I'm in love with my best friend. He's in love with a girl who's in a long term relationship. She doesn't requite his love for her and he would never make a move because he respects the fact that she'd in a relationship. This doesn't stop her taking advantage of my best friend's affections and treating him terribly. He's desperately unhappy and confides in me. He's recently become wise to this and has told me he is trying to get over her. He knows I'm in love with him. I told him three months ago. He doesn't return my feeling but he wants to remain best friends with me and we continue to spend loads of time together- going to the theatre, to the park, to museums... I dote on him. So what I want to know is; should I wait for him? Is it worth it? Do people change their feelings? Do you think he'll ever notice me? We're so similar. We're both in love for the first time.(We're neither of us teenagers btw, far from it.) I love him and would do anything for him. I'd wait years if I had to
2006-10-28 01:50:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is probably trying to protect your friendship as these can be damaged or destroyed by stepping over that line. They can also be enhanced by a long friendship first. My wife and I were friends for 8 years before we hooked-up, and she is the best thing that ever happened to me, so if your feelings are that strong, I would say let your heart decide, not your mind.
2006-10-28 02:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by D. Bronco 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is make your feelings known and see what happens from there. He needs to be honest with you, and let you know if you are just wasting your time. That would be horrible for you to just hang in there and wait and he doesn't feel the same way for you. I would have this conversation again and tell him you expect him to be honest. You are both adults and yes the truth may hurt, if he is not having the same feelings, however, you will know and can act accordingly. Do not wait in the winds for him to figure out that this other woman is not the one for him. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-28 08:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with waiting for a little while, but don't completely put your life on hold for him either. He sounds like he needs some time to get over this other chick first, then maybe he will see you in a different light. But if he doesnt, you still have your friendship and there are other fish in the see.
2006-10-28 08:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its better to get a hobby and life without him (not for this intention) but for you and stick to this, stop thinking about it and dreaming. Be practical and realistic with your own life, seriously a lot of people put thier life on hold and when they get the answer, this is not going to happen they don't know how to get off 'hold mode' how are you supposed to turn this off Life is too short to waste anytime if nothing is happening then stopping your own life isn't going to help keep living be healthy mentally and emotionally attach yourself to other than this world and all in it Look for the truth
2006-10-28 08:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by hannah j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then, do whatever he wants you to, enjoy the time you have together and when all is said and done, you'll have the memories of a great friendship, your first love's first love and the ego boost of having gotten what you asked for on your first go-round!!!
2006-10-28 08:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it's possible he may love you some day, it sounds like he's really honest with you when he says that he just wants friendship from you. Keep your friend, but look elsewhere for love.
2006-10-28 08:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gal stop lying to yourself! the man has never and will never love you in the way that you desire him to love you. he will always see you as his friend and in case he decides to date you it will either be as arebound or because he pities you. don't lie to yourself he will never be yours settle for the friendship you have!!!!!!
2006-10-28 09:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by stereo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait. Trust me.
2006-10-28 09:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd give him all the time he needs......but if the one moment when everything is right, u ask him out, if he spends that much time w/u he obviously is comfortable w/u
2006-10-28 08:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by Pretty Boy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's messed up .It sound like your saying your the caboose!
Just move on.
2006-10-28 08:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋