I live with my b/f of almost 1 yr and I recently found out I'm pregnant. He's always been a very jealous and possessive person- if he so much as suspects that I looked at another guy he gets furious. For the past 3 months he's been going into chat rooms and IMing people. At 1st I didn't think anything of it, but then they started calling him on his cell and IM'ing him on a regular basis. A month ago he promised not to do it anymore, but insisted it wasn't cheating. He started writing a "diary" on MY laptop; if I even approached him he would slam it shut and yell about needing "Privacy". When asked about the women still calling and IMing, he claimed that they were just "Psychos" and didn't know why they were still calling him. 2 days ago I discovered that his "diary" was all a lie and he's been in chat rooms and IM's the entire time. He "Promised" not to do it again, but this morning I caught him again. He says I lied about quitting smoking while pregnant so he can go in chat rooms...
2006-10-28 00:42:37 · 14 answers · asked by HR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are dealing with a jerk and your best bet is to get away from him.
He's jealous, insecure, a liar and has no concept of a committed relationship.
You will be in a worse situation with a baby added in. Don't think you will be able to change him, you won't.
Rethink your situation and figure out what would be best FOR YOU. He obviously doesn't care.
2006-10-28 00:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by rustybones 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you created a new name every time you ask this question out of fear of him? Ive seen this exact question like 4 times in the past few days. I will give you the same answer.. Leave him
People usually become insecure and paranoid their partners are cheating because they cheat themselves.. Why are you even asking? You will never leave him, and by the time you finally decide to, it will be many years from now, and everyone will just say, i told you so. Maybe leaving this guy is what will get him to be a good person and a father to his kid. The guy sounds like a deadbeat, and he should be kissing your *** on his hands and knees. Do you really want this guy to be the father of your child, and constantly be in your life? He sounds like a d¡ck. I bet he's the type that demands privacy and never gives it to you. He obviously isn't ready for this and needs a swift kick in the ***. If you live in Texas i will gladly come over and do it for you.
2006-10-28 00:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will only quit this behavior when he is ready. Honestly, hon, I just don't feel he is ready for a "steady" relationship or commitment. Evidently, he needs other girls' attention, and enjoys this. I think he will probably continue this; I don't feel you will be able to get him to stop this, at least for a long time. He will only quit this when he is ready. If you truly care for him enough that you would rather put up with this until he tires of this, it is your decision. But I feel it will drive you crazy and cause the two of you continued problems. I honestly feel it is in your best interest if you can be strong and move on.
I had been divorced for 16 years, so I have lots of experience at this type of thing.
Good luck!
2006-10-28 00:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by peekie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you lie about quitting smoking? Just wondering. Well, I'm not exactly sure, but from the sound of it, it doesn't seem like your situation is very stable. I think you should talk to him about this seriously, because this is not only your relationship, it's your unborn child too. If you can live with this, more power to you. If you can't (and many of us fall into that category) then you should break it off with him before your pregnancy gets further along (when you get too far along, you can get emotional). If you say you can deal with it, but inside it really bugs you, it will only end up being worse later on, so be honest with yourself and him too. You're in my thoughts and prayers...all the best to you and your little one.
2006-10-28 00:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a mess, sweetie and really screwed up to the max. This guy is not going to change because he is simply not into you and your situation. If I were you, I would plan for my future as a single mom or give the baby up for adoption so this little person can have a chance at a loving home. You need therapy and you need to leave the situation. If you stay, stop whining and complaining....you are choosing this lifestyle and the consequences that go along with it..
2006-10-28 00:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am direct.You are a fool to have got pregnant by this guy. He is no good never will be good so leave him while you can. You made a poor choice of living with him and now you suffer. This suffering will not be as great if you walk away from this guy. Once he is in the lying habit you can not change him no matter how hard you try
2006-10-28 00:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he's cheating on you even If he hasn't actually been with someone else yet. As for the rest:)..Well,did you lie to him? and why do either of you feel the need to lie to the other? With a child on the way you should consider getting professional help as a couple or ending your relationship before things get so bad your baby suffers.
2006-10-28 00:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had to say you were pregnant didnt you. Darn! This is why me and my ex broke up. He was a lonely sick needy boy and was always online looking for some type of gratification from strangers. He even told girls he loved them, and told them he wanted to marry them, all while lying to me. At first, I didnt think anything of it, until it caused issues. LEAVE him. Gross. Its so nasty when a man can just break down like that and meet chicks online all the while you are preagnant with his child? Hell no. Let him know how much of a loser he is and leave his ***. No sane women wants a guy like that.
2006-10-28 00:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Beauty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i really feel for u coz my man lies about porn and it really gets me down. i feel betrayed, and ugly. some of those women are so gorgeous and i can never compare. i sort of understand but then im not pregnant. i think itl probably get worse for you as your pregnancy grows. it sounds like he doesnt really want all the commitment attached to being a parent and hez looking for an escape. im so sorry for u both and especially for u and your precious unborn baby, go speak to a councillor , together if hel go. good luck.
2006-10-28 00:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by genieejj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You baby's future father is a lying sack of manure. If women are calling him, he had to have gave them the phone number. Why not use a girlfriend's computer and IM him (using a false name) and see what he is talking about? If you don't like the conversation drop his cheating butt.
2006-10-28 00:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋