2006-10-28 03:07:59 · 23 answers · asked by sparkles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Contact him.
2006-10-28 13:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulation. Your prayer had been answered. U already found your dad. He is still well and alive. How grateful, U should be to see your dad again. Well, what else U should do when U see him. Hugged him. show how concern U are towards his well being. Buy him a present. Make him happy. Call for a family reunion party.
If U know what he likes most, get it for him. Bring him to places where he likes to visit. Call his friends and arrange for a get together with his friends. Celebrate and give him a treat which he had missed it for a very long long time.
After the celebration, take care of him and treats him well. Fulfill his dreams and make him happy. Happy reunion.
2006-10-28 10:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by atbt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother who lost track of her son due to separation and custody battle. The day my son found me was the most joyous day of my life other than giving him life. Not saying your reunion will be spectacular. Take it easy and go with the flow. Ask him if you can ask questions or if it would be best just to get to know each other first. Try not to get angry, the issues you feel over the situation of him disappearing may surface right away but try to keep calm and talk about those things when the time is right.
I was game for any questions my son had to throw at me. But that may not be the issue with your father.
2006-10-28 11:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True story:
I got a divorce in 1989, (nasty one) and lost contact of my 2 boys for 12 years even though I pay my child support on a regular basis. She moved, and failed to mention where she moved to. Last year in May, my 2 boys found me. I hopped on the fist plane out to go see them. Now, we talk everyday, and as a matter of fact, both of them are coming over next month to spend a week with me. After years of separation, there was no bitterness, or uneasiness, it was like we have been together this whole time. When you meet your dad, just go slow, and everything will fall in place.
The best of luck to you!!!!
2006-10-28 10:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hiya,all i can suggest is speak to him,meet somewhere public if you feel nervous, and take a friend along,you wont feel so bad that way and it's someone you already know too. Be yourself,after all you have managed without him for this long haven't you?? Your dad is the one who has missed out. Good luck xXx
2006-10-28 10:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by kato_1963 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on why he hasnt been in your life up until now. As someone just posted, things can go great. There are always 2 sides to a story. Give him a ring and see how receptive he is. Small steps. Good luck.
2006-10-28 10:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter. Give him your details and just say that you would like it if you could catch up sometime. The ball is in his court then. If nothing comes from it then just remember, you are a wonderful person and you got this far without him. Good luck x
2006-10-31 17:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Dancing Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of exactly what it is you have been hoping for. Ask questions but don't overwhelm him. Learn about his health history, as that is useful information. Treat him like you would treat any new acquaintance, with respect and interest. If it leads to a closer relationship, that's great. But don't get your hopes too high. I hope the best for you.
2006-10-28 10:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The general tone of the answers above is correct and the advice (mostly) sound.
Take it slow. Expect nothing. Hope for everything.
Wish you the very best hope it goes well.
2006-10-28 13:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by scrambulls 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ifyou wanted to find him you must have cared. If you cared then follow your instincts and try to find love, forgiveness, compassion, or whatever in your heart.
Why you drifted apart is a major factor but I bet he hasn't stopped thinking about you through time. Whatever you do, don't give up this opportunity for reconcilliation.
2006-10-28 10:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by costa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hope you have better luck than i did, i met mine for the 1st time when i was 15 and hated him, he left my mum when she told him she was pregnant and when he met me thought he could slag my mum off to me, he also thought that we could just pretend the past didnt happen, i soon told him where to go.
just ring him, dont be anyone but yourself is he doesnt like it that tough, you have come this far without a dad and if it all goes wrong you know you can carry on without one.
Goodluck
2006-10-28 10:11:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋