I have already bought her a present, which happens to be a toy that she asked for. Today I find out from her mom that a couple of weeks ago my niece lied to her father, so as her punishment she would not get any toys for her birthday. Now my problem is why couldn't they call me and tell me this. I'm am the notorious toy-giver in my family. Today is a particularly nasty day on the east coast so I have no intention to take out my son to buy another gift. My question is should I give her the toy or just cut the 5yr old a check as a birthday present?
2006-10-28 03:33:38 · 12 answers · asked by Meda1nonly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Well that was kind of rude of them to not tell you. If she understands the value of a check (some kids will be like 'wow thanks, a piece of paper .....) then you could hang on to the present and give it to her for christmas, and give her a check for her birthday. But I'd call first and make sure that the punishment is set in stone....maybe they'll lighten up and let you give her the toy
2006-10-28 03:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dani 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know this will probably cause family problems, but I would give her the toy. I think that is an inappropriate punishment for a five year old. She is 5. Could her mom not think of a more appropriate punishment for a five year old. Kids will lie it is your job to teach them about lieing and the consequences of lieing. I would definately punish her, and talk to her, but to not give a 5 year old any toys for a birthday is cruel. When I said consequences of the lie, I mean that when someone lies you lose trust in that person and that it takes time to regain that trust.
You have always been the toy giver, I would give it or she will think you dont love her because she lied. Kids are funny and i am telling you she needs to know everyone still loves her even though she did a bad thing. I will take any flack I get over this. E-mail me at janinebat@msn.com. Also, if you have another question. Good luck.
2006-10-28 03:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her the gift. You found out the information second hand (from your mom) and not from a call from them requesting no toys. Since they know you are the notorious toy-giver, they would know you'll show up with a toy for a gift.
The bigger question is what kind of parents punish a small child on that level for a lie? For heaven's sake, she's FIVE. If they really go through with it, she will remember her horrible 5th birthday long after the lie is forgotten! My heart goes out to this little girl.
2006-10-31 04:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 5- yr. old girl also. Would the parents be upset with you if you gave the toy? If you think you could get away with it, I would just give it. Otherwise, could you get a gift certificate for Amazon.com or something like that? That way, you could tell her (and her parents) that she could pick out any book or dress up clothes or whatever she wants, or (if her parents approve) a toy for later. That is really a tough punishment for a 5-yr. old - no toys for her birthday. My last alternative would be to give cash. That would be a lot more exciting to a child than a check.
2006-10-28 03:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Dawn C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is awful that they did not tell you this but I also can't understand why they are punishing her for one of the best days of her life. All kids look forward to their birthdays and to deprive her of this is beyond bad. I would save her birthday present for a Christmas present. I would not take it back. There could have been a different kind of punishment for her lying to her father, but not on her birthday!
2006-10-28 03:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all..how do you punish a child like that..saying no toys for your birthday..that is so ridiculous..she's 5!!!!! honestly i would give it to her..they shouldn't have done that..that's not your problem..you have already spent money on this gift..i have family members that kind of do the same thing..and it's crazy..give her the gift that you bought ..if they don't understand that..well they have the problem...good luck!!
2006-10-28 04:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tara D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the father would probaly get mad at u 4 getting her a toy so give her the money (the same amount of money the toy costs)so when she gets out of punishment she can buy the toy herself and the parents wont be mad @ u
2006-10-28 03:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of parent takes away toys on their child's birthday? She's only going to be 5 yrs. old once! Couldn't they just have made her do extra chores or taken away priveledges? I can't believe a parent would do that..she's only going to celebrate her 5th birthday once--and 5 yrs. old is a big day! Just give her the toy...she deserves it after what her parents did to her.
2006-10-28 04:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how inconsiderate of them not to tell you.
anyways, i think you should write her a check or give her some money and a week later giver her the toy you bought. if she asks why just tell her, "because your my most favorite niece in the whole world!"
works every time. good luck, dude...
2006-10-28 03:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was very rude of her parents to not let you know . Just hang on to the toy and give it to her when she is allowed to have it.
2006-10-28 03:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋