Okay .. let me tell ya the situation .. i've been dating this guy for about a month now and have got really strong feelings for him.. he's in the last year of education and he came to this country purely for education ... he's told me he loves me and wants me to wait 8 months until he's finished his education .. and he says that if i wait he'll propose to me .. problem is in this 8 month break-up i've been told to not get with any other guys if i do then me and him are OVER .. what do you reckon i should do .. MOVE ON or WAIT THE LONG 8 MONTHS????
2006-10-28 04:58:03 · 34 answers · asked by *~Ciara~* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are lying when you say : "you have strong feelings for him". In love affairs, thinking of the other guys simply corrupts the mind and it is unfair. You should not befool yourself.
If this is not the case, wait on till he is ready for you. The wait would be worth it.
2006-10-30 18:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him u will take that 1 or 1/2 carot engagement ring thats shaped like a heart now to tie the monogamy ,assure faithfulness and help u know he isnt pulling a 8 month bluff...!...thats what I would say..of course people will think it is about the money/ring.. bull..but honestly this is the way it use to be done..if he says its out of the question tell him your decision will also be "up in the air".. then..tell him u plan on waiting cuz u care ...but without some significant promise like a ring ...u cant give a 100%...trust me 90% of couples back out!!... once an engagement ring is handed out(it happened to me).. see if he is the real deal or not...my advice.
2006-10-28 05:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by dreamy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm strong feelings after a month - can be possible, but for him to lay the law down after such a short time is pretty aggressive. You have two choices, you need to think of YOUR future..can you imagine being day in and out with a man who seems to have relationship issues and after one month you cant really know him that well so as to talk it thru. The second choice is to move on - let him do his education and after the 8 months if you want him back get in touch, im sure you wont be a slapper in that time! Explain how you feel .. personally id do the latter...life it far too short.
2006-10-28 05:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by theoldecrone 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in my final year at uni, and let me tell you, it's hard work. Right now I can't even entertain the thought of starting up a relationship, and even people who are in long-established relationships are finding it hard to find time for their loved ones. Believe me, I would love to get involved with someone, but I know I don't have the time right now to devote to it (and early relationships really do take up a lot of energy and emotional brainpower).
If he's as serious about your education as I am (he probably is if he came to another country to study AND is paying for it - it's not easy to study abroad!) then the work and the studies HAVE to come first if you're going to give it your best shot and get the most out of it.
I think it's his way of acknowledging that he doesn't have the time to commit to this, and it's kinder in the long run for you to know this. Now I would take his marriage propsal with a pinch of salt, but why don't you just maintain a friendship with him in the next few months? That way you could get to know him slowly while still keeping your hand in, so to speak. And I'm sure he'd be appreciative of the no-strings support.
2006-10-28 05:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened to having fun??? Why are you in such a rush for a serious relationship?if you really loved him and he really loved you he would propose anyways and you wouldn't think twice about waiting for him most likely...if he wants to marry you why doesnt he ask you now?If you really love him...why is it such a huge deal to wait ? at the end of the day youve only been seeing each other for a month...theysay a persons true colours dont emerge for at least 3 months...so you really dont know each other well enough for any of this nonsense either way...take it easy and if i were you i wouldnt commit to anything...good luck ;0)
2006-10-28 05:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, you don't want to be with anyone who is going to put you through that!! He is being way too posessive, it you two were really meant for each other, then you would both see other people and naturally get back together!! But don't sit around for 8 months because he told you to..
2006-10-28 05:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by DefLeppardxXx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think he's worth it, patience is a virtue. Otherwise there's millions of dudes in this world, many of which may be just as good if not better than homey, so you ALWAYS have that option. Personally..i mean if ya'll REALLY click REALLY well (it has only been one months so you might just be infatuated) then go for it, otherwise it's only been a month.
2006-10-28 05:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dennis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to use the prospect of a possible proposal as a weapon to control you. Move on. You don't want to be with this guy: not now and not in eight months.
2006-10-28 05:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, if you have to ask you know the answer. If you loved him you would wait without question - so I reckon it is time to move on, he is probably Mr Wrong.
Good luck and I hope that you find Mr Wright.
2006-10-28 05:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would move on, why should you put your life on hold for the next 8 months
2006-10-28 05:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋