how come in the beginning of the relationship , guys are nice and they bathe and brush thier teeth and wear cologne and romance you and are cuddly and affectionate and they caress you and after a while little by little that all stops...and then they wonder why we lose interest ?
2006-10-28 00:49:15 · 19 answers · asked by jennie s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know. It beats me. I've been asking that question for a while myself. I guess once they've got you in their clutches, there's no need to wow you anymore. maybe we should just line them up and give them all a 2 year contract and send them on their way. lol
2006-10-28 00:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by NO delusions 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my guy has changed some too! they change because they know that they do not have to impress you anymore like in the first 3 months of the relationship in which they were trying hard to impress!after the 4 month period guys stop acting so lovey dovey and more laid back because they have won you over and so forth!my guy still wears cologne daily, and takes good care of himself as he once did when i met him yet he is more relaxed around me since he knows that he does not have to impress me and the reason he dresses as he did -same style or familiar-as well as wears cologne is because i compliment him on how good the polo looks or how good the cologne smells! and we even play a game of a"guess that cologne" -the cologne that he is weaing on whatever day i see hin-which makes him happy to see that i know his colognes and that everything is not all about me!compliment him more and make him feel more special and do something nice for him for a change like cook a nice dinner. but my guy still does the same things that we once did like going out, cuddling and acting goofy because that is who we are and from the beginning what you saw with me and my bf is what you got!
2006-10-28 01:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I don't know about stopping bathing, but many of us "guys" are natural "hunters". We get a rush from that new enfatuation feeling of a new girl liking us. We put on our very best personality to make you think that we are great. Then one of 3 things happens...
1 - We really did like you but realized that you're not as great as we thought.. so we stop trying so hard.
2 - We're full of crap and really didn't care about you in the first place and are looking for that "new feeling again with someone new.
3- We both connect and live happily ever after.
2006-10-28 00:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Norm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you've got answers from girls. This is the GUY's point of view. Let me tell you the bad news first. Typical guys will feel that 'getting the girl' is a fun process and so they go all out to get the girl. They'd do what girls thinks is romantic and once they won her heart, they'll feel that they had 'achieve something' Anyway, this is what my friends feel. But sooner or later, every guys would stop doing all romantic things ... It's not because they stop loving you (ok, i admit some may stop loving you ..), but it's because they already won the girl's heart so they don't feel a need to 'impress' the girl. Don't worry so much if your guy stopped doing those things to you. As long as he still likes you (and only you!), you don't have to worry. Gee, girls are so hard to impress. C'mon, you can't possibly ask us guys to give you flowers everytime!
2006-10-28 01:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the beginning, rejection is a very real possibility. Once a man feels like he's got you, he doesn't have to do all that stuff anymore. If you want to keep the romance alive, you need to bust him on little slip-ups, instead of waiting for the big ones. It's kind of like training a dog.
2006-10-28 00:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, they do. it extremely is common, and has been for some years. The Gauls, for occasion, began the Olympics via working dollar bare. at school and in artwork places the place showering became inspired, I have been given out of my outfits, into the bathe and do what I meant to do; get sparkling. Afterwards, I set a speed checklist for drying off and putting on sparkling outfits. I wasn't staying around to talk. wanting the modern-day physique piercing craze, the probability of seeing something you have no longer previously is slender to none. D
2016-11-26 00:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The newness has worn off, the cat has caught the mouse so to speak. For some guys it is the thrill of the chase and they don't need to chase anymore.
It sucks I know, I have been there. You have to let them know when they are slipping that you still need that romance and everything that goes with it. If he loves you and wants it to work he will remember to woo you even if he has won you.
2006-10-28 00:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by kimnwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe this or not male & female both do this when they get comfortable in a relationship. What you can do is try to go buy that colonge you like him to wear &let him know how sexy he is when he is all smelling good . You kind of encourage the old him without nagging & telling him what to do. Think of this I bet you yourself has changed just as well.
2006-10-28 00:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
90 percent of people put on this fake mask when they meet someone. why? because they are pretending to be someone they aren't or they are trying to get the other person to like them on false pretenses and then they wonder why the person they met isn't the person they met.
It's not that guys/people change when they meet someone...they just go back to being their normal selves
If they would just be themselves in the beginning they would find out that that is the real way to meet the man/woman of there dreams
2006-10-28 00:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Teena R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They get bored after sometime with the same girl and will then start to look for another girl for something new and refreshing. The cycle repeats.
2006-10-28 00:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by gchezmoi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋