im taking my son out of school?

Question

Im upset because my son is in kindergarten and is getting beat up really bad by other kindergarten kids. I never thought kids that young could be so mean. He has bruises and scratches on his arms legs and stomach area. My ex and I decided to take him out and home school him until we can put him in 4 th grade then send him into 4th grade. Is this a good idea for us to take him out?

we have talked to the teacher and nothing is changing

Im worried about communication with other children too but he does go to sunday school and has lots of friends there

Answer 1

go to the school and shove the other kids and kick them around to show them whos boss

Answer 2

Unfortunately, this type of early school violence is more common that most people are aware of. And of course, as a loving parent, your first instinct to to "protect" your son... as it should be. My guess is that you've already spoken with teachers and principals and receive only "lip-service", yet the problem persists?

However, my opinion is that removing him from school, until the 4th grade, could be more harmful than his physical injuries. The very basic socialization skills that we develope are from the early years of elementary school. And although you may very well teach him his ABCs and 123s, you will never be able to give him back all that he misses, wtih class projects, field trips, recess even. Think back to that "gold painted macaroni Xmas ornament" you made for your parents or a time when maybe you learn to sing "You're a grand ole flag" for parents night. Or passing Valentine cards each February, or bringing in cup-cakes on your birthday.

And what if... in 4 years, he is even less capable of standing up to the bullies because he hasn't been around schoolmate like the rest of his peers? Take him out agin until puberty and hope he's alarge muscular athlete before he returns for 10th grade?

My advice.... give it more time, and enroll him in some confidence-building activity(s) after school. Kiddie soccer, karate, or a class at the YMCA even. You'll see that he will grow capable of managing bad things and bad people rather than avoiding them.

Humbly,
Just Norm

Answer 3

If you can teach a kid that young good luck. Kindergarten - 4th grade is where they learn to read, write and learn to be around other kids. Yes, kids that young are sometimes mean depending on their upbringing. We have Social Workers to blame for this!!! They come to your home threatening parents who dicipline their kids with a simple spanking. I grew up in the 1970's and kids got good dicipline. You did not get the kinds of kids we have today. The kinds that KNOW a Social Worker will pitty their sorry butt if they report simple dicipline as "child abuse".
Anyway I would go to the school and report the bullies. Do you know the reason he is getting beat up? Is he doing anything to provoke it? Also is he the only one getting beat up or are there others too getting beat up? I would find out the answers to these questions. Also trust in God! He will help you in your time of need.

Answer 4

If you feel you have exhausted all avenues at school, then I support your decision. Make sure of your facts though, a kid that is playing rough, rolls down a hill, or falls out of a tree and rips his jeans will often make up a story that blames others for his condition.

If homeschooling, use resources available to you. For instance in a neighboring town of 6K people here, they have a program by the parks and recreation department that gets all the homeschooling together.... with their parents for physical education in parks and gyms around the area.
Other support groups offer trips to the museum (often a museum will offer free admission a week a year to schools, so these groups gather a bunch of home schools and do the museum together for free).

These things give your child the chance for social interaction, and in some cases more interaction then public school. Also after school sports/dance/arts programs will all allow him to make new friends under the close supervision of a coach or instructor.

Answer 5

Have you consulted the teacher and the principal of the school about the violence? Is there another school in the district your son could attend? Many school districts allow kids to attend other schools within the district with the permission of the principal. See if you can work something out or see if there is a charter school in your area your son could attend. I know you want to protect him but life is hard and if there is a way to work this out think about trying that first. Home school is OK if you are very committed to it but it takes a great deal of time and effort on the parents part and can be quite expensive.

Answer 6

If your kid is being pcked on for some reason this problem may not go away at Grade 4. He may be in the same boat. Not only that he will miss the socialization that the rest of the kids will get up to this point . If you want to keep him as an outsider home school him. Enrol him in karate or some other form of self defense not for the fighting aspect but for the self confidence he will gain. Home schooling breeds outcasts.

Answer 7

If nothing is changing after talking to the teacher, talk to the principal, if he/she doesn't do anything go to the superintindent. If nothing arises out of that and he is still getting bullied, take him to a doctor, take pictures of his bruises etc. and file a lawsuit, and consider talking with your local news station. The school really won't want you to do that, and will more than likely fix the situation. There is absolutly no reason why you should have to take your son out of school, the other children are the ones who need reprimanding. Good Luck

Answer 8

Did you talk to the teacher or principle about this? This isn't supposed to happen! Tell him to tell someone when he gets beat up! If you take him out of kindergarten and put him back in school in 4th grade, he will have no friends until then, and it will be very hard for him to make friends when he returns. If you do this now, you are pretty much ruining your sons social life!

Answer 9

Wow! that's really sad. Have you considered filing a lawsuit? It is supposed to be a safe learning environment, after all. If you've tried talking to the teachers, principle and the director for your districts schools or school board and nothing will get done (especially considering the current rate of violence in schools), I'd call a lawyer.

Taking him out of school and throwing him back in the 4th grade without working to solve this current problem is only going to make things worse for him. That is, unless you move to a different district or put him in a different school.

I'd get him started in some self defense class of whatever kind to build up his confidence and lower his chances of being a target in the future.

Answer 10

There's nothing wrong with homeschooling your child! Homeschooling is a wonderful idea, not just because your son is being bullied. Home schooled children usually turn out way ahead (educationally) than their peers. You said your son still has friends in sunday school and that sounds great. As long as your son gets to interact with other children he should be fine.

Answer 11

Home schooling wont be a good idea.... I am sorry for what is happening to him, You as mom and also dad have to stand up for him, kids are helpless, they need u too be there for them to standup not just take them out of school and be home schooled. Also what one of the other members were saying taking him out and puting him 4 grade after words is not even good cause he loses out on socializing with other children. A meeting with other parents is REQUIRED!!!!