Okay ... here's the situation i really like this guy ... i guess he's about 25-ish and he was chatting me up through text .. he asked how old i was and i told him i was turning 18 on friday .. he hasn't texted back .. it's only been about an hour but still ... what do you reckon .. could this ruin us getting together? would he really mind about the age gap? how about if you were the guy in this situation? Really need your help URGENTLY! Shall i text him again to break the tension?
2006-10-28 03:21:57 · 23 answers · asked by Ciara 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay ... here's the situation i really like this guy ... i guess he's about 25-ish and he was chatting me up through text .. he asked how old i was and i told him i was turning 18 on friday .. he hasn't texted back .. it's only been about an hour but still ... what do you reckon .. could this ruin us getting together? would he really mind about the age gap? how about if you were the guy in this situation? Really need your help URGENTLY! Shall i text him again to break the tension?
Okay he texted me .. i'm such an idiot blew EVERYTHING outta proportion! :P
2006-10-28 05:34:19 · update #1
The age gap is not the problem!
The problem seems to me is that you know nothing real about him or him about you.
At just turned 18 you have a whole life of experiences ahead of you that will thrill you
For now get to know your own age peers, go out with lots of friends, expand you view of the world and people in it.
By all means be friends with this guy but bear in mind that you could be in for a very nasty surprise too if it turns out that he is other wise accounted for....
make lots of friends from all walks of life, learn to appreciate every one as individuals, give your self a chance to mature gracefully and be in a position to make much better judgment in the very near future.
I wish you lots of fun, love and luck for the future.
2006-10-28 03:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bliss 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok....from my expieriance an age gap is nothing but numbers. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are 10 years apart!!!! We're compleley in love and the age thing is not an issue with us! My parents are 10 years apart and his parents are like 8 years apart. His best friend and his wife are 11 years apart and they have a 2 year old. It's not about age but the feelings you have for the person. If you are texting him and he hasn't answered yet then I'd give it another try. However if it's only been an hour give a little while longer. Guys aren't big on texting or phones in general. But if you're texting him it means you have his number, so I'd just go for the phone call!!! I know my guy would rather hear my voice then see my words in a text!!!
2006-10-28 03:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by dominicanbee907 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you don't know how old he really is, but I would wait until he texts you again--and then ask him. If you don't hear back, I don't think its anything you need to stress. After all, its been an hour--there could be a boatload of reasons why he hasn't responded that has zero to do with your age. I think you are over-analyzing this situation. I could see if you actually knew this guy--but you don't. If you assume he's 25 he may be much older, and with you being 17--that is sick, so you need to prepare yourself for that. (He also could be closer to your own age, too)
But if you never hear from again, because of all of the unanswered questions and so many variables, I wouldn't worry about this at all. Move on.
2006-10-28 03:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by rrticulate1 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably freaked out because if you are saying you are turning 18, he is wondering if you are really or if you might even be underage. Also, there is too much of an age gap, as you are still a teenager and he is legally able to go out and drink and do adult things. It's not the number of years between you, but the fact that you are still pretty much a kid in his eyes.
2006-10-28 03:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He better get over it. I had just turned 18 when I met my guy, who was 25 at the time, and we got married a year and a half later. He's probably just a little freaked about the legal aspect of it. Let him know you're not pressuring him into a serious relationship or anything, you just think he's fun. And, even if he only wants to text until you're 18, that's fine.
2006-10-28 03:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by smashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would all depend on how mature you are. Some 18 year old girls I have met are more mature than some 30 year old girls ive met. Also approval from your parents helps a guy alot in this situation. No guy wants an irate father hunting him down for banging his teenage daughter. As for the age gap, its not that big and its normal for young girls to be attracted to older men. Its been going on for thousands of years. its also normal for guys to be attracted to younger softer more beautiful women. Try not to be too over anxious. If you come on to strong, he might mistake you for bieng a "fatal attraction style" crazy girl. Its happened to me several times. Try to play a little hard to get. This will keep him challenged and interested. Also try to be up front with your intentions, Let him know you "just want to have some fun" or "lokking to get married" or whatever it may be. Hope this helps. good luck, jason
2006-10-28 03:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by starksolarsystems 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next week when you are 18.. the 7 year difference isn't a problem, except when you turn 21 he will be 28, and may not want to live those days again with you!
2006-10-28 03:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would text back......hello, you have gotten quiet is there a problem with the age difference?
That might be it, If you are only 17 now he is messing with jail bait and that would scare alot of the good men away. If he was a sleezy guy then he would probably not have had a problem with it.
2006-10-28 03:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol..it's only been an hour?....just text him back, don't let it drive you crazy!...ask him if he has a problem with your age it's not a big deal but what ever you do don't' be childish about it!...and he may think your lying & not really fixing to be 18 because how conveiniant for you to be turning 18 & not 19 or 20 or whatever!...any way u will never know if you don't ask him!
2006-10-28 03:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly this adult males is alot like me 15 years of age and acts alot older so in case you inquire from me take it slow. think of approximately it your 17 im particular you have had intercourse. hes 15 its a threat that he has to, yet possibly no longer. so attempt to take it slow on the actual section he it going to objective to go quickly with you and you already know for you to a minimum of wait till hes sixteen. additionally if hes mater as you assert then you definately must be wonderful im in basic terms pointing out issues that could slip your mined.
2016-10-03 01:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by esannason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋