I am a christian and I am also familar with 12 steps prgram.
God is moving my husband and I forward by allowing us to move accross country to live in December. I am happy and excited and thrillled to move. God is going to do great things, however A part of me as a hard time letting go. Letting go of the familiar going into the unkown, letting do of all my family and moving away I am very attached to my mom and sister. How have you ahndled this kind of situaion what was the event that made you truly let go and let God and not be so needy? How cane I let go and go forward? Thank you and God bless you now and always.
2006-10-28 04:31:37 · 14 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Having faith in God and following his lead is fantastic. However, following God does not mean that everything will be easy. God has given us the gift of innovation and we now have the Internet, unlimited long distance and cheap airfares. You can stay close to your Mom and sister in so many ways that do not require you to be physically close. Why don't you set up a website to share pictures of your new home and surroundings? Get a cell phone with unlimited long ditance and have regular phone calls. Plan trips well in advance and spend holidays together. The times you spend together will be much more special than ever before.
2006-10-28 04:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change, no matter the form, is always hard on us. We come to love the familiar because it is comfortable and we know where our world is. But always in life there will be change.
Change can go two ways for you. But how it effects you is up to you. You can be happy about it.....look forward to new and exciting things. Or you can look back and see what you are loosing or have lost and if done for too long it can do you in.
What you are describing is a lot like a child leaving home for the first time. We don't know what is out there....that is not ours to see.....we do know what we have and so we tend to want to hold on.
I can tell you this. The more times this happens to you for good or bad the more you come to understand it is only a part of life. To not move forward and not leave the known for the unknown is to limit your life. You would never know what you missed.
I am 65. Some of the best things that ever happened to me was because I took a chance. I didn't know it it was right or wrong but I took that chance. Things that go bad for you are totally out of your control. You loose your parents or siblings or spouse or whatever. Generally these things you have no say over. But you do decided how and where you are going to live and if that doesn't work out you try something else.
And with computers and phones your friends and family are a but a short distance away. And think of all the new people you will meet and opportunities that may present themselves.
Yes, it is always hard to change but more times than not it will always be for the good.
2006-10-28 12:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you. I know this is hard because my husband and I moved to another city a little over a year ago. My son is fourteen and is living with his dad (my first husband) in the city where we came from. I had lived across the country from my mom and family when I was a very young adult, but nothing is harder than leaving a child behind. We have never been apart, and I feel like I am suffering from the "empty nest syndrome" earlier than I am supposed to. At first, I felt like I was being punished. But, I know that God has a plan. I am standing in faith. Even though I get very sad sometimes, I just pray and trust God. There are many things that happen to people that we think we could not handle if they happened to us- then they happen. And it is time to grow. God gives us opportunity to show our obedience and our faith.
This experience of moving will be a wonderful beginning for you and your husband. Don't let the enemy steal your joy.
2006-10-28 12:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving across country is a really big move. It will be weird not having your mum and sister so close as you are used to. Thank goodness we have the internet and webcams! I live 2000km away from my family and they miss my kids terribly. We get online together once a week to view each other via webcam and keep in contact at other times via email and messenger.
When you get into your new place, don't get too bogged down with unpacking and sorting out your house. Work through it bit by bit, setting yourself achievable goals. Aim to get out and about for at least an hour a day; to church, the shops, to a mother's group, to work, for a walk around the block, to a community event.
The advantage of being a Christian is that when you move to a new town, you will have your church family and so you have a sense of belonging so much earlier than others who will have to make more effort finding like-minded people.
God bless and have a great move!
2006-10-28 12:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by nangari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psalm 120:1 says, "I call on the Lord in my distress, and he answers me." I don't intend to give you any cliches to try and help you but I think this is a verse that may help you.
Change is always difficult. But, you know that God has great things planned for you. And remember, if you really are close to your family you technically won't be letting them go, you'll just be a bit farther away. I am away from home right now and I had a very difficult time coping. My fiance has been a great help to me in my adjusting. Also, try to get involved in things right away where you move to. You will meet some new friends and will feel less alienated.
Most importantly, try not to worry. That is the best way to let God deal with everything. You have to do some things on your own in order to adjust, but try not to fret because it will make things worse. If you don't already have one, develop your own devotional time with God. Find some kind of daily devotional book and you will be able to develop your relationship with him more. Most important to developing this relationship is to read the bible. Through reading the bible you will get to know God and will understand how to rely on him.
2006-10-28 11:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by green_kiwi18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I got married, I moved 700 miles from my closest family (both proximity and emotional closeness.) We did all sorts of things to stay in touch and keep connected. It is not as bad as you think it will be.
As far as "letting go and letting God," I find that I have to worry until I cannot take it anymore and there is nowhere left to go. Then, I can let things go. I know God has the best in mind for me, and that all works out to his purposes, but I sure don't like them all the time. Finally, you just need to let go, and really let it go. Then you can have peace about it. As long as you are going to still worry, you are not really letting God do HIs part.
I have a quote on my refridgerator that helps me a lot. It was said by Mother Theresa. "I know God won't give me more than I can handle. I just wish he didn't trust me so much." That helps me a lot. Just let it go.
2006-10-28 11:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by tallnfriendlyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the best question yet! My answer: You have to accept that if the worst happens to you, that you can/will still be happy and at peace with yourself.
In your case, you need to accept all of the anxieties listed in your details as a *possible* reality:
The unknown may hurt you, but you will be strong enough to overcome it. You are at peace with being surprised with the unknown and not knowing what to do in every new situation.
Your friends and family may forget you or not hold you in as high regard or importance when you leave. You are at peace with losing your social status.
This was my life while growing up in a military family, in college, and in the Army myself. One day, I said to myself and to God, "My way isn't working at all. I want a steady income of $x per year in a job which meets the needs of my family and is interesting to me. With that said, God, Thy will, not mine be done." I found an excellent internship during the summer, which extended into the Fall (I let go of school), and found the job which I love. Now, everything that I ever wanted is happening in God's way. It works when you say, "I want [this], nevertheless, thy will, not mine, be done." Read the words of Christ in the Garden of Gethsemeni. He says the same thing to the Father, but sometimes, as in His case, we don't get what we want, but instead something much much better.
2006-10-28 11:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by Andy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
trust in God. If this is the right thing, you will know it in your heart and God wont let you down.
Letting go of anything can be hard, but is it a sacrifice, or a gift? Look at all the options, make a list of good and bad, and BE HONEST.
WWJD...holds true.
2006-10-28 11:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by shortandcutetoboot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, it isn't easy to let go of the safety net and reliability of our families. Letting Go and letting God comes with time and practice. The more you take the leap of faith and let God guide you and trust in him, the easier it becomes the next time God calls upon you to do something.
Letting go means letting go of the worry, the unknown is difficult at times to comprehend but if we focus on God and try to look at things from God's perspective, that He knows before things are to happen. I have had to recite in my head over and over scripture... and soon I began to believe it and the more you believe it the easier you are able to recognize God's hand in things.
Every good thing is from God... for those who follow God right? so therefore we need not worry or doubt. Give your worry to God and every time worry begins to set in, or doubt... ( I have had to say this ) Satan get behind me...
You love your family and it is hard to leave them, but just as God is taking care of you... He will never leave you nor forsake you, you can trust that God has plans for your family as well. God will take care of them.
It is natural to be uneasy in new surroundings, God knows this and understands. We are not perfect and unfeeling. Allow yourself to experience your grief, and do it in God's presence( in prayer) so that you can feel God's comfort, that is truly one way to experience God's love and healing! With that, you will begin to heal and actually feel yourself relying on God more... and soon it will just come naturally.
God bless your journey! God Bless your family
your friend, Shannon
2006-10-28 11:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is leading the way for you and your family.Letting go of loved ones is always hard,but we all have to do it sometime or other.Always keep your faith in Jesus and he will work things out for you.God Bless You and best of luck
2006-10-28 12:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by APOLLO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋