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How are you. I will like to ask you a question. Why did you kiss me? I will just like to know the reason you did these couple of times. I forgot to ask you the day we talked
I assume that you will ask the same thing me. Do you want to know why I kiss you? Because I like like, I admitted and the true is that I don't know why, you are a good guy, but there are other good guys around and I don't feel the same thing with them.
In love or not, I don't know it myself, and I am not in hurry to know it either. Its something I should mature on. But I can tell one that the reason I kissed you is because I like how you kiss, I don't even know if it has something to do with that. The true is that when I kiss you I feel more than a touch of your lips, is this current in my whole body that makes me feel i another planet. And this happen to me very rarely with other people. With the mentioned above, I think you understand what I am saying right? No more explanations then...
2006-10-28 04:31:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I value our friendship, since is from a lot of time. And I do not want to destroy it with future misunderstandings. Like I mentioned before not only I don’t deserve a boyfriend until I graduate from college, but I do not know how to manage these two things at the same time either. At least not for know.
I don’t know about you, but it sis going to take me a lot of work and especially discipline, to not cross the border of friendship to another thing. As you can see I am confused and in this case I rather prevent than to lament.
Now, since I have honestly expressed my feelings. I feel calmer now. It doesn’t matter your reaction or if your opinion is different. I will just like to know what do you think and don’t forget to answer me the first question.
Wishing you all the best,
Your friend,
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(ok that was, thanks for your answers)
2006-10-28 04:32:21 · update #1
what ?
2006-10-28 04:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if it was me then I of course kissed you as you kissed me but your right I might have gotten the wrong idea. But I would respect your will to complete college before you decide to jump into a relationship and I am sure that I would wait for that just to experience a beautiful kiss from you again
2006-10-28 04:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't imagine a guy paying attention for the whole thing. If you want to redefine the boundaries of your relationship, you need to be a lot clearer and briefer than that.
2006-10-28 04:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? No one could understand that.....
Remember, guys don't think like girls. You can't just go dumping your feelings on them and expect them to return them. Chances are, you'll make the guy really uncomfortable. Don't listen to all that "tell him how you feel" crap. Most guys are not into feelings-talk.
Guys are socialized to be emotionally "inept". Also, guys perceive things differently. When you go dumping your feelings on a guy, he takes it as if you think he should be responsible for your feelings. No one is. No one wants that job.
Why do you think so many guys don't want to "get involved"? Guys feel like they are supposed to be "in control" of their emotions, and see emotions as a weakness. They want to be respected and powerful, not feel vulnerable. They open up at their own pace, as they become more comfortable with the idea.
The thing is, you can tell how a guy feels by observing his behavior/actions, as his feelings are reflected in his behavior. And if something is not clear, all you have to do is ask. "What did you mean by that?"
You can find out in other ways by inquiring about their intentions. Simple questions. "Do you like hanging out with me?" "Do you mind sharing me with other guys, or do you want to hog me all to yourself?" "Does it bother you that I want to hog you all to myself?" Ask the questions!!!!! (But not all at once!)
Try to avoid asking him about his feelings at first. Just ask other stuff. Observe if his words match his behavior.
It seems to me that you are interested in more than a friendship with this guy, and you really like him. And you really want him to like you back. Don't scare him off by expecting that if you force emotional intimacy, you will win him over. You won't.
Remember that we all want the same things: To be admired, respected, appreciated, powerful, attractive, saught after, recognized, approved of, etc. These are 'hot buttons' that serve our ego needs.
Be the best person at admiring him and appreciating him. Give him attention and appreciation. Flirt with him and challenge him "So what kind of woman do you respect?". Pursue him but let him think he is the 'chooser'. Ask him questions and make positive observations about his answers.
You will be irrisistable to him when you do this. When you make it a challenge to him to discover your true feelings for him (because you don't just "dump" on him). When you do this he will feel good about himself around you. He will be comfortable around you when he doesn't feel like he has to 'go out of his nature' to impress you. He will want to win you over if you are somewhat mysterious.
No, it's not a game. It's just holding back a little. Open up at HIS pace, it you want him to hang around. You can't make a guy open up. It may be an attractive challenge, but don't do it. He will open up at his own pace, as you establish trust and rapport.
2006-10-28 05:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u lost me
2006-10-28 04:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by liss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your nuts
2006-10-28 04:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋