seems to care anyway. on our wedding day everybody gave us gifts but not him, on our birthday everybody send us gifte but not him and his wife, on the other hand we do send gifts to everyone including him...this time i feel like not sending his kids anything...whats your advice?
2006-10-28 02:43:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
oh i forgot, and he never calls us, unless we call him we never hear anything from him so in most cases we depend on other family members to hear whats new.
2006-10-28 02:45:31 · update #1
actually they say he is richest in the family, so him not buying gifts doesnt mean he is poor, we buy them gifte and we are not as rich as them.
2006-10-28 02:53:42 · update #2
I EVEN OFFERED BABY SITTING AND THEY REFUSED. am i being too nice???
2006-10-28 03:05:24 · update #3
He sounds real mean, but it's the kids that will miss out, why don't you send them little keepsake gifts, like a photoframe that they can have their birth details engraved on or piggy banks, from now on if he doesn't send gifts then why bother sending them anything.
2006-10-28 02:47:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Be the bigger person and remember it's for the kids. We have the same issue with one of our family members so we opted not to send gifts to the adults but we do send gifts to the children. As they've gotten older the kids have made a point of at least calling, saying they got our gift and thanking us for them.
2006-10-28 03:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you give a gift, it should be because you want to do it. It's a "gift" not an obligation. You shouldn't expect anything in return.
From now on instead of giving your brother gifts and be resentful, give instead to your nephew and nieces as the case may be, they will grow up knowing you, add cards with little personal notes to them. This will probably also improve your relationship with your siblings.
2006-10-28 03:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Muriel V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy something for the children. They didn't do anthing wrong. Maybe they can't afford it. Stop buying for the adults and give only to the kids. Still buy cards though. In my family once someone has children the adults don't recieve gifts anymore. Except from our parents.
2006-10-28 02:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I have a brother similar to him. But I dont take it out on the kids. Get something for the kids but when its the adults birthdays just send a card. Same with Christmas.
2006-10-28 02:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by betty boop 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So, you are gonna take his behavior out on infants??
Gifts aren't contingent on what someone has done for you, they should be given freely with no strings attached. Maybe your brother doesn't have the money for all the gift giving, or maybe he is being selfish, Only you know that. But if you disapprove of his behavior don't behave like him.
2006-10-28 02:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a family issue. My first thought is to give a card. It still shows that you care but you are not breaking the wallet. If your brother is the one known for having the money in the family. Then these babies are not going to be lacking in anything. Maybe you should have your husband address the issue with him if it does bother you this much. Life is not all about gift giving, it is about showing that you care about one another. It sounds like you are trying to show you care and not receiving anything in return. Just remember it's not about what you receive it is about what you give in the end.
2006-10-28 03:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by cargrl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Look...
Don't give based on what others do.
If you want to commemorate the birth of your niece/nephew... then do so. Gift from the heart... and your gift will surely be appreciated.
Gifting based on OBLIGATION or IF they got you something... is so... mercenary... I mean take a baby step back... and look at this objectively. Isn't it like REALLY CLEAR?
2006-10-28 02:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't exclude his kids because he's a jerk, it's not the kids fault. Keep giving gifts to the kids they will grow up to see what their father is like and respect you for accepting them. Be a hero, not a zero. You'll feel better about yourself too.
2006-10-28 02:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
having babies in the family is a huge step away from everyone's comfort zone, so the parents will be extremely grateful for any help
well, since you don't know what to get them, give them gift/cash coupons or vouchers from either the baby stuff shop or the supermarket....
you could give them a 'babysitting' coupon... mayb like babysitting them for free.... mayb for a couple of days a week.... or a couple of weeks a year... it'll be a great way to bond with both the kids and the parents.
i wouldn't suggest giving them toys because infants don't really need them now... they need food, diapers, a cot, car baby seat, baby monitor etc.....
gd luck finding a gift!
2006-10-28 02:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋