Everytime we argue he always slates me regarding my appearance etc!!! I am not being big headed but I have always been regarded as attractive by the opposite sex - yet he always says I am ugly and that he could do a lot better than me and it is so hurtful!
2006-10-28 01:15:15 · 42 answers · asked by Scots lass 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One word - insecurity. He is insecure and needs to "cut you down" to feel better about himself... and even secretly might fear losing you so choses to work on your own insecurities. Not healthy at all.
2006-10-28 01:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by Norm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if he can do better than you than why doesn't he??
Its because he knows your the best he can possibly get otherwise he would have walked a long time ago or just not bother to be with you to start with.
His just trying to make you feel bad so that if you two did break up he would have lowered yourself esteem so much that you feel to bad to go with anyone else, its a sort of 'if he cant have you then no one else will,mechanism.
And also because it makes him feel better to know that your hurting by saying horrible things and someone like that isn't worth knowing!!
2006-10-28 01:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Beautiful - 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he feels intimidated by you and is not very self assured, so he trys to belittle you and make you feel bad so he will feel better.
Sounds like he has no self confidence and is really afraid of losing you to someone else because you are so attractive. You could try to build his self confidence by letting him know that he is the only one and you think he is good looking but if he continues to act ugly toward you, I would consider finding someone else. His ugliness could eventually turn to physical abuse and you certainly don't need that. He is already being mentally abusive. Good luck to you in the future.
2006-10-28 01:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by Libragal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When guys say those things to us it usually means that's how they feel about themselves. They would never admitt it though. My Boyfriend just left me 2 days ago and blamed that my child was the fault ( he knew her for 6 years ). I know it is not true because I called him one night at work and he was with a female instead. You see guys, I can't even call most men, need to feel inferior. They have instilled in them "THE MAN COMPLEX", usually it happens at birth. I'd say leave him and KNOW that you are beautiful. I've decided to stay single and have a whole lotta fun. My heart has band aids it's all good :)
2006-10-28 01:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by artist_eye1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can you put up with him??? If he can do better leave him and just see!
He says ur not pretty - is he good-looking? If he's not, then he may be jealous that ur so lucky with finding a partner and he cant.
But just remember, if he hurts u now and he's just a BOYFRIEND (when u can easily leave him in a few words), then imagine what he'd say if u were married??
Never date a guy who doesn't respect u and ur feelings.
2006-10-28 01:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by keti2609 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This man is insecure and has no confidence in himself. The only he can get rid of his hangups is to bully you by saying you are ugly or slutty or that your appearance is awful. If this is the case ask yourself why is he still staying with you. You will have to stand up to him and tell him in no uncertain manner what you think of him and send him on his sad road to ruin.
2006-10-28 01:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys do this so that when you argue you dont go out and try to show him you can get someone else. they feel that if they make you feel ugly then they can say what they want and treat you how they want because you wont leave him. after a while of your bf saying bad things to you, you subconsciously start to believe them. talk to him and tell him how you feel and how it hurts you, if you really want to be with him. if he doesn't stop this behavior then its obvious that the relationship isn't worth it and you should get out
2006-10-28 01:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by .......... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a control freak.....thinks by hurting you with untrue insults he has a power over you.....don't let him have this leavel of power. It does obviously bother you or you would not be writing on here. I think there are many men out there who would treat you with the respect you deserve........leve the bully boy and find better.
2006-10-28 01:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well tell him to go ahead and do better the last person that told me that i went and go someone else and that person is my hubby today and i am very happy so it might be good if you let him know how you feel about it and if it don't change get out no person that loves you tell you such hurtful thing especially in that way darling.Good luck
2006-10-28 02:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's trying reverse psychology on you.HE is insecure and trying to make you feel less about yourself because he knows the opposite is true. YOU can have anyone you want and you're beautiful.
Either way if he's acting like that dump the arsehole. You're beautiful and you're priceless girl! dont you forget it!
2006-10-28 01:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by Chey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why Honey, do you want to be around this scab? This is just a prelude to bigger things to came, maybe hitting you. Why would you put yourself in this position? run, don't walk. Get out of this situation right now. Good Luck.
2006-10-28 01:19:09 · answer #11 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋