I'm not a parent, but I'd like to get parents' opinions on this. My nephew just turned 5 and for the past year he's been trying to get a look down my shirt. He doesn't do it all the time, just once in a while. He's always snuggling up to me and trying to sit on my lap, which I love because he's such a sweet little boy. I don't even see it coming because he doesn't do it every time. And, I'm not wearing low-cut or tight tops, just a crew neck top or a sweater. I'll say "Hey! Don't do that!" and my sister-in-law will hear me and then scold him. What specifically should I say to him? Is there any way I can get him to stop?
2006-10-28 03:19:46 · 19 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My three year old does something similar, he will put his head up my shirt. I think they are just curious. I would simply explain to him what they are( boobs, boobies etc) Then explain they are your private parts and that it makes you uncomfortable. He is old enough to understand. You have an advantage over me, my; son is to young to understand private parts. With my son he likes to peek up through my shirt at me. I just think it is a game. It just makes me uncomfortable. I don't want him to do that in front of someone especially. His mom should also talk to him. But , please don't in anyway think he is a pervert or something or this is the way he will be. That is absurd. He is just curious and kids dont think like adults they are taught. Good luck.
2006-10-28 03:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is old enough to understand that looking down a shirt is rude, especially if he is TOLD that it is rude. If I were his mother, I would be worried about him not being able to control his impulses. ALSO, she should have talked to him about "private parts" of bodies. This is important so that he tells HER if someone touches HIS private parts. I guess what I'm saying is that he should have the context for understanding that what he is doing is wrong. If he doesn't, SOMEWHERE there is an issue that needs resolved.
2006-10-28 03:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is at the age where he notices differences between female and male bodies. It is very normal, unless you treat it like a crime.
Explain to him that looking down people's tops is a rude action, just like how you wouldn't go and put your foot on people's heads. Tell him firmly, but don't smack or make him feel embarassed.
2006-10-28 06:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's 5. he's curious. Breastfeeding isn't something to be ashamed or embarrassed approximately, and if it comes up at his college, the academics who're used to 5 year olds will understand in the event that they ask approximately it. making a huge deal out of this might basically make him do it greater. If it bothers you, lock the door. My pal's son, with reference to the comparable age, used to return sit down perfect next to me while i became nursing while vacationing his mom. i comprehend darn nicely he became in simple terms involved by way of fact he'd on no account seen women in simple terms deliver them out like that. i did no longer care, by way of fact it quite is a organic technique. i do no longer understand why you care that lots. If something, make it a gaining knowledge of risk.
2016-10-16 12:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a simple "don't do that" with out blowing a gasket is fine. He is a growing boy and that is just a growing stage. You just have to explain many times that he can't look down every ones shirt.
2006-10-28 03:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is just curious about life. Maybe some kids level anatomy and "how stuff works" books for Christmas would be a good gift.
2006-10-28 03:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of kids do that, I'am A girl and done that to one of
my aunt's, dont worry thew it's does'nt mean it's some
kind of sexual thing, A 5 year does'nt have those feeling's
as an adult, the child see's something he does'nt have and
is just curious.......................
2006-10-28 04:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by koko 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap his face and get his attention. Don't laugh or even smile or he will think your just joking with him. Tell him he is not to look down anyone's shirt. Then send him to his room for a certain amount of time. Then bring him back and explain that you still love him, but he is not allowed to look down your shirt. (When I say slap his face I don't mean knock it off his shoulders, but make sure he feels it.)
2006-10-28 04:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Bekka 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's either something he's learned on TV, or your sister-in-law is doing what the person above me suggested (the showering thing) and now he wants to see you too :)
2006-10-28 03:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by guitarsoloist07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is normal for young children. the best thing to do is immediately get his attention on some thing else. if this does not work then [you] need to explain to him that behavior is not nice and to please be aunties good boy and that will make you happy. if he does it still then look sad tell him your sad and why your sad. he should then [want] to make you happy.
2006-10-28 03:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋