Is there anyone out there for me?

Question

I'm a 20-year-old male. I'm ugly, shy, and skinny. I've never had a girlfriend, ever. I've liked just two girls in my life, both of which I could never get. I'm lonely and at times I feel depressed. I work out at the gym, meet new people, but I'm not the kind they'd want to hang around with. I've asked some "buddies" of mine if they wanted to do something the other day, but they all rejected. I was wondering if there was anyone out there for me? I've sort of accepted the fact that there isn't any. I know I won't find anyone by 30 because I'm very shy, and I don't know how to start a conversation. Sad, yet true.

Answer 1

C'mon! Don't under-estimate yourself. You are still young I beleive that someday you will find someone else although maybe not now. Just don't force to it, I mean stop looking. Continue what you're supposed to do each day and be positive. Someday you will have different kind of jobs and you will meet people or elsewhere. If you think you are too skinny then do something to add extra pounds. Chin up! and ignore those people who rejected you.

Answer 2

These kind of questions is the reason that GameGiver exists. First of all, stop complaining. It takes too much energy. So you're ugly? So what? Seal is pretty beat up but he's with that fine Heidi Klum. What you need to do is start walking around like your sh-- don't stank. Get a little arrogance about yourself. Go get some fly clothes and a fresh haircut. Second, stop being the death of the party. Nobody is going to want to hang around your depressing a-- if you sit around and talk about how much your life sucks. If you think you're the kind of person that they don't want to hang around, chances are you're going to act like the kind of person they don't want to hang around. You say you meet new people but you don't know how to start a conversation. Does that make sense to you? Stop acting like a dweeb and get your game on. Don't you know there's women out there that will forgive that mug of yours because they'll say you have a body? This is what you do. Go to the gym when they're having an aerobics class. Pick you out a cute girl. When she passes you, say "Hey Amy! I haven't seen you in a while!" Of course, her name isn't Amy and she will let you know. That's when you say, "I'm so sorry. You look like this girl I went to school with named Amy. I must say that you are a lot prettier than she was now that you're up close. I'm (your name here). What's your name?" After she tells you, tell her you're sorry again for confusing her with Amy and if there is anyway you can make it up to her. Bam! It's that easy! Just make sure you sound sincere or you're going to sound like a creep. What you really need is some good ol' fashion rejection. I think that's all you're scared of. Once you get some, you'll realize it's not that bad and you can press forward. Every player's been shot down like a German plane but it doesn't stop them. Don't let it stop you. Game has been Given!

Answer 3

Dude, what an effin' negative attitude. You're only ugly if you think you're ugly, if you're more confident then girls will find you attractive, looks don't matter when it comes to a relationship. Be confident, funny, talk with people online it might help you get over your shyness, but you have to go out wherever and meet new people, make them know you're there, be the life of the party. Work out, get a tan (does wonders), get some cool clothes, always smile and just try and be fun. You have to get out of this mood that you're in. Come on, what you waiting for ? Go out and do those things and then go wherever and meet that special someone. ;-) Best of luck !

Answer 4

You say you've liked two girls in your entire life. I could probably go out tonight, and meet several that I would like, which isn't to say that I would necessarily get a date with one of them. What you're doing is like filling out two job applications, and wondering why you're unemployed.

I have a suspicion that, when you do approach people, you scare them off, by demanding too much of them, too soon.

If I approach a woman, and ask her a question about an unusual article of clothing, she might be pleased to answer my question. Maybe something more will develop, and maybe not.

If we are to end up as lovers, she will first have to wonder if I might be single. Just like that, take it one step at a time. If I make it clear, from our first contact, that I'm looking at her as a possible marriage prospect, all that's going to do is scare her off.

Be quick to approach people, but look for small payoffs when you do. Trust that the payoffs will get bigger over time.

Answer 5

shy ness is reaction by humans when they think there is something lacking in them

so first remove fromm ur mind that u r not that good

yes u r whatever may be physics
from ur writing it seems that inspite of others rejection u dont want to harm to others

thats a great quality

u surely have such good qualities in u try to find out them and feel good about that this will increase ur confidense and u will be able to present ur self best infront of other based on them without shyness

surely there is some one waiting for u
and it will be much graet thing bcz she will love ur qualities so wil do it for life long bcz it will be there with u

unlike health, wealth, beauty

chears

hope u will benifited

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Answer 6

Some one will think your beautiful and you will fall inlove.

There's someone for everyone, but while your waiting, practice your communication skills. Meet new friends. Join a intrest group, so that you will have something in common with the people around you. You can sit and wait for it to come to you, you have to go out and get it.

Answer 7

hey i hear ya but hang in there time will pass and some one will show up

Answer 8

Yes God your creator loves you so much