please be respectful and honestly. what do you think.
I can please my girl in everyway possible. except when it comes to the sack. she says its good, but no matter what i do she just wont have an O. is it just me and shes lieing, she swore its just her that she has a hard time having an O while having intercourse. i heard its hard for some women..but is it really that hard? any tips for women like this? it would great and help me a whole lot.
and please no making fun. thats just immature and childish.
2006-10-28 02:07:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you are willing to ask is a good thing, and the truth is, most women, about 80%, have a hard time having an orgasm from just intercourse. Some cant do it at all, not with out a lot of concentration.
Generally, clitoral stimulation is key, during sex, and and oral sex, its important to find a way to stimulate the clitoris. Thats just a technique thing, certain possitions, and hand moitons.
Most important, and you will hear this time and time again, when with a woman, is arousal.
We're not like men, we dont just get hard and are ready to go, we need more time for stimulation, and we need to be aroused. The more turned on a woman is, the more likely she will be to orgasm. The best way to do this is through an intitial slow part of kissing, nipple stimulation, and slowly working up into a faster pace. You cant just rip her clothes off and BAM shes ready to go.
Another thing to keep in mind, is that for a lot of women, the thing they look most foreward to, is in fact not the orgasm *which doesnt mean ALL MEN shouldnt strive for her to acheive one* its after sex, when a man holds a woman that she gets the most amount of pleasure, if you can do both youre going to have one happy woman.
So slow down during sex,ask your partner what feels good, what she likes, what turns her on. You need to know these things about the person youre with in order to be a sucessful lover.
And, dont let any man tell you that theyre some sort of sex god over you, believe me, those men are 100% of the time BAD LOVERS. When you start to think you know everything, you prove you dont. Dont listen to them.
AND, its not her fault shes not cumming, comfort may be one thing, but be very wary of advice from men or women that think a woman is the only reason a woman doesnt ***.
Also, look at the bottom link, look at yoni massage, i suggest you learn it and try it out, it will make ANY woman come if done correctly.
Good luck!
2006-10-28 02:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There could be lots of reasons why she can't have an O during intercourse. And it very well could be her. There could even be a medical reason why she can't have an O then.
Have you tried increasing foreplay? Try just touching her all over with a feather. Try gently running your hands all over her body. Watch her face as you do this. If you find a really sensitive spot spend extra time there. Try running your tongue over the sensitive spot.
Go together to an adult toy store and find a new toy that you both think you would be willing to have in the bedroom. IT is not an insult to you or your manhood. IT is an AIDE not a replacement of you. ( I wish guys would understand that) It can be an enjoyable way to increase her pleasure.
Believe it or not try slipping a adult movie into the tv. Some women really do response to visual stimuli. Make sure it would something she would enjoy as well as yourself.
Try reading to her from an adult story. Some women respond to auditory stimuli.
Try stimulating her well you know there with your hand or her hand while having intercourse.
Stimulate her well there without having intercourse once in awhile. It may take the pressure off of her.
Stimulate her orally.
Roll play.
Some women have an O from the c**t and some respond to the G-***t.
Take your time and learn other ways to help her achieve an O. She will thank you for it.
She is a lucky gal to have a guy like you who wants to make sure she has much as enjoyment as you do. Good luck
2006-10-28 09:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be you and she's embarrassed. It may be her - one woman I dated I only needed to breath on her neck the right way and she climaxed. A few that I've dated couldn't.
One had severe sexual hangups due to being molested as a child.
One smokes too much pot - and that is one of the side effects.
One had major security issues which made her a bit of a control freak. This prevented her from climaxing, as it is about losing control for a moment.
Those are my personal experiences.
On the other hand, your technique, which works with other women, may freak her out. Or you may just be terrible in bed. You'll never know until you build up a bit of experience with women.
2006-10-28 09:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Michael F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is hard for some woman such as my self to have an O. It took me till the early part of my 20's for my first O. I have learned over the years in order to give her an "O" u have to first get her mine totally concentrated on u. We as woman get so wounded up in our troubles, stress, problems, and daily events that sometimes it just interferes in our sexual pleasure. Get her mind totally focused on your intimacy. Try Massages, and romantic bath tub rubdowns, Sometimes we need that time to wind down and these are a couple of things that helps. Massage the temple of her head softly because that is where alot of our stress and pressure builds up at. Don't make it about on O make it about her. Ask her what she wants, likes and needs from u. Show her u are attentive and you want to know what ever she needs you to do you are willing just ask. Soothe her mind spiritually and mentally such as just holding her letting her know everything is going to be okay. Hold her till you both fall asleep with soft music no pressure in sex just love, the intimacy, the friendship. We are mental creatures. If we are not satisfied mentally then we can not be satified physically. That is how it is. If you love her the way you say you do and if she love u then everything will fall in place. chill on the physical part and work on the mental part of your relationship. You will see what important role it plays in any marriage or relationship. Take Care
2006-10-28 09:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to figure out what it takes and then share the information with you. Men are not knowing of all, this comes from knowing your partner and communication. And she needs to know her body in order to tell you. So, no it really isn't you at all. And she is telling you the truth as far as the O it is difficult for some women because they do not know their own bodies, this is considered taboo to some women. Should not be however it is. And men should not have so much pressure on them, they are male not female. Most men are not afraid to tell a women what it takes and women should not be so intimidated to tell the man they are with what is necessary. Good luck and God bless. I would say experiment and find out.
2006-10-28 09:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult for some women to have an orgasm through intercouse. The main thing is to relax when having sex and for both of you to not be so concerned with her having one. If both of you are feeling stressed about her having an orgasm it will not come. Spend more time on forplay. If your girlfriend can achive orgasm through foreplay then that is a good start. Try toys and experiment with different positions. Do so reading online or by a sex book for help with different positions or techniques.
2006-10-28 09:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women have trouble having an O. If I were you I wouldn't worry so much about her having an O. Some women are ok without one. The more you push for one the harder it will be on both of you. I would just give all of yourself and she will be pleased. I have read alot of books on this subject. If she is telling you it is her than more than likely it is her. Just relax about it and maybe when know one is worried about it, it may just come naturally.
2006-10-28 09:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by Julie J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bravo to a man that cares about his gf sexual gratification....
She might need alot more time than you.
Have her show you what makes her feel good..... if she is too shy then......let her be on top and control the situation.....
Give her a sensual massage with oils first, have a candle lit room, and let her pleasure in simple touch, do not hurry this process... it will ruin it....
Sometimes it is all about soft touch and not rubbing, or probing in places.... do not give yourself to her until she is grabbing and moaning for you....
Some people have too much going on in their heads to relax, or have had a bad sexual experience, that leaves them uptight.... Don't give up... be patient.....
2006-10-28 09:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
an O? do u mean orgasim bro or her moaning? well if it's an orgasm you can try different styles, oral for example. changing the mood of the scenery to make it sexier or more romantic or something can make her more sexually active and get an orgasm faster. doubt you'll resrt to this but you can get a 3-some with another guy to help with her, but i wouldn't like that 1. some kinds of drugs can help you last longer and please her better like ecstacy, if it's legal, not even sure. having 'characters' in the bedroom to mayb play a scene, iunno high school kids? talk dirty and kinky in the sack. just pick 1 or a combination of a few and giv them a try, all i got.
2006-10-28 09:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by flaming_ichigo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very few women have an O during intercourse. They have it before of after allot. You need to learn two phrases. Foreplay and afterglow!
2006-10-28 09:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋