here is the deal my partner left we have 3 kids i have the kids and there doing great its just i still love him and want him he says its over how the hell do i get over him
2006-10-28 02:03:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you cannot stop loving him. its there for all time.. amybe it would just go in a lower levell someday..
ur kids are the fruits of your love fo each other!... so that makes you forever significant to each other..
no matter how he denies it..
its just that things are different now, so to make life simpler, just go to the process of accepting it.
and ul never know if he'll come back.. the thing is, dont put too much energy on dwelling about it.. be more productive, and improve for the sake of your children's future.
and always remember that, all things happen for a reason.
and there'll always be a better way ahead for both of you.
=)
2006-10-28 02:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by MARIA JANICE 31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my wife left me I asked the same question. My answer today is: You don't stop loving them, but you let go, give them up and you move on.
You are NOT both the Mom & Dad, you are the Mom, but Mom is more than enough.
My hurt still goes on three years after my breakup, but I have gone eight to ten months without a single bad day. At first I went weeks without one good day. That was the time I was asking all the questions like you. Being their for my kids, fulfilling my kids needs helps allot.
When dealing with your ex put your kids needs first, yours seconds, and let your ex take care of his own needs. When dealing with your kids do what is best for them. Most times that is saying NO. When I was feeling real bad I did stupid. I always said YES. You don’t want your kids up late eating ice cream for dinner.
Today I say to others that I love my ex, but I will never get back with her. When we married we married for life, when we devoiced we devoiced for life.
So I am not over my ex. I am not trying to get over my ex. I am trying to do what is best for me and my kids.
2006-10-28 03:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son's dad left when I was 2 months pregnant. i don't think you will ever stop loving him in some way. With time, you may not be in love with him but if you shared a past, and have 3 kids, then there will always be love there.
2006-10-28 02:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by mizzgov_08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women never really get over their baby fathers, but some do.
I know situations like that can be hard especially when you have the children... a constant reminder of your relationship with their father. But it's time to move on to the next chapter in your life!
A good way to not think about it is to keep yourself occupied, keep busy, have friends over, continuous activities with your children...keep your schedule FULL!
Best way to get over him, is to start realizing your worth, and to realize that you deserve better and to live a little. Live freely, be independent, meet new people, be adventurous, try new things, travel, challenge yourself as a mother, let your children be the source of your strength... the skys the limit when you get a fresh start!
Best of luck!
2006-10-28 02:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by lady from the other day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You focus on the time you spend with your kids.
You get into clubs, reading. walking. hiking and get out there.
You meet new people and get on with your life.
There are so many more experiences for you to have.
You trade off with the neighbors babysitting each others kids, so you can go out for an evening..
Take this as a chance to get on the band wagon and take time for some personal growth, Get involved in life and you will be surprised how wonderful your life will be,....
It is there for the taking...
Put away the Kleenex, dry your eyes and get on with it...
2006-10-28 02:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain of losing his love for you will fade and maybe you'll find out you were in love with the thought of him and not the actual person he is. Your children will always be a part of the two of you that can never be changed. Raise the children with all of your love and someday you'll find a person who will love you like you want. Don't let your broken heart reflect how you feel for your children.
2006-10-28 02:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he starts paying child support he will become nasty and it will be easy.why would you love someone who could walk out on you and your kids?you deserve better and so do the kids..if he left he probably has someone else and has been cheating with her..a man wont leave the mother of his kids knowing he has to pay child support unless he has fallen in love with someone else and no longer cares what he will have to pay as long as he can be with the woman he loves..get over it and find a man who will love you and your kids.dont sacrifice your future by holding onto the past.good luck .i promise it will get better.
2006-10-28 02:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to do is this. Right click on the left side of your brain to bring up the file menu. Then scrole to the emotion section, clicking on love (non sexual). change system settings to default and accept these changes. You may need to reboot for the updates to take place. This should fix the problem. If not, just eat a 4 year old
2016-03-19 00:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make some-one love you. Just be there for the kids, take it one day at a time, and hopefully one day you'll fall in love with some-one who deserves you.
2006-10-28 02:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you`ll be ok,and we always seem to have feelings for those we had kids with but eventually youwill move on,and although you will always feel something fo rhim,be a good mom and you will find new love one day,and still thinkof him
2006-10-28 02:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋