2006-10-28 02:58:57 · 13 answers · asked by Summer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump him
he needes to trusdt u love and trust go together
2006-10-28 03:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by veronica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not an easy question to answer and there is no right way to do this.
The guy who no longer trusts you, but do you know why he does not trust you ? this could be either a reason not to trust you from evidence he has(real or fabricated) or there could be a misunderstandiing somewhere. In my humble experience mistrust is often a direct result of misunderstanding.
If it was something that you shouldn't have done, you know it and you regret it then the only way is eat humble pie. admit it and make it up to him and hope it starts to trust you again.
Now you can never MAKE a person trust you again, it's always going to be up to them to place trust in you again. You are not responsible for this so at the very least you must accept this. which I am sure you have already.
His conditions of trust, have caused this problem can you live with them into the future or is it just too constraining...someone earlier asked is he too possesive ? This is just one indicator of whether you could live with these conditions of trust, there are many more.
Next thing is do you value his trust and friendship ?
In addition is this a minor trust issue and is it interferring with all the good things. The good things could dwarf the trust issue and the trust issue may be being taken way out of proportion. If it is important then it needs to be put back into proportion to the rest of the relationship.
So that's the background but what do you actually do?
Well you should have more information to choose:
1) whether you want any future relationship with this guy
2) how much you want friendship
3) what the reality of the situation is (i.e.: is the break of trust real or imagined)
4) to right size the issue, if it's a big issue keep it as a big issue, if its a small issue don't make it too important.
Regardless you must have enough information to explain any misunderstanding and reasons in a way that you can both understand and come to a new choice to restart the relationship you have
Hope this helps but I've run out of time
good luck
2006-10-28 04:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is why doesn't he trust you? Have you given him reason for this? If so then it will take time for him to trust you again. Or if you havenlt done anyhting then it may be that he has been hurt previously by someone else, or is that you're pretty and he's just paranoid and possessive. Whatever the reasons you have to be petient and reassure him but you can only do thd for so long - it is then up to you to decide whether you can handle being with someone who constantly questions what you do and where you go - this might be flattering at first but you will get tired of it eventually. Not all men are like this.
2006-10-28 03:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Katie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very hard spot to be in. The only way to get him to trust you again is over time. You need to be able to prove time and time again based on what his reasons are, that he can trust you. You need to get yourself into situations that you can earn his trust back. This is not something that happens overnight or even a couple of months. It is up to you whether you want to put in the time and patience to work hard at it and stick with it. No matter how long it takes if he is that important to you.
2006-10-28 03:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by sd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a guy not to trust you you would have needed to give him cause!
just a thought!
2006-10-28 03:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he doesnt trust you. Try and find out the reasons for the lack of trust. In all likelihood, its because of some insecurity of his.
Reassure him that it isnt how it is.
2006-10-28 03:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Shmoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheat on him and give him something to not trust you for!
2006-10-28 03:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sneaky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't trust you, have you done anything untrusting? umm you can share a secret with him or give him something of sentimental value to you to take care of or something. iunno if you give him a task which involves trust than he'll trust you more.
2006-10-28 03:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by flaming_ichigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste my time and energy on him and would dump him.Trust is the basis of a relationship,if you don't have trust then you have nothing.
2006-10-28 03:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him that u are trustable - u need to be askin "Y doesnt he trust me?" n "What did i do to make him feel his way?" then honey u may ask "What will u do if a guy that u loved doesn't trust u? "
goodluck!
2006-10-28 03:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋