Now both my step-mom and my wife are mad. I wasn't asked if dogs were OK in the first place. Wife won't talk to me and says her feelings for me have changed. Be brutally honest. Should I tell them to "Get over it" and bide my time until they calm down or be diplomatic and not get defensive? I think I got the message across that, as man of this house, I am to have the say so about visitors pets, etc. That's how I feel.
2006-10-28 02:04:50 · 8 answers · asked by CAPTDerek 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok the score is 2 to 1 and it is your turn up at bat. You can still win the game. First, if your step mom is single or widowed, her Yorkies are probably her companionship and leaving them behind is the equivalence of leaving her children behind. As far as being the man of the household you have a shared opinion about what goes on in the house...not the only opinion.Since your step mom is already there, perhaps you should sit down with both your step mom and wife and let them know how you feel and work out a compromise for future visits. Take a few minutes and think about what is going on and if it is really worth all of the confusion in your home. Be the "man" and go out and buy some dog treats. Your wife is going to see you as a person who can "roll with the punches"
2006-10-28 02:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so you're the man of the house. Now take a deep breathe. Is this going to really be important next week? Next Year? Probably not. So let it go for now. But you and your wife should have some compromise on this issue. Talk when things have calmed down. As for your step-mom, she needs to understand that the house doesn't just belong to your wife, you live there too and she should respect that. I think all you're really looking for is to have a say about what goes on in your home too. Right? That's fair. Your wife should have spoken to you about this arrangement beforehand. But again, just wait til things have calmed down.
2006-10-28 02:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The man of the house" aside, I would say that the step-mom should have informed you both that the animals would be there and ask if it were alright. Tell them both, the next time she comes over, she has to kennel the dogs. If your wife's feelings have changed over this, it's not because of the dogs. That's a whole other ballgame. But I would caution you to drop the "macho" crap if you want the women to listen to you. It's not attractive in a modern mans character. Godloveya.
2006-10-28 02:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have the say around the house, not just you. But she is wrong about bringing the yorkies and dumping them. Tell her to ask next time
2006-10-28 02:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by jepa8196 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your step mom take he dogs everywhere she goes if so she probably expected to to realise she would be bringin them if not you have a right to be anry not because you are the man of the house but that you weren't asked you and your wife neither have the final say as you are married you make decisions as a couple so try talking to her say you felt insulted that no one asked your opinion and that you are sorry good luck
2006-10-28 02:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your step-mom is the rude one. Not you. It is very tacky for someone to bring a pet to stay at someone else's house. Don't understand where your wife is coming from though. She should definately support you and your decision.
2006-10-28 02:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will get over it. I don't blame you, I would not want to put up with a bunch of dogs either. Especially if I did not have any to begin with.
2006-10-28 02:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by benndeb8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋