My mum is coning to pick me up in about half a hour. My dad sed that i cant see her but he lives in spain. I live with my grandparents and they think my mum is aevil perosn because she split up form my dad 12 years ago.even thought this should not effect my relationship with her but the fact is it does. I am worried about telling ths to my grandparents as the loose it and treaten to kick me out. This wuld be ok but i love my school as the few friendsi have. I usually stay at my mums twice a month but my dad wants it less. she has already set off to pick me up. HOW CAN I TACKLE THIS ???
2006-10-28 04:14:49 · 12 answers · asked by hello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this is a tough position they're putting you in.
maybe you should write them a letter to leave behind while you're off with your mum. tell them that you want to stay with them because they mean the world to you but because they have issues with your mum, doesn't mean they have the right to try and change the way you feel about her because she is after all, YOUR mum!
In situations like this, you have to be tactful by telling people you wouldn't change things but ask them to understand that their feelings aren't your feelings and it's not fair to put a restriction on how much time you see your mum.
that's just not fair dude!
take it easy and try not to let things get you down! x x :-)
2006-10-28 04:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not let anyone hold you to ransom over seeing your mum or not, explain to your grandparents that you are not responsible for what happened between your dad and your mum and that your mum has been alright with you and you would like to see her without upsetting them. Explain that you would rather remain living with them but would also like to see your mum on a regular basis. As long as they know that you love them they should be ok with this but dont let them blackmail you if so move in with your mum. Good luck.
2006-10-28 11:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is difficult for u...
But I'm sure that ur grandparents are just threatening u and they will not really kick u out.
Your father is already away, and u do need a motherly contact.
A mother, even being a bad wife is still a mother. You should not be made to choose between parents.
Try talking to ur mother about it.
Best of luck my dear.
2006-10-28 04:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by flowerbud 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out and see her. She is your mother. You shouldn't be banned from seeing her. She loves you and you love her and you both know that. So just tell your dad and your grandparents to go f u c k themselves and get over it!!
Good Luck!
2006-10-28 04:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ariel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of it extremely is totally lifelike on your mom to no longer enable you flow to a occasion at somebody's homestead if the mum and dad heavily isn't homestead to oversee and/or there'll be alcohol, regardless of in case you do no longer plan to drink any. i became a tremendously tame baby, yet my mom consistently noted that it wasn't my behaviour she became traumatic approximately lots using fact the behaviour of the persons i became with. Being with people who're behaving irresponsibly ought to get you injury or (unjustly) in issue. no longer permitting you to flow to any style of occasion in any respect no count what, however, could be kinda ridiculous.
2016-11-26 00:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by frandsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy at home..and you should be able to see your mum..your grandparents are evil and controlling...your mum should be bringing you up...I bet your grandparents dont even know you are gay.
2006-10-28 13:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere near you there will be a Citizen's Advice Bureau. (See yellow pages, the web, or police station etc) Visit them and they will put you in contact with someone who can help.
Sincere best wishes to you.
2006-10-28 04:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's so unfair when adults use children as if they were a tug of war - all i can say is you've only got the one mum - sorry you've had such a bum deal in life - i wish you luck coz it sounds like you need it
2006-10-28 06:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by silly billy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
easy as hun, go live with your mum then! i would if my dad went spain without me, then my grandparents wouldn't let me see her, as the spice girls said "who do you think you are?"
2006-10-28 11:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are running up hill and going no where.unless you find a child lawyer or turn 18 you cant do much but hope things work out
2006-10-28 04:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋