I have started seeing a girl, I like her. I thought she liked me BUT she hasn't invested anything in it. I have arranged all the dates, I have paid for everything, meals, drinks etc, and I have made all the phone calls.
We get along great when we're together, and there seems to be chemistry. But then again, she hasn't even bought me a drink yet (despite the fact that we sat in a pub for about two hours)!!
I mentioned this to a buddy of mine, and told him that I planned to move on because she obviously wasn't that keen when he said she might be but might just be playing by "the Rules"(a book).
I don't know if I am pleased that there might still be a chance of something or angry that I am being duped. I would like to talk to her, just to get it out in the open, but have no idea how to bring it up (I can't exactly say "So do you just not fancy me, or is this just a big ol'game?"). I don't even know what I would like to hear.
Any ideas? How would you feel
2006-10-28 04:26:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like she is just going along for the ride, like she really doesnt have anything better to do and instead of being home bored alone she'll go out with you and take advantage of your offer and $ in most cases if a girl likes someone there calling or something, now I will have to say sometimes people to grow on eachother and it might take her some time to realize what she has so after I dont know a month or two if nothing changes dont waste your time Its really painful when a relationship is one sided and your the one in love, Good Luck!
2006-10-28 04:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ... even if she were a "rules" girl, she could still cook you dinner or something.
How many dates have you been on? Is she really shy?
I would talk to her about it before you move on. Ask her if she likes you because you always have to call her. You can bring it up in a nice way by saying that it would be nice if she called you sometimes too.
2006-10-28 11:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would set up a date (somewhere in expensive) and ask her about it ... tell her that even though your a gentleman and wouldn't dream of allowing her to pay for something that an offer would be nice ...
I would also pick up a copy of the "The Rules" and read up on it and see for yourself if she is or isn't ...
I hate game playing and if she's doing this now she'll continue to play them throughout your relationship.
2006-10-28 11:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several options. She is either incredibly lazy or could be just mooching off of you. She might be following The Rules but it seems that she is just emotionally cheap. Why don't you pull back a little bit and see how she responds.
2006-10-28 11:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she definitely sounds like a Rules girl. I'm surprised to hear that someone actually takes that crap seriously. She should be willing to be treated like an equal. I suggest you read The Rules yourself to try to understand her better.
2006-10-28 13:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 hard work 4 a ***** and 2 pour personality 4 a lady . get another bird !
2006-10-28 11:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno. i always feel bad when guys pay for everything for me, haha. if i were you i would stop calling her and see if she calls you at all.. if she does, shes probably still interested, and tell her how you feel about the situation, and if she doesnt call, definately move on.
2006-10-28 11:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by jane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋