We start getting closer & he pulls back from me. We didn't move fast at all but he says he wants to take things even slower?! But heres the deal he's met all my friends & family and I have yet to meet anyone he's associated with, he makes comments about when i meet them but has yet to offer for me to. He is sooo great sometimes, he was last weekend, & then its like something snaps. All week he's acted funny, not returning calls when he says he's going to & so I told him I couldn't keep doing this, I was crazy about him & wanted to date him but it was hurting me going back & forth like that. He says he's scared of getting hurt or hurting me he hasn't done the relationship thing in a long time & had no intentions of feeling the way he has about me and that I just want more than he's willing to give! I haven't heard from him since I broke it off (2 days) but he acts really wild about me & then this happens? Whats going on with him, I'm good with this stuff but he's totally confused me??
2006-10-27 23:03:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh need to mention....
He's 30, I know his mom and his friends know about me because I've talked on phone with some of the friends and his mom asked when she could meet me and he just told me he was hurt real bad and didn't see it coming and I scare him
2006-10-27 23:16:30 · update #1
hi
the summary of ur relation suggests one thing......
you assumed that he is the one for u too quickly, u told every friend, and family.....u built a world for both of u before he cud even visualise it.......understandable that u were excited, so is evrryone, but when a girl comes on too much...the guy just looses his the interest in the girl as she wud then be too easy.
now, use this plan.....just call him and say sorry that its not working well, and tell him that he is free to go.
he will think, what wa his fault when u have the guttts to apologize when he was the one not contributing tothe relationship.......
give him a week without u....he will take a step closer towards u......
ignore the arrogant.......and they will realise!!!
all the best
love
rg
2006-10-27 23:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by rg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like one of two things to me. Maybe he was seeing you and didn't tell anyone else about it. That would explain why you never met anyone and why he acted funny. The other is that maybe he was hurt once in a past relationship and hasn't learned to trust again. Thing is you have to open your heart and trust to love. So maybe he isn't ready. Let him know that you don't want to feel that you are pushing him to do anything. But he will miss a lot in life if he is always looking for someone to hurt him. Keep the lines of communication open. Good luck.
2006-10-27 23:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yourself, particularly the line about how you "want more than he's willing to give." Say that over and over to yourself and hear those words. Everything will become crystal clear. He only wants certain aspects of your relationship with him but not the commitment. If you've never met any of his friends or family that too is a "statement." Stop the madness. Get off of the merry go round and move on.
2006-10-27 23:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this and I do not expect that this is what you want to hear but you need to move on because it is over.There could be several explanations. The most likely one is he just changed his mind about having a relationship with you. It happens, but did you just assume that you two were an item because you slept together? Whatever occurred he has lost interest and please do not fool yourself: any man, however busy he is, will find a few minutes to telephone/text or otherwise contact a girl he is really interested in. He may just be a player, but I wouldn't waste my time pining after him.
2016-05-22 02:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either married, already has a girlfriend or he's been hurt a few times and he's afraid of getting hurt again, guys have the same problems as far as being scared of being hurt as ladys do.
2006-10-27 23:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by money maker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is just not committed to you. Good if you want a very casual relationship but you wont get anymore out of him. If you want a lot more out of someone give him the flick souynds like he has issues anyway
2006-10-27 23:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by Spastikus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is just too confused about what he wants to be in a relationship. He may be one of those people who wants someone only when he thinks he can't have them
2006-10-27 23:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by rompecabezas_sin_resolver 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy definitely has some problems, but you have one of your own. You need to decide whether you want to be his girlfriend, or his therapist. I think you ought to break it off, for now, but leave the door open for later, if he gets his act together.
2006-10-28 02:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is involved with another woman. If he really liked you and wanted to spend time with you, he wouldn't be so standoffish. You say that he's 30 like he is significantly older than you, so find someone your age.
2006-10-27 23:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are confused you just don't want to admit he's not the one for you! Trade this 'drama queen loser" in for a new and improved model!
2006-10-27 23:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋