I honestly thought he was my soulmate, despite us being seperated by about 200 miles. I've had relationships that lasted a lot longer than this one, I took his virginity, lived with him a few weeks, tried my best to make things work but he wasn't prepared to make things work across that distance. We still speak but he goes between telling me how much he loves and wants me, to telling me he's moving on. I dream about him most nights, and he's constantly in my mind. Everything reminds me of him, but he's hellbent on living without me. I'd like to stay friends with him but I can't see that working, so I guess I need to move on. Any ideas how to go about it?
2006-10-28 01:16:47 · 15 answers · asked by livingthelie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you may be trying to validate yourself with a broken relationship. I'm sure you have many things about you that make you a great and interesting person. Finding someone who is willing to tell you all about your good qualities may help you move on. ps. that doesn't have to be a lover. it could be friends and family or even yourself. ;) sorry for your loss
2006-10-28 01:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to cut off all ties with your ex. Stop thinking about him so much. This is a great big world we live in find someone else that lives close to you so you can see them on a regular basis. The long distance relationships never work out very long. Keep that in mind.
2006-10-28 08:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that he doesnt live around the corner - I think the further apart you are the better - do you really want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with you?? Dont waste your time on him, he isnt worth it.
Maybe join a club or find a new activity, things like that always preoccupy your mind! Or you could just go out and find someone else - a bit of a rebound type of thing - for the record, reboudn s*x is always so much fun!!
good luck
2006-10-28 08:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,cut all ties.If you dont and you truly love this person then you will always love them.I know it seems harsh but abstain from everything that would intail this person.I know because I live it everyday and have so for two years now.I was married for 15yrs and my ex and I got a divorce over two years ago.The problem is I have to still communicate with her because of our children.I will love her im sure till at least my boys are grown and I dont have to communicate with her anymore.I urge you to seriously cut the cord if you want to move on.True love not just words is something hard to go on from.I wish you the best and many happy years.
2006-10-28 08:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by porkchophaynes0206 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to the 'start dating other guys'
i went through EXACTLY the same thing a few months ago. and i'm back with him now. i worked at it. i cried every night. i have never felt so down in my life.
if you want him back (this is what i did)..
dont act like you're crying over him. but dont act as if you're over him. drop hints. but dont act desperate for him. exactly what i did. and im happy!!
i wish you all the luck. and im actually glad that i know someone that has/is going through what i did. beleive it or not... (and i didnt) it gets soo much easier. just bare it a couple of weeks. you'll be great! x
2006-10-28 08:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just live life the way you would if he wasn't there. I think it's always hard letting someone go that you were in love with. Don't go into an emotional slump. Just enjojy life and when you talk to him let him know that you are moving on.
2006-10-28 08:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep yourself occupied.
take a holiday, or get invoved in a class like yoga or cookery.
you can also talk to your friends about it, its not good to keep things to yourself, you'll end up feeling worse than you are already feeling.
excercise regularly, feel healthy! eat more fruits and dont ever think negative!
hope that helps :)
2006-10-28 08:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by real.instinct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really takes time. Occupy yourself with other activities: enrol in a new course (which requires exams), go out with your friends, attend activities in your church (temple, mosque, depending on your religion), etc.
All the best!
2006-10-28 08:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by gchezmoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear
If your paths are ment to cross,then they will
Enjoy life ,for he must be doing the exact same thing.
2006-10-28 08:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by irshad_dnc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is not worth you. do things that are time consuming and which will take your mind off him. and remember there is plenty of fish in the water .
2006-10-28 09:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by angel_from_hell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋