I'm still having feelings for my ex boyfriend, yet I'm married now. HELP!!?

Question

I'm married now w/ a 5 mos. old bby girl.I'm happily married, yet I'm in dilemma ryt now. 4 yrs.ago,I hd ds byfriend whom I reli loved so much.Although we'r stil college studs dat tym,I stil manage 2 gv time w/ my top 3 priorties.My famly, my studs, & hm.We see each othr evryday, dine 2gther & call each othr @ d phone whn we got home. Evrything was in gd condition. Bt 5 mos, aftr being 2gther, he suddnly said dat hes getting bored. He needd space, as wat he said.For hm,our daily activties as couples has bcome habtual. Although I cried in front of him,yet still agreed dat we wil gve each other space.Days running by & a lot had change.We wer as if normal friends.But a mnth L8r,we wr datng again bt d spark hs been gone.Bt stl I showd lov 4 hm.Bt, on d day of our 7th monthsarry,he nevr calld.I was so mad @ him.I sent hm mssages expressing hw mad I am,but he nvr replied.A day aftr,I receivd a letter frm hm & a rose.He broke-up w/ me.I reli cried.
I cant 4get hm.Im guilty now. Help me!!!

Answer 1

You need to stop thinking about this guy that obviously doesn't care about you. I don't mean to sound harsh, but he broke your heart twice. He's nowhere in the picture now and you're still letting him control your feelings. You owe it to your husband, your child, and yourself to forget about this loser before you destroy your family and get left with nothing. I know that it's easier said than done, but you need to put him out of your mind completely.

Answer 2

Stop thinking about yourself. You have children, you have a husband that you said "I do" who is depending on you. Doesn't your word mean anything? If you took everything away from you, all you have is your word. If your word doesn't mean anything, you're just a complete ZERO. When girls cry in front of my I run. I've seen it used to many times for manipulation. Look at what kind of partner you are? Deceitful, manipulative, it looks like the guy who got away is the lucky one. You have the chance to be the best mother, the best wife and teach your child the power of keeping your word. Please don't raise this child to be a lying deceitful person, the world is full of them. Teach him integrity, and get into integrity yourself.

Answer 3

You are married now, get over it. Move along little doggy. You have a child now that's called responsibility. Grow up. Tell him to take a walk and you need to focus on the needs of your baby and stop thinking about yourself and what you had or need. Maybe consider that you are going thru post-partium depression and talk to your doctor about it.

Answer 4

well you ned to follow your heart go with the wind if your heart tellz you that you still love your ex more than your husband then you need to just tell you husband that your not sure you can handel this and you are having seconed thoughts about another guy adn you dont want to hurt his feelings so it might be time to get a D-I-V-O-R-C-E beacause you cant go on with your marrige and like another guy maybe even more than your husband ok?
just be true to your heart beacause love is not always what it seemz and you cannot force yourself into it or force your self to live with it when you know that you dont love him as much as another guy and im sure that he will not be wanting his WIFE thinking about another guy while he is married and would much rather have her get a divorece and move on dont u think ?
well no i hope my advice have helped you if not i think it was worth a try

GOOD LUCK TO U!!
and about your daughter you will still be able to visit her and you guys van take turns having her like every other week or something trust me i know my parents wernt together after like ahwile after i was boren maybe a couple mothns jus go with your heart ok?

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 5

You shouldn't have rushed into marriage if you knew you still had feelings for him. It's not fair to your husband or child. You need to move on you are married with a child now and should try to make it work. You are sad at something that never would work. He told you it was over so get over it.

Answer 6

Just because the relationship with the ex boyfriend is over, it doesn't mean the emotional attachments are completely over... it's a mess that you have to work thru... & it takes time for that.
There is something about him that you'll always like/love/admire... & letting go isn't easy... you can't just flip a switch & turn emotions off... just realize that & you should be able to deal with it better.

Answer 7

learn how to spell so we can understand ur language. As what I understood. Move on or get with him. Leading a man on is mean. Would u like that done to u?Oh he could be playing mind games with u..to break yall up. Be careful theres alot of jealousy out there. Ur child should be ur main concern.

Answer 8

Well you could search him out to eaze your curiosity or you could go on with your married life and child and try and forget him which it seems you wont. I have a feeling he is really something special to you and you wont realize he is gone till you see him in another relationship if not married and then you both can go on with your life. I have a feeling he has gone on but you can't till you see or hear from him one more time. And I think that your husband and child will feel the blunt of this ill feeling of yours till you hear or see him again.

Answer 9

I think you feel bad for the guy because you got married and have a baby girl. You can be his friend and all but dont take it any further. Sorry if this message does not help you . Wish you the best. Go to a christian church. it helps everyone. talk to the pastor.

Answer 10

First, drop the text messaging shorthand. It is annoying. Next, put your child's welfare first and foremost in your life. You sound like the world revolves around you and your feelings. You forfeited that right when you brought a child into the world. Get some self respect and put yor child first.