First, I will say that they can be very controlling...they tried to give me a 1030PM curfew at age 25..I moved out. They call early on weekend mornings for stupid stuff. They called first thing this morning for something totally unimporant,I told them it was too early on a weekend morning, and I would have to call them back later. My boyfriend works different hours, he was sleeping. They call late at night also. My biggest problem with them is that I have asked them over and over and over again not to call late at night or early in the morning unless there is an emergency.They keep doing so, calling at night when I have to work the next day, and weekend wake up calls. It is ALWAYS something that can wait.I have left the phone off the hook on weekend mornings but don't like to do this, in case, God forbid there is a real emergency.They know my boyfriend sleeps late on the weekends, last time I told them they woke him up, they laughed.
2006-10-28 04:21:57 · 22 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have an answering machine, but the phone still rings and wakes us up...I will probably go back to just leaving off the hook, I dont see any other solution. I love my parents but I wish they would not be so inconsiderate
2006-10-28 04:30:51 · update #1
Answer the phone and ask them if it is an emergency. If it isn't tell them you will call them back at a more reasonable time. Just make sure you don't indulge them once they have you on the phone. If they start talking about something that isn't something you want to be dealing with at that time, cut them off with a quick 'I have to go I have work in the morning, or I need to get something done' It isn't an immediate solution but after awhile they should get the point that they aren't going to get what they want out of you until they start respecting your wishes. Make sure you do as you promised and call them back though! If not you are being just as disrespectful.
2006-10-28 04:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by theresacra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard to deal with huh?
But lets turn this around and say your parents, once they knew you left the house, move to Florida or somewhere warm, and never ever called again. How would that feel? Would you be okay with that.
Now please try to understand where your parents are coming from.
My guess is you are an only child. If not maybe their only daughter. This is a very precious thing for parents and they have great hopes and dreams for you, and you made them a family.
Now you are no longer their. So what does that mean. Some of us breath a sigh of relief. But they may very well feel that with your moving out a very important part of their lives is over. never to return. So they are holding on to what little they have.
They no doubt hate that you are living with a man. Most parents want there daughter to find a man and get married and have children. They know that until your married there will be nothing that will keep him from, one day, leaving.
Yes it is irritating that they bother you all the time. But they would be devastated if they didn't call for a long time and found something had happened to you. There is nothing that could ever happen to them that would be worse.
Please try to understand that you are their lifeline to youth. With you in their life they still can feel a bit younger. Don't take that away from them.
2006-10-28 04:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since they won't listen to you, you are just going to have to find a way to take care of it. You could leave the phone off the hook. If there is a real emergency, I'm sure someone could come and knock on your door. You could also get a phone that allows you to turn the ringer off but has an answering machine that will pick up. That way if there was an emergency you could at least get the message. You could try just not answering it and letting the machine pick up--that way you could hear if it was an emergency and if you do that for awhile maybe they'll catch on.
2006-10-28 04:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kiki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an annoying life for you, that's for sure.They are not respecting your wishes and that wrong all together.Do they need to be put into a home or what? Since they are trying to piss you off,change your land-line# and keep the cell phone the same. Don't you charge your cell phone when your a sleep? Most people do, so they can still call and leave a message. Your parents have been playing cry wolf for a while and you should not feel guilty over this decision,good luck and I had to make ground rules for my mom a long time ago.Sad but true.
2006-10-28 04:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by mdzevolveddammit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get an answering machine or voice mail and let that pick it up for the early or late calls...that's what we do. My Mom likes to call late at night and my wife's Mom thinks everyone should be up and at em by 6 or 7 am...so we just screen the calls. They are your parents and if they're older you don't know how much longer you will have them around...so I wouldn't be complaining too much. I lost my Dad 4 years ago and you really miss those calls when they're not here anymore...something to think about.
2006-10-28 04:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh goodness...the baby boomer generation...I feel now that since our parents have enough money to provide any services that are required...that is how they have to go...they still call, demand, and that will give us serious issues when they are gone...we must let them know that they can have whatever they need from us when our time permits..and we have to control the time with fairness...we just have to take a stand..even if it means turning off all your phones, or lines of communication...there, I said it...
2006-10-28 07:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by basport_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start calling in the mornings about a half hour before they ring your phone. Just let them know you knew they were going to call and just wanted to make sure they were ok.
Call just before you go to bed at night and ask them if everything is ok. Tell them you are going to bed.
Otherwise, just unplug the phone and make sure they have an alternate phone number in case they can't reach you.
2006-10-28 06:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would turn the ringer off and let the machine pick it up. That way you can screen their calls to see if it is important. Whatever you do, do not pick up the phone before or after certain times. Just let the machine pick it up. You are going to have to train your parents to respect your privacy. By answering their calls, they are still very much in control.
2006-10-28 04:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Keep taking the phone of the hook until they learn .I dont know what country your in but in America they dial 911 which gives them all the emergency help they need when you and your boyfriend are awake then put the phone back on the hook .
2006-10-28 04:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay we both see that your parents are going to keep calling so you need to get a answering machine like I have.What I do is turn my bedroom phone ring off and let my living room answering machine get it.You can get one for under 20.00. Until u get one I suggest u turn off your phone at night in your bedroom and when u get up just call your parents and ask them if they called and what did they want.This should make them realize u are serious about their phone calls.Good luck
2006-10-28 04:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋