nice guy. Be who you are, you'll find someone who loves you for who you truely are.
2006-10-28 05:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by irish_mick_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is excitement in a**h****. Watching you arrange the pencils in your pocket protector is not exciting. I am not saying that running with the bad boys is smart, but since we live in such an insulated world they need some kind of adrenaline rush and that is one place to get it. I was in your shoes myself at one time. I was captain of the basketball team and lettered in football but was too much of a nice guy. I could not attract anyone. Good luck. It will work out in the end, but it takes a long time.
2006-10-28 05:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two kinds of groups who ,somehow, are inexplicably crazy about jerks :
1. Those who think they can conquer the bad which makes
a sweet ending.
2. Those who just wana be as bad coz it defines sexy and cool.
You should never live your life based on someone's profile.
Take it easy. The more you chase the more it'll go away.
Let it flow ;)
2006-10-28 05:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those jerks know how to play with a women's feelings so that he seems so nice and sweet in the beginning of the relationship but later on their true intentions and personality come out.
2006-10-28 05:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
there are a lot of reasons why this happens, first off girls want that "kick-*** macho kind of guy" they want to be the good girl and the guy the bad boy. and honestly i can go on but that one of the reasons.
2006-10-28 05:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by octavio_11722 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without playing games, don’t be available 100% of the time or let your life be an open book. A man that comes on too strong or doesn’t have outside interests will scare a woman away just as much as it would if the circumstances were reversed. Read here http://AttractAnyWoman.emuy.info/?C5M7
Women don’t want to feel as though they are completely responsible for your happiness and that is what it feels like when the other person has no outside interests. Men who are overeager or jump when the woman says jump are the ones who are more likely to end up in the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you should play the game of not calling for a few days; it means that you should set healthy boundaries until you both naturally find a spot for the other in your lives.
2017-02-15 15:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you do not need to be cursing on here I do not like to hear things like that.
And it is becuase they do not realize how great you are. They want to go for someone they think will be great but when they get their hearts broken into a million tiny peices then they MIGHT learn. But until then all you can do is be there, then they might see something they did not see before.
2006-10-28 05:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by Juice 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋