u date someone with kids and you no longer see the him or the kids but u miss the kids more then u miss him? do u stay in contact for the kids or just let it go? really stinks to get in a relationship and he has kids and they u miss em and know u cant be there for them or do things with them
2006-10-28 04:11:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let ot go...they aint your kids
2006-10-28 04:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to put others' needs ahead of your own. If u think it may be damaging to the kids to see them (because they've already been through a lot & they'll think you're getting back together w/ u-know-who), then maybe it would be best to step back a little.
If you can, talk to the parent about the situation. He/She may say, yes I'd love for u to see the kids. Then problem solved. If not, though, I'm sorry. Hang in there, & maybe send them a card once in a while so they know you're thinking of them. :)
2006-10-28 11:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Rocker Chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. If you put yourself in the situation any longer, you will just build a stronger relationship with them and in the long run it is going to hurt you and the the kids more. Time will heal your pain!!! Just keep yourself busy.
2006-10-28 12:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be there for the kids and can't do anything with them. I know it sucks, but you just have to let go. They are his kids and if you're not seeing him anymore, they kinda go together as a package. I'm sorry, but this is the way it has to be.
2006-10-28 11:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by asiantomato84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KEEP IN TOUCH WITH THEM,ONE THING children never asked to come into this world, we made that decision for them and its up to us to take care of them , they lost thier mother and that hurts them like hell and now they lost you momma # 2 these kids will grow up with major relationship troubles please tay in touch and let them know that thiuer feeling count !
2006-10-28 11:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by blackd010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it go, at least you and the kids will have the memories if nothing else. besides, its his decision whether or not youre in his kids lifes, theyre his kids. i guess you can ask him, but if he says no, then just accept it.
2006-10-28 11:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by oliveirasgirl2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been here ... its sucks ... you need to just let go of the whole thing ... otherwise you'll be jealouse of who he is seeing ... he shouldn't be getting his kids involved with everyone ... what he is doing is wrong to them ... he shouldn't let them get attatched to people he doesn't plan on being with for a long time.
2006-10-28 11:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just leave him and the kids alone. if you be in contact with the kids, this could cause conflict with him. find someone new.
2006-10-28 11:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one really. But the best thing to do is to let it go maybe.
2006-10-28 11:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remove yourself from the situation. He'll think you're working him thru his kids.
2006-10-28 11:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww..that really stinks. The best would be to let it go. =(
2006-10-28 11:17:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋