My mom and dad married for 26 years now have me (23 year old young lady) and a son whose 25. I always try to call truce but the war doesnt end. Mom doesnt like dads scruffy and filthyness since shes a (microscopic) neat freak and also coz his family is the most money robbing selfish out of this world family. To the extent that they almost killed his brother. And dad doesnt like mom becoz she is a neat freak and thinks shes the wisest and has rules and principles for everything. Apart from this she is very stubborn and also very self pittyful.
My mom has a sofisticated and well educated family and to OTHERS she is very friendly. She hates all of us so sometimes she isnt so friendly. Dad is mostly aloof of everyones problems.
Mom hates this the most.
My bro doesnt care ...or atleast it merely seems so. I on the other hand am the only one to take all the burdon to myself and get all upset and very very sad
2006-10-28 00:25:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I love em both ...
dad doent see that mom tries to forgive most of his aloofness and filthyness and does most of the work around the house and him.
Mom doesnt see that dad earns a very very handsome living for her and her family.
Who do u think needs to be corrected??
How can I correct them??
2006-10-28 00:27:29 · update #1
you cannot make two people get along, talk to both of them seperately and tell them how much this hurts you, ask if they can give more effort for the family, if this does not work( it is very likely that it will not) than do not blow it so out of proportion, go on having good relationships with both of them, love them both and most importantly set an example of love, patience, understanding, respect and a lack of judgement, (all characteristics they probably lack towards each other) if you can get them to realize that a 23 year old is acting on a more mature level than themselves, maybe they'll come around. Good luck!
2006-10-28 02:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by dannydolphin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of your parents behavior contradict each other.However, there is always a reason why your mom is very stubborn and self pitiful. Your mom is already very sick and tired of your dad filthy attitude which he failed to change after marrying your mom for the past 26 yrs. She expected understanding and corporation from the whole family to get things clean and tidy. However. things does not work her way. so, it is only U, a young lovely lady, that could change the whole situation. Talk to your dad pertaining to hygiene and health. When he littered around, get it clean spontaneously. Never mind in his present. This is to signal to him that everybody in the house does not like his filthy habit. Make him realized how much inconvenience he had caused to other people when he littered. Also talk to your mom, not to be too harsh with your dad. As a master of the house, he deserve the respect from all the family members. Anybody confront him, he will consider as provocation to his dignity and pride.
2006-10-28 02:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by atbt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't anything you can do to fix this problem because the problem doesn't belong to you. you need to know you are not alone and yes it dos sound crazy and unstable.the way that you express yourself is great, you painted a very clear picture of how ****** up your life has become. as a kid we are given no choices, we just get dragged along with the choices that the adults in our life make. do you feel loved and cared for by your parents,do you think any of the choices either of them made had your best interest at heart? is there anyway you can distance yourself from both of them? it is your rite to be angry at your parents and why wouldn't you be.think about looking for a good councilor, you need to keep talking to fully understand the emotional damage that has been done to you. the anger and the hate is ****** and it hangs around and it harbors evil **** and its a waste of energy and life. with beter understanding opens a path to acceptance and this is the path you need to find. your parents may not be able to change and offer themselves or you a better life but you are and you have just taken a step forward in rite direction.good luck darling
2016-05-22 02:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 23 years old you should know that you need to MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS, sweetie! You had better learn that you cannot "fix" other people and especially not their relationships. You are choosing to be upset and co-dependent so stop whining and complaining. If you are still living at home, you need to move out and pay attention to your own life. How your parents choose to live is their business. Again, Back Off and leave their relationship alone......it does not matter that they are your parents. I am sure that you would not want them trying to control your relationship. Go read the book "Co-Dependent No More" by Melodie Beattie.
2006-10-28 00:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I empathise with you! My parents seem to hate each other, mostly cos my dad is a cheating b####### but I'm sure if neither of them have betrayed each other they'll work it ou for themselves! They probably just need some time alone!
In the mean time, just focus on the fact that this is out of your hands and only they are to blame for there behaviour, that's what I do!
2006-10-28 00:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just loved timothy ... answer, hope is the key, u mite tell them good things bout each other, u know they have taken each other for granted, i belive each relationship needs to b nourished, every relationship is like a plant, if u dont water it, the relationship will die, we forget this in our daily routinue of following our principles, try telling them this, all the best
2006-10-28 00:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by hmmm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married 61 years, and I think they hated one another for at least 26 years! Now they love one another again.
There is hope, and you have to live your own life now. Just hope for the best!
2006-10-28 00:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it , move if you stay in the house, you cannot control others but you can control how you deal with the situation. Let go and let God. Otherwise you will worry yourself sick. Good Luck
2006-10-28 00:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is their battle, not yours. I assume you don't live at their home but if you still do, you need to move out. Don't take sides. Love them both, warts and all. And don't get involved in their disagreements.
2006-10-28 02:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave home and start your own life! Let your parents fight all by them selves! If they have been fighting this long then they must like it!
2006-10-28 00:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋