i asked a girl out she said yes but the day after that she dumped me?

Question

she heard from my mate that i dint like her that i just wanted a girfriend but thats not true i dont know what to do now and i like her for real

i have dumped the friend he was my best mate not anymore i told her how i feel about her ive been waiting for a week now should i got to her and ask her if she is gonna say yes or should i wait till monday and ask her i really wanna see her and the tension is killing me!!!!!!!!! what should i do

everyone thanx for giving me some advice i really apreciate it im not hanging with the bastard of a friend its true that he said it and the girl herself dont want a boyfriend not now anyways

i told her how i feel about her gave her some time and the problem is im not sure if she is ignoring me should i do anything about that??

i told her how i feel about her gave her some time and the problem is im not sure if she is ignoring me should i do anything about that??

Answer 1

I have to wonder how you know your mate told this girl what he did. If you know for sure that he did (maybe he told you) he doesn't sound like much of a mate to me. A true mate would not sabotage your chances in establishing a relationship with a girl. Perhaps he's jealous because it would mean less time for him to hang out with you. It's also possible that he likes the girl himself and figured he'd clear the field so he could take her out. Could it be that she fabricated the story herself?

Think about it for a moment. His story is very lame. I don't know of any relationships where one half of a couple becomes involved just for the sake of being able to say they have a girlfriend/boyfriend. It's just not logical. There has to be some genuine liking going on.

Regardless, I think you should ask her out again, letting her know that you'd like to talk to her about what your mate told her. Explain to her that she should ignore his negativity because he doesn't know what's really on your mind or in your heart. Then tell her that, yes, while you do want a girlfriend, you don't want just A girlfriend, you want HER to be your girlfriend because you really like her. The thing is, if she's that important to you, you have to try again.

If she doesn't want to see you again, even just to talk it out, what your mate may have said to her or what she may have made up wasn't the reason she dumped you. It was a convenient excuse for a way out. If that's the case, you'll need to move on; but I think if it's that important to you, you should at least try to clear the air with her so the two of you can start again.

When I was very young, I used to watch soap operas with my mom. Even then I often wondered why the characters didn't just speak their true feelings (duh, 'cause then the shows woudn't be interesting) instead of pretending the opposite. I now realize that it is not always so easy to speak what's on your mind because you're anticipating the other person's reaction to be negative. Hard as it may be, the key here is open and honest communication. Lack of communication is one of the major reasons why relationships don't succeed.

Hope this is helpful and good luck to you!!!!

Oh, one more thing. If your mate did, indeed, tell this girl nontruths about you, you need to straighten him out and let him know that you are not amused.

Answer 2

first of all, commence paying interest on your English class. And to respond to your question, possibly he in basic terms didn't want to break your emotions by technique of exclaiming no, or perhaps because you probably did not get to be at the same time both days you've been "at the same time" he did not see it going everywhere, or perhaps he in basic terms realized that you 2 are more effective perfect as acquaintances, or perhaps he likes somebody else. quite there are diverse motives. it could be reason he's 15 and 15 year olds are stupid. that would want to be my wager, and also you in all likelihood do not love him because, um. you at the instantaneous are not even at the same time, and also you're 15. decelerate and artwork on a relationship till now you "fall in love." Sorry if that sounded preachy, it wasn't meant to be. xx-Shelby

Answer 3

You could always create a scheme to woo her into coming back, you could convince her that your friend was mistaken, you could realize that You never really dated her and you can't really much else unless you really know her and you really care about her and you would know how to fix it (maybe not exactly but at least how to approach her and what she won't respond to for sure), but before you do that you need to FIX YOUR FRIEND.

Why would he say that? It's either he got mixed signals from you or that he likes the girl himself. I don't think it's the latter. It looks like you may have competition.

Answer 4

if u truly love her, you'l do everything to let her know of your true feelings. don't give up. but if she prefers to listen to other people without consulting you,then at least you discovered a trait that is not good. better move on then and face life. she's not the only girl in this world. try your best to talk to her and explain your side. if she listens to you, fine. if not, then better move on. the world has so much to offer.

Answer 5

That used be called "fickle". I don't know what its called today, but if she goes off the deep end solely on what your friend said, then she has issues that you should not have to deal with.

I hope that you don't like this girl so much that she will make you a doormat.

Answer 6

First thing you do is slug that mate of yours around until you feel better. Then tell your girl that anything he said to you was a lie and that you would like to date her again. Then wait.....
And wait...

If nothing happens then live on. Life goes on and there are plenty of beautiful girls to meet, and each of them brings something special.

Answer 7

how did ur mate hear u didnt like her? maybe u should try to talk to her about it and see if there was some miscommunication. people can perceive things wrong and u would not get a chance to really get to know someone u really like

Answer 8

Get over it. If she is stupid enough to believe what someone else says rather than find out for herself, why would you want to be with her?

Answer 9

That's rough. Just be patient and give her time and space to work out what she wants to do. You don't want to put her of completly do you.

Answer 10

lose the 'friend' and move on to another girl - do not chase women