I have started to see this guy he is 4 years younger than what i am, We have had one date two weeks ago and have not seen each other since. He texts me the whole time morning noon and night. We live about 45 minutes away from one another.
Do you think its worth holding on and seeing him again as i dont know when that will be or do you think that it would be best to move on and meet someone new?
I do like this guy but i know that its good to take things slow but got a funny feeling that this is too slow.
What do you think?
2006-10-28 04:17:48 · 24 answers · asked by blondegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We did arrange a date last week but he cancelled has he had a job interview, has asked me out again for next month!
2006-10-28 04:26:15 · update #1
try a second date ... but don't go this slow ... going slow just means not jumping in emotionally quickly ... build on a frienship first ... but see him more ... you'll never know how things will be.
2006-10-28 04:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think YOU have already made up your mind you don't want to see him again. I always advise people to listen to that "little voice" in your head - it never lets you down and I believe that's what you're doing so well done.
You say firstly that he's 4 years younger than you. So what I say but it obviously matters to you for whatever reason(s) so that's what's important. 4 years is nothing believe me.
You also say it's good to take things slow but feel it's TOO slow so why haven't you seen each other since? Because you are always "too busy" would be my guess, despite the fact it's only been two weeks since you saw each other. It's obviously not going slowly because of him, is it?
So if he's not right for you, find someone else who is or if you really do like him, go out again and see how it goes and stop putting pressure on yourself ok?
Good luck. I wish you well. Envy you too I have to say. :)
2006-10-28 04:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by mancunian_nick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go out with him again. You never know, he may turn out to be someone that you're really interested in building a relationship with. On the other hand, he is 4 years younger than you. Are you sure that you have the same relationship goals in mind? That is something that you need to discuss with him (and not through text messages). Try another date. If it doesn't work out, at least you tried! Good Luck.
2006-10-28 04:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you should meet someone else. I mean he's not making much effort is he once in two weeks .... I would ask him if he actually wants to see you again and put him on the spot to arrange something if he doesn't then you know and go find a man who wants to see you. (PS I know he is 4 years younger but how old is he - I mean is it cos his Mum won't let him out?)
2006-10-28 04:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by Katie G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how old this person is. I am 4 years older than my husband, but we had a short period of adjustment because of our age difference. He may think he is really into this relationship because he is text messaging you all the time.
If you would like a relationship with him, and it is not moving, maybe you need to tell him that you want to persue a realtionship, but that you need to spend time TOGETHER, in order for you to be involved.
If you like the text messages, then tell him you want to be in his physical proximity as well. But, if the text messages bother you, tell him you would rather be with HIM, not with the telephone.
Good luck!
2006-10-28 04:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by tallnfriendlyone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever you think is best. My opinion is that you should move on bc if yall live about 45 min away, and you are 4 yrs older then him, then it look like it will be hard for yall to be together. So i think you should move on. But you should always do what you think is best, this is your life, not ours. You don't always have to listen to what we say, keep that in ur mind.
2006-10-28 04:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by xxMiizzCxx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might just be stringing you along if He has only seen you once over that length of time and he only live down the road from you 45Min's is no time at all if you really like some one.
Give him a couple of weeks longer if it does not get any better its time to move on.....Good luck.............JK x
P.S. Im single..............lol x
2006-10-28 04:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweet if you really like this guy then take things slowly hey whats the rush.built a friendship up with him get too know him more don't go and meet some one else cause deep down through what you have said you really like this guy.and that's worth waiting for i wish you all the very best off luck..................
2006-10-28 04:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by skye 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your instinct...
If you feel that it is going to slow, talk to him about it. If he really likes you he will make more attempts to see you rather than just talking to you on the phone or via text.
You can't really have a relationship where you just talk to someone on the phone...it will never work.
If you want your relationship with him to get anywhere, you have to start being with him in person to really get to know eachother better.
2006-10-28 04:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make the effort to see him more if u think there issomething there than age doenst matter. try out the realashonship and explain to him that goin to slow like goin to fast can alos be dangerous it makes things boring and slow. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-28 04:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by practicully_famouse 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋