2006-10-28 03:59:41 · 12 answers · asked by sexyback1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's something you will know. if you two love each other and you get a long well. time will tell. you will feel it. love takes time. don't rush it. let it grow.
2006-10-28 04:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend told me after her first date with a man - "We are going to get married." - and I about fell over! He hadn't proposed and they hadn't talked about marriage to each other - but they had talked A LOT and she knew they both wanted to be married - that they were both ready to be married - and that they had the same morals, values and goals in life. She knew all of that on the first date. They got married a year later. And now - they have been married for over 20 years.
I think that communication is the key. Her first date was a bit like an interview - and while that may sound cold - it's really very wise. You have to find out if the other person is ready to marry - AND - if they have the same life goals as you. If you really really want kids - and the person you're dating says "no kids ever" - it's silly to hope they will change - and unfair to them too. If you want to make a lot of money and live in a big house and drive a high end car - and the person you're dating is a big-time philanthropic liberal who likes to give most of their time and money to charity and is satisfied with a small apartment and a used VW Van - it's probably not going to work. If you think it's okay to steal paper and office supplies from your company, make an occasional racist joke, and talk behind people's backs - and the person you're dating is very ethical in every way - it's not leading to marriage - at least not a GOOD marriage.
Sometimes one person is ready and the other is not. If you're marriage minded - and don't want to play the "wait and see" game - put it out there that you are marriage minded. Usually - dating is really about finding the person you want for a life partner. Isn't it? If that's what it is for you - and you don't want to waste your time - let your dates know it.
Also - if you are only looking for marriage minded men with certain values and goals - you can really narrow things down these days by using Match.com or the many other Internet services out there.
Good luck!
2006-10-28 11:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to really "tell"...I mean really it's just based on the 2 people involved....
Are you both looking for marriage?
Do you love eachother?> Trust eachother?
Can you see spending the rest of your life w/this person?
Do the 2 of you discuss what you want for the future?
Have you infact or already discussed marriage?
If you were to be asked would you say yes?
Would you be saying yes for the right reasons and not just because you were asked?
To try to determine from the get-go if your relationship will be heading to the nearest chapel sometimes gets in the way of enjoying the relationship for what it is at the moment. Just take it as it goes....put too much emphasis on it now and by the time your faced with it, you may actually decide you don't really want it.
2006-10-28 11:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't until you get there. There are other questions - do you want to get married? and why? How about your partner? People get married for lots of wrong reasons, as you can tell by the divorce rate. I got married because, along with being deeply in love with Laurie, I thought she was probably the best human being I'd ever me in my life - and after 28 years, it's still true - good luck.
2006-10-28 11:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by johnmadsen53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word , compatibility. Marriage is like a partnership, you have to trust each other, and obviously their has to be love. If you dont get along then no marriage will last.
2006-10-28 11:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Zorro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time ask yourself what charateristics you want in a partner and dont settle for less .You should be the same .Basics..Honest trustworthy faithfull able to comunicate with each other well ,want to be with that person more than anyone else ,caring and sharing.
2006-10-28 11:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time tells. Don't rush, and if you feel there are some red flags, get out of there!
A year here, a year there, and next thing you know 20 years have passed.
2006-10-28 11:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest... you really don't know... you can love the person to death.. but you never know what can happen... one little thing might go wrong.. and BANG! he/she is gone forever... but I can tell you this...
if you have feelings for this person... feelings that you've never felt before... feelings that.. everytime that you think about him/her.. and everytime you dream about them.. and everytime you are with them... you feel that it couldn't be anymore perfect.. any more better... feelings that make things so right... so special.. feelings that.. just for them, you would do anything and everything.. just to be with them.. for 5 minutes.. feelings that.. you are willing to do things.. you have never done before in your whole life.. feelings that..... you can't explain..... then, maybe that's a sign that the relationship will go a long way...
2006-10-28 11:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by betodemise46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If feelings(genuine love) from the day of courtship til recent is constant.
2006-10-28 11:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if for example you and your partner talk about your future together, and plan everything out, talking about starting a family and having kids
2006-10-28 11:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Valencianista 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋